One and Done?

Beabs

All the May mommies who are currently KU or TTC have me wondering...who else is in the 1 and done club with me?

everam01

I'm two and done.

I would have been one and done if it had not been twins. Not because I don't necessarily want more kids, but because I don't want to go through another high-risk pregnancy. I feel like I was incredibly lucky that the boys made it here healthy and perfect. 

JNBrickey

We're not planning to have anymore.

carissa_danielle

Clearly I don't belong to the "one and done" category.... But I have a question for those who are.
How do you know you're done? Do you "just know"? Do you have to tell yourself and convince yourself that you're done?
We have 2, and I am just NOT ready to say "I'm done." I want one more, but I'm concerned that I'll never feel "done."

Edited for spelling errors....Ooops

prisschris

Done!  I'm 38, he's 37.  He has a 9 y/o son from his previous marriage.  We had DD on 5/2.  I really really really don't want another one.  My SS doesn't live with us full-time so it's usually me, the hubs and DD during the week.  If we wanted another kid, we'd probably TTC pretty soon but the thought of two little ones going into our 40s overwhelms us.  We really like our situation.  So yes, I'd say you "just know".  I didn't know when I delivered via scheduled C so I didn't have my tubes tied.  I'm hoping to get a tubal ligation/tummy tuck combo in the next couple of years.  Until then, it's the pill for me.

Lisa Frank

carissa_danielle:

Clearly I don't belong to the "one and done" category.... But I have a question for those who are.
How do you know you're done? Do you "just know"? Do you have to tell yourself and convince yourself that you're done?
We have 2, and I am just NOT ready to say "I'm done." I want one more, but I'm concerned that I'll never feel "done."

Edited for spelling errors....Ooops

We are 2 and done. My DH had a vasectomy in the fall.  

I don't think that feeling of "I'm done" is the same for everyone.  And for most women in child-bearing years, the need for more children will be there thanks to our makeup That's why you have grandma's and aunts that dote over kids, because perhaps you never really get over it.  

For us, we weighed everything. Our ages, our financial situation, how things will be so different when our children are older.  Not just how we emotionally felt, but all of the other aspects as well.  I think all too often, people let their emotions make the decision to have more children vs. REALLY evaluating if it is what's best for your family.

For us, this works and we are at so much peace with our 4-pack. I couldn't be happier!

everam01

Lisa Frank:

carissa_danielle:

Clearly I don't belong to the "one and done" category.... But I have a question for those who are.
How do you know you're done? Do you "just know"? Do you have to tell yourself and convince yourself that you're done?
We have 2, and I am just NOT ready to say "I'm done." I want one more, but I'm concerned that I'll never feel "done."

Edited for spelling errors....Ooops

We are 2 and done. My DH had a vasectomy in the fall.  

I don't think that feeling of "I'm done" is the same for everyone.  And for most women in child-bearing years, the need for more children will be there thanks to our makeup That's why you have grandma's and aunts that dote over kids, because perhaps you never really get over it.  

For us, we weighed everything. Our ages, our financial situation, how things will be so different when our children are older.  Not just how we emotionally felt, but all of the other aspects as well.  I think all too often, people let their emotions make the decision to have more children vs. REALLY evaluating if it is what's best for your family.

For us, this works and we are at so much peace with our 4-pack. I couldn't be happier!

I agree with this and have been criticized for my opinion in the past. You may have baby fever and have the capacity to love many many children but that doesn't mean you shouldn't take the big picture into consideration.

If you will struggle financially or if your marriage will suffer, maybe someone should consider waiting a while or reevaluating.

adellel

One, 40, and DONE!

awicks29

We go back and forth....a lot of days I say that I want to be one and done so that my lo can have an amazing life with lots of extras (vacations and excursions that would be more difficult with two) plus we only have a two bedroom home. its tough in this society though-  my dd is only eight months and people are already talking about #2.

kristennd

I would like to be one and done but DH is still not sure. Not least because he hated being an only child. But I'm already 40 and we're both in low-paying (because we love them) careers, so I'd like to keep it manageable.