whats up with all the cattiness?

MnNsAngel

I am aware that there are many hormonal changes going on, but why do some women have to be so mean? Are we not on her to be compassionate,supportive and positive? Instead I feel i have been seeing more ridiculous and rude comments to posts like "rolling eyes" and "sure u felt the baby" and "you spelled something wrong" and "If u give that kid a name u are an idiot". Seriously think of what you type before u do. Lets not act like we are in high school. 

Meg_Meg

Huh?

katielee0127

I'm SO glad somebody posted something about this. It's so ridiculous that women come to this site for reassurance, comfort, answers to questions, etc. etc. etc. an they get their head bit off. Big deal if I spelled something wrong, I'm pregnant, not an english professor. It's not a big deal, read it and move forward, don't nit-pick and be childish. And for the few people who posted gender posts..is it really a HUGE deal that women would prefer a specific gender over the other?? OF COURSE everybody wants a HEALTHY and happy baby, DUH! But the questions are about gender and are completely just for fun. I've read several gender posts where women will be down right mean and say stuff like "how dare you want a specific gender, just be happy you can get pregnant" or "im not concerned about the gender, i just want a healthy baby and i can't believe some of you will be mothers"...I mean, how cruel?? I agree MnNsAngel, lets not be childish and lets act like adults here instead of high school teenagers.. please and thanks!

Mrs.JBowman@gmail.com

OP, This is my 3rd pregnancy and with every one, the posters have been rude and mean.  I rarely post and barely even get on here anymore.  I was super excited to have this board for support with my first, but soon realized that "most" of the girls, weren't supportive, but acted like they were in high school.  Basically, it doesn't get any better - they won't change.

MnNsAngel

Amen! Im here to spead positivity and honesty without hurting anyones feelings. So anyone who wants to join on the happy train...  choooo chooooo!

StellarStina26

It is the way the Bump is and always has been.  As long as I've been on here anyway.  I think it is a combination of people taking things too seriously and others not being able to read into sarcasm or realize how dumb something was to begin with.  I am blunt and sometimes that comes off as mean, oh well.

katielee0127

OP, This is my 3rd pregnancy and with every one, the posters have been rude and mean. I rarely post and barely even get on here anymore. I was super excited to have this board for support with my first, but soon realized that "most" of the girls, weren't supportive, but acted like they were in high school. Basically, it doesn't get any better - they won't change.

EXACTLY! upon reading the replys of these "women"...I've decided not to post hardly anything on here. People treat you like you're an idiot or just making things up. Not to say ALL the ladies by any means, but you do have your childish ones on here that pick at every little thing..like the one above. Spelling "you" as "u"...who cares? She may be on her phone, or she may just have WANTED to spell it that way..sheesh get a life.

katielee0127

EXACTLY! upon reading the replys of these "women"...I've decided not to post hardly anything on here. People treat you like you're an idiot or just making things up. Not to say ALL the ladies by any means, but you do have your childish ones on here that pick at every little thing..like the one above. Spelling "you" as "u"...who cares? She may be on her phone, or she may just have WANTED to spell it that way..sheesh get a life.

 

CRAPP!!!!! I SOOOO SPELLED THAT WRONG...OOPS!!! I MEANT TO TYPE REPLIES!!! DON'T KILL ME PLEASE!!!!

 

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CStock2

MnNsAngel:

I am aware that there are many hormonal changes going on, but why do some women have to be so mean? Are we not on her to be compassionate,supportive and positive? Instead I feel i have been seeing more ridiculous and rude comments to posts like "rolling eyes" and "sure u felt the baby" and "you spelled something wrong" and "If u give that kid a name u are an idiot". Seriously think of what you type before u do. Lets not act like we are in high school. 

Nikko Blue

MnNsAngel:

Amen! Im here to spead positivity and honesty without hurting anyones feelings. So anyone who wants to join on the happy train...  choooo chooooo!

Next stop: Baby-Gaga. Might want to get off there if you can't handle posters being honest and not sugar-coating.

