So nervous

lanbob

Tomorrow DS starts daycare and I'm an emotional reck! He has been saying home with MIL since 8 weeks old and has never even had a babysitter.None of our children have been to daycare and I'm not dealing with our son going to stay for 9 hours with people he doesnt know. How do you fulltime working moms deal with this? I'm ready to quit my job and be a sahm.

awisern

lanbob:

Tomorrow DS starts daycare and I'm an emotional reck! He has been saying home with MIL since 8 weeks old and has never even had a babysitter.None of our children have been to daycare and I'm not dealing with our son going to stay for 9 hours with people he doesnt know. How do you fulltime working moms deal with this? I'm ready to quit my job and be a sahm.

Some of us have to in order to provide for our families.  You know...in order to pay the mortgage, etc.  We both work in order to give DS the things he needs and wants and to pay our debt (a mortgage and student loans for two professional degrees.)

DS got to know the people at daycare and they were no longer strangers.  He loves dc and being around other kids his age.  He's done well.  And honestly, I don't mind working...I have a professional job that I worked hard for and am still paying the loans on.  I enjoy going to work most days...do I miss DS?  Yes, but I go (thankfully I only work 3 days a week, but it's 12.5 hour days)  so that I get adult interaction and to help DH in paying the bills and having some luxeries.

You survive if you have to, otherwise you become a sahm.

jk4ever

I think it is normal to be nervous. Its a brand new thing, a change in his routine, and that is always nerve wracking! But ultimately, you have to remember that you are doing what you need to do to provide for your LO. Just trust in the decision that you have made. Take lots of deep breaths. And call them whenever you want an update. See if maybe one of the providers would be willing to send you text messages during the day, just a quick update or two.

 

SailorGray

I posted this on 24+ about taking my guy OUT of daycare and how hard that is for me.  Maybe it will make you feel better:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/64391476.aspx

 

Teresa1896

I know exactly how you feel.  I went back to work after 12 weeks PP but LO stayed with my MIL and a friend.  She started with a daycare home provider 2 weeks ago, and I was a wreck.

But that first week, LO was SOOO happy every day I'd pick her up! The socialization and interactions w/other kids were very good for her, and they gave her something that just I alone, or MIL   babysitting, can't.  Now she has other kids to interact with, and learn things from, and try to keep up with.  Of course staying at home is a gift for  your baby, but letting them learn to be around others is a gift too, and it will help to form their social skills for the future!

lanbob

Thank you all for of your support. Daycare was a hit! I still have a little guilt for choosing to continue to work. I loved being a sahm but I love my job too. Hopefully he continues to enjoy his news friends.