FIL has left the building!!!

MrsL1022

O.M.G!! It has been confirmed that I will not be able to tolerate more than 48 hours of the ILs after I have this baby. FIL came to visit for 2 days b/c he had a mtg at the training center in Peachtree City. He called DH under the pretense that he wanted to come see Colin. So he comes and sits in my kitchen and does work on his designated vacation day and does NOTHING to spend time with Colin. He arrived Tuesday and hung out for 15 minutes at the house before he decided at dinner time to borrow DH's car and go to LA Fitness. Then the power in the house goes out, I have a 3 yr old to feed and put to bed and he is not around for dinner. That and C wanted to play with his grandfather that had just arrived.

My ILs think that spending time with him = being in the same room with him. He is now at an age where he wants to play and they can't even humor him for 5 minutes. It makes my blood boil, that they disappoint my son by getting him all excited that they are coming and then ignoring him. It makes it boil even more that they think they have the right to come 'help' for a week when this baby is born. DH knows that if they are here longer than 3 days I will blow my hormonal top. I am waiting for a week or so before I bring up how long we are going to allow them to be here when this baby is born and when they are allowed to come. They make me SO MAD!!!! 

klynne924

i fell your pain! My D&SM are the same way. We moved back to our home town a little over a month ago, They've come to visit once and left within an hour because DS wouldn't have anything to do with either of them. When we were living in ATL, they would call to come visit on their way to or from going somewhere else (kill 2 birds with 1 stone kinda thing), but never just come stay with us like my mom or FIL would. The last time they were up, they came in the middle of the night and woke up at DS's naptime, went to lunch, and left within an hour of DS waking from his nap. It pisses me off how he claims to be crazy about his only grandchild, but makes zero effort to build a relationship with him. Yeah he is only 20 months old, but he has known who my mom and DH's dad are for a long time now because they always came up to spend the weekend. I've just about given up any hope their is that DS will ever have a strong relationship with my dad. Sorry to hear you're going through this and I'm also sorry for your son, who by the way is absolutely adorable!

ebearwife

Even my crochety old dad makes an effort to enjoy my children.  I'm sorry you had to tolerate that mess on top of everything else.  Hugs.

mrsd0907

I'm so sorry, Lauren. I really don't understand when grandparents don't want to interact with their grandchildren and want to spoil them rotten. I hope you're able to reason with DH and convince him they only need to come for a couple days after the baby is born.

decaturbride

I remember you posting about your MIL when Colin was born and how miserable you were. You need to lay down the law now about visitors. If they are not going to actively help with the house, meals, or occupying Colin while you take care of the baby, they need to stay at a hotel and visit for two days. That's enough cuddle time with the newborn and then maybe come back when he is a few months old.

MrsL1022

Yeah, last time I had a baby she came for a week with DH's grandma (whom I really loved very much and am sad she is not alive to see this baby) and I wanted to KILL myself. This time I know what I am going to need and it ain't her loafing around my house. I also have a TON of ammunition with DH regarding the lack of attention they pay to Colin and the lack of cooking ability or desire on MIL's part. I don't want to hurt his (DH's) feelings and they are more than welcome to come but everyone is going to be clear that if the type of visit they want is social it's going to be short and sweet. 

MIL also totally pi$$ed me off, yesterday, by trying to object to our name choice with DH over the phone. He told her we already have a name decision. It was also his fault for sharing it with her. I just want to know in what world she thinks she deserves to have a say in what WE decide to name OUR son. I know my hormones don't help and I can normally just roll my eyes and just ignore her jerky behavior but stuff like this really makes me mad. /vent...again :-) Thanks to you ladies for listening. Stay tuned for some fun stories over the next few months....