08/09/08...our lucky numbers!

StellarStina26:

It is the way the Bump is and always has been.  As long as I've been on here anyway.  I think it is a combination of people taking things too seriously and others not being able to read into sarcasm or realize how dumb something was to begin with.  I am blunt and sometimes that comes off as mean, oh well.

This exactly! By lurking you will see that each and every board has the same crap.  People taking things too seriously and not getting sarcasm.  Also, if you don't like it don't read it.  I think dealing with the cattiness every now and then is actually worth it.  I'd rather deal with it than not get all the info these women have! 

08/09/08...our lucky numbers!

StellarStina26:

It is the way the Bump is and always has been.  As long as I've been on here anyway.  I think it is a combination of people taking things too seriously and others not being able to read into sarcasm or realize how dumb something was to begin with.  I am blunt and sometimes that comes off as mean, oh well.

This exactly! By lurking you will see that each and every board has the same crap.  People taking things too seriously and not getting sarcasm.  Also, if you don't like it don't read it.  I think dealing with the cattiness every now and then is actually worth it.  I'd rather deal with it than not get all the info these women have! 

katielee0127

Ambsies:

katielee0127:

OP, This is my 3rd pregnancy and with every one, the posters have been rude and mean. I rarely post and barely even get on here anymore. I was super excited to have this board for support with my first, but soon realized that "most" of the girls, weren't supportive, but acted like they were in high school. Basically, it doesn't get any better - they won't change.

EXACTLY! upon reading the replys of these "women"...I've decided not to post hardly anything on here. People treat you like you're an idiot or just making things up. Not to say ALL the ladies by any means, but you do have your childish ones on here that pick at every little thing..like the one above. Spelling "you" as "u"...who cares? She may be on her phone, or she may just have WANTED to spell it that way..sheesh get a life.

Not being rude, just trying to help:  if you want to respond to a specific person just click "quote" instead of "reply" under their post.  If you just C&P it gets confusing and looks like you are just agreeing with yourself.

 

like this? THANKS!

08/09/08...our lucky numbers!

ChancieMark:

08/09/08...our lucky numbers!:

StellarStina26:

It is the way the Bump is and always has been.  As long as I've been on here anyway.  I think it is a combination of people taking things too seriously and others not being able to read into sarcasm or realize how dumb something was to begin with.  I am blunt and sometimes that comes off as mean, oh well.

This exactly! By lurking you will see that each and every board has the same crap.  People taking things too seriously and not getting sarcasm.  Also, if you don't like it don't read it.  I think dealing with the cattiness every now and then is actually worth it.  I'd rather deal with it than not get all the info these women have! 

I feel like I'm in a alternate universe where no one has a sense of humor.

Everything I write is dripping in sarcasm...lighten up ladies.

Maybe the sense of humor diappears once you pee on a stick and get a positive! 

MnNsAngel

Negative people will always be that. Agreed. Lets just stay clear and not feed that kind of additude. Sorry to hear u have been turned off to the site due to this. There are many nice women on here. Maybe i will see ya around. have a good one.

sassafras007

Welcome to The Bump!

tara430

Honestly I've seen this post 20 times and I have been on the Bump since October.  This is the bump.  Actually this first tri group seems to be pretty tame.  Look at a post like this a few months back and the responses are so much worse.  Haha. If you are looking for a group to bond with or be more agreeable stick with your birth month board.  I am now well out of the first tri but I always enjoy the posts

mommabear7182

TB will never be nice. It's a public board. 

kelnyc

Funny, I haven't seen anything terribly catty recently, so either I missed it or you are incredibly sensitive.

k.martell

sassafras007:

Welcome to The Bump!

you forgot to add, 'Enjoy your stay".

ken&jennifer

StellarStina26:

  I'd rather deal with it than not get all the info these women have! 

this.  a big part of not being in high-school any more is developing that filter that allows the things that matter in, and pays no attention to the rest.  Maybe think of it as bootcamp for when we're all dealing with teenagers who are actually In highschool in 12-14 years :P

that said - i think more of you have made me laugh or smile with your honesty and vulnerability.  I still think it's worth being on here. 

mlf625

Are you new to the interwebs?  Bless your heart.

