Spanking a 6 month old....(Her response on page 2)

mesmom2011

bucklebunny1:

mesmom2011:

daniella2727:

ummm that is child abuse and if you know this person on facebook, you should report it. i hope someone smacks her ass in the jail cell she deserves. 

I don't think spanking counts as child abuse.  I don't agree with it, but it's not a reportable offense. . .

I disagree with this when a baby isn't able to know what's going on, put together cause and effect or even speak. Hitting an infant=child abuse

I totally agree with you.  It is wrong and in my opinion abusive.  However, my guess is that if you called social services to report it, they would not even be concerned enough to look into it.  In my area at least, corporal punishment is allowed and even if a parent leaves a mark on a child, it is not considered abuse.  I don't know the specifics for infants, but I doubt very seriously that they would investigate a report like this.  (I'm not saying that is right, just that this is allowed by law.) 

I hope I explained that right. . .

Mrs. Sarah&Micah

"I didn't spank her right away." Ugh! I am disgusted even more.

JennDave+1

mesmom2011:

daniella2727:

ummm that is child abuse and if you know this person on facebook, you should report it. i hope someone smacks her ass in the jail cell she deserves. 

I don't think spanking counts as child abuse.  I don't agree with it, but it's not a reportable offense. . .

Agreed. Not reportable. But I could not imagine spanking my 6 month old. My logic would tell me to move her out of harms way.

ChristinaBRN

nykimac:

This is the update/response to me telling her that her daughters brain wasn't developed enough to know what in the heck she was doing: 

That may be true, but she hasn't touched it since. She looks at it, but doesn't touch it. It's a sconce on the wall next to her changing table, so she sees it everytime she gets her diaper changed. I was raised to not touch things that weren't mine. I'm going to do the same with my child(ren). I don't believe you should have to change everything around in your house. Baby-proofing yes, of course! But not taking things off the walls, I'd rather teach them not to touch what isn't theirs. And like I said I told her no in her face 2 times before and pulled her hand away, I didn't spank her right away. Every parent is different and what works for me might not work everytime or for anybody else. That doesn't mean I'm not gonna try to teach my daughter from day 1. 

OMFG. A 6 month old can DEFINITELY process all that. What a stupid stupid woman. Baby-Proofing INCLUDES taking dangerous things off of walls that hang DIRECTLY over the changing table that a baby "sees every time she has her diaper changed." I'm ill. This *** needs to educate herself. Or just give up her child now and save the state time and resources. 

EVA116

I shouldn't have opened this thread. I am already having a bad morning....now I am just super pissed. What an idiot....6 months old....if I saw my friend spank her 6 month old I would go and slap her in the face.

If you don't want your baby to mess with something that can hurt her....fix the problem...remove the object or secure it. My daughter kept getting into the cat food, I didn't spank her, I just moved the cat food....problem solved.

NeverEnoughTime

discobelle:

NeverEnoughTime:

A friend of mine spanks her kid. She started around 6 months as well. At 8 months she started taking her diaper off to do it. I don't even know what to say when she tells me, I just change the subject. It's so sad.

 This is so disturbing.

 Why would you want to be friends with a person like this?

I remain friends with her so our LOs can play together. Her LO is the only other baby interaction my LO gets right now. I am working on finding him some more friends at playgroups, etc. and letting this friendship fizzle out.  It's not something I support and not something I ever want my LO to see happen.

And this isn't my thread, so I don't want to hijack.  The OPs FB friend is an idiot.

EVA116

cruelsound:

If any of you think it's on to go "apeshit" or "slap her in the face" in response to this kind of parenting choice, I think you may have your own kind of problems.

Geeze...do you really think someone would just go slap someone in the face. People (like me) say that stuff to get their point across a little more and it is said with some sarcasm.

I will fix it: If I saw my friend spank her six month old...I would slap her across the face with my stern and concerning words.

magdalina.h

missmiss307:

We will occasionally tap Noah's hand, mostly to get his attention, but I can't imagine spanking at this age, especially for something that's only dangerous to him because I've carelessly left it within his reach.

I did this the other night. He was reaching for a cord, when I said no and redirected him he went back to the cord. Once he touched it, I tapped his hand and said no.

LesleyH11

nykimac:

This is the update/response to me telling her that her daughters brain wasn't developed enough to know what in the heck she was doing: 

That may be true, but she hasn't touched it since. She looks at it, but doesn't touch it. It's a sconce on the wall next to her changing table, so she sees it everytime she gets her diaper changed. I was raised to not touch things that weren't mine. I'm going to do the same with my child(ren). I don't believe you should have to change everything around in your house. Baby-proofing yes, of course! But not taking things off the walls, I'd rather teach them not to touch what isn't theirs. And like I said I told her no in her face 2 times before and pulled her hand away, I didn't spank her right away. Every parent is different and what works for me might not work everytime or for anybody else. That doesn't mean I'm not gonna try to teach my daughter from day 1. 

Wow...some people shouldn't be parents, this makes me so angry and sad  She's a b!tch. 

TobleroneBar

cruelsound:

If any of you think it's on to go "apeshit" or "slap her in the face" in response to this kind of parenting choice, I think you may have your own kind of problems.

sigh...I love it when you speak my mind.

komurphy

At 6 months old it is not he babies fault that she grabbed at something that may be dangerous.  It is the parents fault for having dangerous things near their baby.

nykimac

In response to "parents get to choose how to parent" I would say that it would be a completely different story if a parent was spanking a mentally handicapped person that had the mental capacity of a 6 month old, which I don't see as being much, if at all, different from this situation. I don't, however, think that I should report this. Although I think that it's pretty horrible to spank a 6 month old I think it's more an issue of her just really not getting that that is wrong. Although it's doubtful, I hope that my comment saying that her brain isn't developed enough will sink in and it will at least be an opposing view in the midst of all of the "You go girl"s. I think that the removal of a child because of getting spanked by a probably well meaning person would be more traumatic than being spanked. I just hope it stops here. I'm also wondering if this comment is going to stir up any drama since she works at a daycare center with babies (which is how I know her since we used to be co workers). 

nykimac

Scout2005:

nykimac:

In response to "parents get to choose how to parent" I would say that it would be a completely different story if a parent was spanking a mentally handicapped person that had the mental capacity of a 6 month old, which I don't see as being much, if at all, different from this situation. I don't, however, think that I should report this. Although I think that it's pretty horrible to spank a 6 month old I think it's more an issue of her just really not getting that that is wrong. Although it's doubtful, I hope that my comment saying that her brain isn't developed enough will sink in and it will at least be an opposing view in the midst of all of the "You go girl"s. I think that the removal of a child because of getting spanked by a probably well meaning person would be more traumatic than being spanked. I just hope it stops here. I'm also wondering if this comment is going to stir up any drama since she works at a daycare center with babies (which is how I know her since we used to be co workers). 

Doubtful to the point of being highly improbable. Why would she care about your comment when plenty of people are validating her decision?

If she is spanking this child at 6 months old and expecting that infant to understand why Mommy just hit her, I would be very, very concerned about how future discipline will go in that home. 

 

Agreed. That's where me hoping comes in. I've dealt with situations far worse than this in childcare and the state said that they couldn't do anything about those situations so I can't imagine that they would do anything about this.  

nykimac

She (the person that was referred to and quoted in the OP) made it pretty clear that she was serious. Her post was a serious/angry post and then she explained her exact process in spanking and her reasoning behind it. That to me says that she wasn't joking.