he's afraid of favoring one over the other. See, my husband's mother had him very young and she did her best to raise him as a single mom. When my huband was a teenager his mother remarried and had two more children who are now 20 and 14 years old (my husband is 30). Because his mother very openly feels that she failed in raising my husband with the limited resources she had at the time, and loves to death and provided so much more to her younger children... my husband now worries he will be like his mother and favor one child over the other if we have a second. Does anyone follow this logic and know how I can argue against this? I've tried telling him that he's different from her, loves our first child unconditionally and will do so with the second, that we are partners and will raise our children together and they will not be far apart in age, etc. Oh, and the other issue is that I am 36 so we need to get going on this and make a decision soon!! Any advice would be appreciated!