Irritated with LO's nickname already...

chloebeth930

My MIL keeps referring to my LO as a "baby doll" or "dolly."  I know this isn't going to go away after LO is here because SIL just had her baby and MIL refers to her like that... "she is such a little baby doll or what a little dolly." 

It drives me F'ing insane. I'm tempted to ask DH to tell his mom not to call our daughter a doll.  Maybe I could have him lie and say it was a nickname he used for an ex-girlfriend or something? Haha!

adoxyinherear

Oh, that would make me crazy, too Do you have kind of relationship with her where you could ask her to respectfully stop? Or have DH do it, for sure. Probably she doesn't even realize that it bothers you!

kokokat

That would annoy me, too.  I have a friend who had a baby in July, 2011.  She referred to the baby on FB and such as "baby girl" before having her, as they weren't announcing the name before the birth.  Ok, fine, makes sense.  The child is now 7-8 months old and her mother still calls her "baby girl" exclusively.  She doesn't use her daughter's freakin name!  It annoys me to no end, and it's not even my kid.  That "baby girl" isn't gonna be a baby girl forever!  Use her name! 

Oh, and her name is lovely.  It's a classic, beautiful girl name (that never gets used)

chloebeth930

RusalkaSings:

Oh, that would make me crazy, too Do you have kind of relationship with her where you could ask her to respectfully stop? Or have DH do it, for sure. Probably she doesn't even realize that it bothers you!

I could but she probably wouldn't or would make a big deal out of not being able to call LO by a nickname before running it by me first.  I better have DH take care of it soon or else my 3rd Trimester hormones are going to make me snap on her haha!

hopefulmom81

Ugh, that would bother me too.  Mostly because I just read "Princess Recovery: A How To Guide on Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters" and calling a little girl a "dolly" seems so demeaning.

Keep in mind, I am buying more pink than I know what to do with, so I am not super crazy, but I think it is important that we coach people how to treat our little girls. I would definitely have DH say something to get her to stop. 

liesam

Oh yuck. My step mom says that to my nieces all the time, and it drives me nuts. I'd have DH say something to her if it really makes you crazy. MIL loves to call LO "precious" or "my baby" which makes me BSC. We have a good enough relationship that if I jokingly tell her that it's her grand-baby since she's not actually delivering the baby, she won't take it too badly. Thank god they live almost 2 hours out of town so I don't hear it too often lol!

chloebeth930

liesam:

Oh yuck. My step mom says that to my nieces all the time, and it drives me nuts. I'd have DH say something to her if it really makes you crazy. MIL loves to call LO "precious" or "my baby" which makes me BSC. We have a good enough relationship that if I jokingly tell her that it's her grand-baby since she's not actually delivering the baby, she won't take it too badly. Thank god they live almost 2 hours out of town so I don't hear it too often lol!

If my MIL did that I would throat punch her.  

missbryn

My mom has always called me "baby girl," "dolly," "dolly girl," and even "baby girl doll." It only bothered me as a teenager (when I threatened her and she stopped doing it in public). If anyone else did it, I would make them stop and find it demeaning. But for my mother, it's ok -- and now that I'm in my 30s it makes me smile. She's a hippie/feminist/etc etc from the 70s, was the bread-winner for our family, and is the reason why I got advanced degrees and avoided a lot of typical teen girl issues, but it's still her choice of affectionate nickname for me. So, just to say, I understand if it annoys you and you want to get her to stop, and that's totally your right as the mommy. But I don't think it'll actually be detrimental to your daughter, if it's just her grandmother's pet name.  

melly918

That would annoy me.  My MIL still calls DS "the baby". He's just her youngest grandkid. He's freaking over 2 years old! He's not a baby anymore!! Just call him by his name!