How much do you hold your LO?

Redsoxchick

Obviously I hold him while he's eating or fussy and I cuddle with him when he sleeps sometimes and DH and I play with him when he's awake(which isn't often!) but he also spends a lot of time sleeping in his pack n play. I feel bad, am I supposed to be holding him more? Or is it good that he has independent time too?

baloneydisc

I've been holding DD a lot lately, but it's because she has reflux & just got put on meds.  I'm holding her atleast 15-20minutes after she eats so she stays upright & sometimes I just hold her so she can sleep.  We elevated her PNP, but it hasn't helped yet, so the only other place she can sleep is her swing, but she wakes up and screams when I buckle her in, so I can only put her there when I can watch her (since she's not strapped in).

talitha712

I hold her a lot.  She does go in her swing and bouncer, but since I have to hold her for a while after she eats due to her reflux, a lot of times I'll just leave her on me while she sleeps.  I figure she's only this little once   Plus, she's always fine when we put her down unless she's wet or uncomfortable. 

CharlieTheUnicorn

I hold Scar pretty much all day, she isn't to fond of being laid down to sleep. I would say as long as your LO is happy there is no problem with his independence. Some little ones are just more content on their own then others. 

Rey2009

How much do  I hold my LO?

 

Always that's how much....I'm kinda upset about that right now since I am currently incapable of moving since she finally fell asleep and I'm terrified of waking her up. All I've had to eat today is a cup of tea which isn't food. rawr

 I would say its good that he is independent 

 

At least her little face is adorable and I can look at it whenever I want to

namara5532

Rey2009:

How much do  I hold my LO?

 

Always that's how much

This!!  I wish DS let us put him down.  Right now, he either has to nurse to sleep or one of us has to rock him and let him suck our finger.  We've tried transfering him to the crib and to the swing, but he's such a light sleeper that he always wakes up.  The only way I've been able to sleep is using the moby wrap, and it's not the most restful sleep because he twitches or wakes up and needs to be soothed back to sleep.

SoonToBeMsP

I try and split it 50/50. I have no problem holding her, but she sleeps well in her PnP or on a baby mat, so I take advantage of that. I don't want her to NEED to be held, but I also want to get my baby snuggles in

Don't feel bad about putting your LO down! 

LanaLoves

SoonToBeMsP:

I try and split it 50/50. I have no problem holding her, but she sleeps well in her PnP or on a baby mat, so I take advantage of that. I don't want her to NEED to be held, but I also want to get my baby snuggles in

Don't feel bad about putting your LO down! 

This!

MissusW

Do whatever feels right for you and your baby. Some babies require more attention than others. You can't spoil the baby now so relish the holding while you can.

Sascha3

SoonToBeMsP:

I try and split it 50/50. I have no problem holding her, but she sleeps well in her PnP or on a baby mat, so I take advantage of that. I don't want her to NEED to be held, but I also want to get my baby snuggles in

Don't feel bad about putting your LO down! 

Me too.  Sometimes she wants to be held or to sleep on me, but many other times, I put her in her swing or bouncer so I can clean or go on the computer.  If I am just watching TV, I will hold her, because I feel guilty keeping her in the swing then.

JWSchwarz

elainelbuck:

I've been holding DD a lot lately, but it's because she has reflux & just got put on meds.  I'm holding her atleast 15-20minutes after she eats so she stays upright & sometimes I just hold her so she can sleep.  We elevated her PNP, but it hasn't helped yet, so the only other place she can sleep is her swing, but she wakes up and screams when I buckle her in, so I can only put her there when I can watch her (since she's not strapped in).

 

Same here. I have to hold him upright for almost an hour or he'll throw up. So I'm pretty much constantly holding him. I don't think it's bad not to but just remember they're only going to be this little for a short amount of time. I'm happy staying up all night to hold him so he doesn't throw up (or that's what I'm telling myself to stay sane and make it through this). 

Misha14

The twins are the same and pretty much get held when they eat. Visitors make up for any holding time that they are lacking from me. I can tell the difference in their behavior after a day of being held by us or others. Spoiled twins are out of the question. The times they have not wanted to be put down are torture!