Joining with a heavy heart

CarliVelcro

I am going through a really hard time. This was my first pregnancy and  I am supposed to be 11 weeks today but my u/s dated me at 9.5 weeks. I have had a week of heavy brown discharge with tissue. The u/s tech couldn't tell me anything because of hospital policy but I know in my heart that everything is not fine. I am terrified of this miscarriage. I want to do it naturally because it's easier on your body and you can ttc much quicker than having a D&C. But I don't think I can handle passing a 9.5 week baby. I have a doctors appointment for tomorrow and I have soo many questions about his but can someone please ease my mind. I keep having horrible thoughts of having to flush my little baby down the toilet, I don't think i have the strength to do that.

 

dtowngirl

I'm so sorry for your loss. It is not necessarily true that passing it naturally is easier on your body and that you can ttc earlier then after a d&c. You will have to speak to your doctor about the best option for you.

MWoodside

dtowngirl:

It is not necessarily true that passing it naturally is easier on your body and that you can ttc earlier then after a d&c. You will have to speak to your doctor about the best option for you.

This exactly.

I'm sorry for your loss. 

janastep73

i was 10 weeks, the baby measured at 8w5d and my doctor told me it would be most likely way too painful for me to pass the baby naturally.

CarliVelcro

I finally saw my ob on friday he gave some medication to help the m/c happen on it's own. He felt that if my body could do it naturally that it would be the best way. I was to take 3 pills a day for two days and see him again on monday for a check up and a possible DnC if there was anything left in my uterus. By Saturday night I was in terrible pain, had heavy bleeding, and I was really anxious. My DH called the ER they put my on touch with a nurse on the OBS ward of our hospital. She reassured me that I was fine but if we wanted to come up to the ward for the night they would offer any support we needed and relief for the pain. So thats where I ended up for the night. My ob saw me in the morning and the u/s showed remaining tissue in my uterus and he scheduled a DnC for the afternoon and then I could go home. I feel that now it's truly over and I can have closure. I can look forward to my next pregnancy and look back on this and know that I'm stronger because of it. This has been the most devastating thing I have ever been through and I can't imagine doing it without the support of my family and friends.