This place is the tamest of the tame.  I suggest you jump ship now if it's too much for you to handle.

Adios! 

mrsjenni

Oh, here we go again.  Yet another newb who's going to come in, call everyone mean and hormonal, and hope to change The Bump forever.

:::waits for "how do your husband's live with you" comment::: 

SarahP15

MnNsAngel:

I am aware that there are many hormonal changes going on, but why do some women have to be so mean? Are we not on her to be compassionate,supportive and positive? Instead I feel i have been seeing more ridiculous and rude comments to posts like "rolling eyes" and "sure u felt the baby" and "you spelled something wrong" and "If u give that kid a name u are an idiot". Seriously think of what you type before u do. Lets not act like we are in high school. 

I guess I'm a total biatch to tell someone she's not feeling the baby when she's 6 weeks pregnant.  That thread was DD tonight though. 

OCIrishBruin

mrs.jenni:

Oh, here we go again.  Yet another newb who's going to come in, call everyone mean and hormonal, and hope to change The Bump forever.

:::waits for "how do your husband's live with you" comment::: 

bwahahah!

TheFutureMrsH2012

MnNsAngel:

I am aware that there are many hormonal changes going on, but why do some women have to be so mean? Are we not on her to be compassionate,supportive and positive? Instead I feel i have been seeing more ridiculous and rude comments to posts like "rolling eyes" and "sure u felt the baby" and "you spelled something wrong" and "If u give that kid a name u are an idiot". Seriously think of what you type before u do. Lets not act like we are in high school. 

If you think it's bad here, lurk on The Knot for a while. 10x worse, and I quit going there after I was done with wedding planning. But yes, I do agree with you. Some people are downright mean. I just sit back and watch the flames fly.. then again, nobody has gotten an attitude with me on here yet.

MnNsAngel

tara430:

Honestly I've seen this post 20 times and I have been on the Bump since October.  This is the bump.  Actually this first tri group seems to be pretty tame.  Look at a post like this a few months back and the responses are so much worse.  Haha. If you are looking for a group to bond with or be more agreeable stick with your birth month board.  I am now well out of the first tri but I always enjoy the posts

 

That is good to know! Thanks ! 

Areli71611

Well, it does make you look like an illiterate boob when you continually misspell things or use punctuation incorrectly.

And what cattiness are you referring to? I haven't seen any bloodbaths on here recently, so either I missed it, or you're sporting some pretty thin skin over there...

tara430

mrs.jenni:

Oh, here we go again.  Yet another newb who's going to come in, call everyone mean and hormonal, and hope to change The Bump forever.

:::waits for "how do your husband's live with you" comment::: 

Don't forget "I feel bad for your child."  Both Bump favorites 

byrne15

kelnyc:

Funny, I haven't seen anything terribly catty recently, so either I missed it or you are incredibly sensitive.

I wonder what "real" life is like for these people.

pinkpepsi

SarahP15:

MnNsAngel:

I am aware that there are many hormonal changes going on, but why do some women have to be so mean? Are we not on her to be compassionate,supportive and positive? Instead I feel i have been seeing more ridiculous and rude comments to posts like "rolling eyes" and "sure u felt the baby" and "you spelled something wrong" and "If u give that kid a name u are an idiot". Seriously think of what you type before u do. Lets not act like we are in high school. 

I guess I'm a total biatch to tell someone she's not feeling the baby when she's 6 weeks pregnant.  That thread was DD tonight though. 

I would have told her the same. Even if she was a close friend. That's just dumb.

chizekgeena

Some of these women are on here day and night and it almost becomes "second-life" to them. For them to see a newer person on the board hop right in and then ask a silly question, they feel a sense of seniority on the situation and don't monitor themselves because they already have their little nook in the community. <-just a logical guess.

