Adjusting to being alone

Tayrusso

How long did it take you to adjust to being alone?  My XH has been gone for over two months...  DD and I moved in with my parents immediately after he left, and we just got our own place a couple weeks ago.  It has been a huge adjustment.  I hate how quiet the house is after DD goes down for the night. 

(I am not saying that I want to start dating.)

I miss having someone to talk to.  I miss having someone to go out to dinner with.  I can't/don't expect my friends to text/email me all day long, and I know they have their own lives and children.  Any advice?  Anyone been in a similar situation?    

scout426

I can totally feel you on this.  I don't miss stbxh but I miss being in a marriage.  I miss someone checking in with me during the day to see how I am.  I miss having someone to share my evenings with.  I have no desire to date and I don't even think I have made it to the moving on stage.  I feel like I am stuck in this limbo of nothing I want.  I just keep hoping that with therapy I will start to feel less limbo and more optimistic about my future.  Hang in there it's got to get better/easier.  

tstaggs2012

It's been 4 months here... And it hasn't really gotten any easier for me.. I do miss Jax's dad... And I do wish things could be different.. But at this point I know they can't.. And I feel the same with knowing my friends and family can't just drop everything to be around me.. I hate being home alone.. I hate not having someone to cuddle up to at night or someone to just hold me and listen when I need to talk... I don't go out I don't really associate with a lot of people.. Because I feel like no one knows what I'm going through.. They say it gets better in time though.. Hopefully it will.

MikesFavoriteWife

It has been 3 months for me and I still feel exactly the way you ladies have described. I have zero desire to go out or to even associate with the few close friends I have. I'm definitely in some kind of limbo with it all. I feel like its particularly difficult because things have gotten much better between stbxh and I. Things were at rock bottom when he left and he has made some major changes since then. Going to court hasn't even been the least bit stressful as far as he was concerned because we were able to agree on everything before hand from child support to visitation. He is getting help and passing his drug tests and is consistent with everything he says he is going to do. While this is great for my children and I it's also in a way very difficult for me. I'm glad he is making all of these changes but I just don't understand why he couldn't do them with me. I miss him terribly and I'm really struggling with it. I'm not quite sure how to get over it because he is always going to be a part of my children's lives. It isn't like I could just shut him out.