DH and I are moving in 6 weeks because our lease is up, and we're looking at a two bedroom place bigger than what we have now. DH wants a 'man cave' no matter what, and it's only fair. Where we are now, we have two bedrooms, but I've taken over the second as my sewing room/office. In fact, even though he pays all of the rent and bills, he feels the whole house is 'mine' because it's laid out exactly how I want it, I chose the furniture and colour schemes for the rooms. I can totally see why he feels like it's not really 'his', and I've always promised him that in our next place he can have a 'man cave'. It may sound silly but it's a big deal to him.
Well, we'll be moving in mid April and baby is due at the end of July. We both realise that generally, babies sleep in their parents' room at first (I've read anything from for the first month to the first six months), and that's what we'd like to do. But DH doesn't want to have a separate room for baby at all. He argues that by the time our lease is up at the new place the following April, baby will only be 9 months old, and "won't need" her own room. I've tried explaining to him that a lot of stuff comes with a baby: not just a crib, but a changing table; a rocking chair/recliner; a dresser for clothes, toys etc, and more. He points out - rightly so - that at our new place, all of that will fit into our bedroom with room to spare.
I'm stumped here. I've always 'known' that babies need their own rooms, but now I can't for the life of me explain or even think of why. I can't even argue "well, if baby has her own room, we won't be woken up when she cries" because of course we would have a baby monitor which would wake us, and if she kept crying, one parent would take her out of the room so the other could sleep. I also know that a lot of my desire for baby to have her own room is purely so that I can decorate it in the most sickeningly cutesy way. I can't imagine sharing a room with baby for nine months, but then I can't think of why. As I said, if she cries in the night we'll be woken up anyway, so it's not like I'm thinking of a peaceful night's sleep.
I was originally going to post this with a "how do I make DH see baby needs her own room" feel, but now... Is DH right? Can baby share our room for nine months?
P.S: I know it probably sounds like DH is 'choosing' having a man cave over our baby having somewhere nice to sleep, which is awful. It's... Not as simple as that. It's kinda complicated...