I haven't seen much cattiness but when I do it is so entertaining and it always makes both the OP and the snide replier look immature. Personally, if I see a post that I find humorous I laugh about it and then move on. I typically don't waste my time responding if I don't care about the topic.

heatherjesse

chizekgeena:

Some of these women are on here day and night and it almost becomes "second-life" to them. For them to see a newer person on the board hop right in and then ask a silly question, they feel a sense of seniority on the situation and don't monitor themselves because they already have their little nook in the community. <-just a logical guess.

This has very little to do with anything.  It is simply very obnoxious to see the board spammed with the same stupid questions multiple times a day.  New folks can learn a LOT and avoid asking dumb questions (and in turn avoid the snark) by just lurking for a day or two.  Or read back through the first couple pages of posts.  Most likely a similar question has been asked and answered sufficiently. 

quincy0102

heatherjesse:

chizekgeena:

Some of these women are on here day and night and it almost becomes "second-life" to them. For them to see a newer person on the board hop right in and then ask a silly question, they feel a sense of seniority on the situation and don't monitor themselves because they already have their little nook in the community. <-just a logical guess.

This has very little to do with anything.  It is simply very obnoxious to see the board spammed with the same stupid questions multiple times a day.  New folks can learn a LOT and avoid asking dumb questions (and in turn avoid the snark) by just lurking for a day or two.  Or read back through the first couple pages of posts.  Most likely a similar question has been asked and answered sufficiently. 

Or how about search, "Mean, snarky Bumpies."  I'm sure the first several results will show a similar conversation/thread that occurred 3 hours ago. 

chizekgeena

heatherjesse:

chizekgeena:

Some of these women are on here day and night and it almost becomes "second-life" to them. For them to see a newer person on the board hop right in and then ask a silly question, they feel a sense of seniority on the situation and don't monitor themselves because they already have their little nook in the community. <-just a logical guess.

This has very little to do with anything.  It is simply very obnoxious to see the board spammed with the same stupid questions multiple times a day.  New folks can learn a LOT and avoid asking dumb questions (and in turn avoid the snark) by just lurking for a day or two.  Or read back through the first couple pages of posts.  Most likely a similar question has been asked and answered sufficiently. 

 

You're probably right and I agree, but like I said in the second part of my post, I just don't see the point in having to respond with a snide remark. Just let the OP look like an idiot for posting such a dumb thread to start with.

tara430

Don't know if this link will be clicky (It's my first time trying) but this is a particular funny post on this very same topic from a few months ago.  Love this one!

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

Nikko Blue

tara430:

Don't know if this link will be clicky (It's my first time trying) but this is a particular funny post on this very same topic from a few months ago.  Love this one!

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

Here you go...

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

You have to put [url*] immediately before the link (no spaces) and [/url*] immediately after it. Except take out the asterisks. 

mommygrams0730

as always, thanks for the entertainment. i don't know why people get worked up over something people type on the computer. it's not like you're sitting face to face or even know these people on a personal level.

OP if you are on here regularly you will come to find out there are some very very stupid posts. yes they say there's no stupid question, but use common sense before you come on a board looking for answers...um especially when they more than likely have been posted in the last 24 hours. browse a bit and check out what others have posted.

ken&jennifer

hijoi:

Jesus, if you can't take this, then wait until you actually have children and people come up to you and tell you what you're doing wrong.  The ladies here are just trying to prepare you for when you're not pregnant anymore. Get over it or get off it.

i have to agree  

chizekgeena

tara430:

Don't know if this link will be clicky (It's my first time trying) but this is a particular funny post on this very same topic from a few months ago.  Love this one!

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

 

I just read through that entire post and all I have to say is WOW, hilarious. I am now feeling stupid for participating in this post. I will just go back to lurking

tara430

Nikko Blue:

tara430:

Don't know if this link will be clicky (It's my first time trying) but this is a particular funny post on this very same topic from a few months ago.  Love this one!

community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

Here you go...

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59454243.aspx

 

You have to put [url*] immediately before the link (no spaces) and [/url*] immediately after it. Except take out the asterisks. 

Thanks!