Where do you get caring-for-baby/parenting advice?

subxlime

I am still currently TTC, but one thing that is stressing me out is that I am afraid I won't know what to do during pregnancy, after baby arrives and parenting later on. I'm sure these are fears that every new mother has...

 I just assume you'd learn all this stuff from your mom. My mother passed when I was 21. I never babysat when I was younger, I have never even held a newborn. I was raised as only child and none of my close girlfriends have or want kids. 

SO... I feel like I'm going at this on my own. What are some good resources for pregnant ladies and new moms? I'd like to find some moms in my neighborhood, but frankly I live a modest life in a very affluent area where I only see nannies with kids at the park, not moms, you know??

jettagurl

There are tons of books our there....peruse the family/parenting section at a bookstore.  

'What to Expect When You're Execting' is a good one, Your Pregnancy: Week by Week' is good.  

Pop over to the First Tri board and see what those ladies suggest....I'm probably out of date as I've (and several other moms on this board) been a mom for several years now.

The hospital you deliver at will have classes about infant care, diapering, formula vs. breastfeeding, CPR, etc.  

Also, if you're involved with a church, volunteer in the nursery - it will give you some hands-on experience for a short amount of time.   

 

All that said, your mom instinct will kick in regardless - some things will just come naturally.  GL with TTCing!  

AnnapolisLari

In addition, we're a pretty experienced bunch. This has been a damned fine resource for me over the last 5+ years.

superslug

Honestly, most of my knowledge came from these boards, from Babies on the Brain to Parenting. Of course I researched things for myself, too, but these boards are a wealth of information!

cbidt*sgirl

I did rely on my mom - but I also relied on my new mom friends a lot.  I joined a new mom's group when DS1 was a newborn.  It was great.  I got info from the group leader and a great group of women who were all going through the same things as I was.  I am sorry for your loss, becoming a mother is a hard time to be without your mom, but you'll be fine..  Enjoy the process.

CalBears

I am the mother of two kids. My mother died when I was 21 as well. I am very sorry for your loss. I definitely wish my mom was around to guide me through the challenges of motherhood. I have learned to do things on my own and trust my instincts. When I'm unsure, I sometimes ask others for advice., I often read these boards to see how other women handle parenting issues. I have read a few books on parenting issues as well. I think you learn a lot as you go along. Most new parents are nervous; it takes awhile to figure things out.

Zenya

message boards and IRL friends!  I don't rely on my mother for that at all.