Wondering if anyone here travels for work or has had extended absences from their kid(s)?
Looks like we're calling in hospice for my Dad who lives out of state. DH and I are trying to figure out how to be in 2 places at once.
My older one does fairly well but my younger one (4) seems to really struggle with me being out of town.
We do skype but often the best time is at bedtime and that's almost always a mistake ending in lots of tears.
We may have the option to take them to my Mom's (divorced from Dad) house but honestly my Mom would sit them in front of a TV for days on end. She's almost 4 hours away from my Dad so I'd still only see them every few days so DH thinks we're better off putting them in full time day care here (currently do 3 days) so they're with him and in their own surroundings.
DH raised our 17 yr old on his own from 6 months to 3 years. He's an amazing dad and while it would be tough on him he's fully capable of doing dinner, soccer practice, night time routine, EVERYTHING without a single worry on my part.
This could be a 2 weeks gone, 1 week home kinda thing but it may also end up being gone for a solid month. We figured that our out of pocket costs not including travel expenses would be about $700 a week.
I cry just trying to figure out a solution to this. I need to be there for my Dad but I also need to be there for my kids.
Usually I'm happy about living away from family but this is so incredibly hard.
Any words of wisdom or advice?
There just doesn't seem to be a good solution.
Oh... and keeping them with me at my Dad's house isn't an option because my Dad's wife is a psycho nut job alcoholic that hates kids. She has totally lost her mind at this point and can't even care for her own daily needs (cooking, paying bills, etc). She's threatened family members with a gun before so I seriously don't think I can take the chance of exposing them to her around the clock under these circumstances.