I was asked this question and wondered if anyone else here is running into the same problem. I live in Chicago (moved recently) and will be having my shower back home in NY. We plan on flying to NY having the shower and renting a minivan to drive home with the gifts. I was asked how it should be worded on the invite or a separate card in the envelope that larger presents or presents in general can be shipped to our home in IL...my hosts feel that simply saying "gifts can be sent to blah blah" is tacky (and I kinda agree.) With having a larger shower I'm afraid we won't be able to get everything home. I just don?t see a solution to the problem. Have any of encountered this? What are your girls thoughts?