Naming your child after yourself?

jconrad6

I am 10 wks pregnant so obviously I dont know what the sex of the baby is yet.  But if it is a boy my husband wants to name the baby after him.  Not just similar exactly and I don't like it or agree.  I think the baby should have his/her own unique identity. What do you guys think and what should I do?

Mysterious_wife

It is up to the family.  We had no plans on naming any child after either parent.  We don't like our names very well. We did joke about naming our child Mysterious. 

stuzyq14

having lived in the south for a while I was very familiar with repeat naming - Jr's and Trey's (Tres) were common for 2nd and 3rd generation names.  It isn't something I specifically would want to do, but your husband may have specific reasons why this is important to him.

First, you have a 50/50 shot of a girl and it will be a non issue.  Second, talk to him about why this is special to him and see if you can come up with a compromise. Using one of the names, or using both but coming up with a unique and special nick name.  

Good luck! 

AAAROD44

I actually had neighbors growing up that named the son after the dad exactly and the daughter after the mother exactly. Talk about some vain people eh? lol There were never any Juniors or 2nds or 3rds in my family, but the one tradition that has been in our family for awhile now is that the first son always had his father's first name as his middle name. That I can handle.

Adam&Eve07

AAAROD44:

I actually had neighbors growing up that named the son after the dad exactly and the daughter after the mother exactly. Talk about some vain people eh? lol There were never any Juniors or 2nds or 3rds in my family, but the one tradition that has been in our family for awhile now is that the first son always had his father's first name as his middle name. That I can handle.

This is what I was thinking. Using the father's name as the baby's middle name. But like PP said, have you talked to your DH about why he wants to name the baby after himself if it is a boy? He might have some really good reasons. Don't discount his feelings just because you think they are stupid. GL! 

jconrad6

Yeah I asked him and he said because everybody else in his family names the first boy after him. I know I should be more sensitive to the situation but I think its ridiculous. I wouldnt mind doing the middle name but he even said he doesn't like his name because nobody can pronounce it correctly. So why would you do that to your child?

jconrad6

After the father is what I meant*

staycee

you two are going to need to compromise if you have a boy.  If you really don't like that practice, he needs to give a little.   Just as if it's SUPER important to him then you need to give a little too.

I agree with using as a middle name.  Seems fair in this situation.   You are the mom - you have equal say.

sourapplemartini

We inadvertently named DS after both of us. I really liked his name and the way it went with DD's name, and it literally didn't occur to me until I was introducing him and myself to someone. I felt like an azzhole but what can you do? 

Mysterious_wife

sourapplemartini:

We inadvertently named DS after both of us. I really liked his name and the way it went with DD's name, and it literally didn't occur to me until I was introducing him and myself to someone. I felt like an azzhole but what can you do? 

That is like me finding out Allie's initials are ABC. total accident, yet we always get asked why we did it. 

skyfarm15

My son is a Jr.  I wasn't ok with it at first, b/c there are so many males in both families with that name.  And I grew up in a home where my name and my fathers name were just one letter apart and it caused alot of confusion with mail, phone calls, etc.  But you learn to live with it.  I'm happy we went with it.  My H wanted to name our daughter with my name, but I thought that would be too weird.  I just kept imagining us introducing our family as, 'Hi we are J & A, and these are our children, J & A'.

LEEMC

DH is named after his father who's named after his father.  It's not that I don't like his name but there is already too many in my family and obviously in his! My son got the Irish version of his dads name, sort of a compromise.

emd2887

My husband really wanted the baby to have his name, but I hate his middle name. Our compromise was that I could select the middle name. 

Of course after all this debate we ended up with a little girl, so it was a non-issue.

But if you really don't like the name, I wouldn't stick your child with it. If it was really important to him, I'd probably use his name as the middle name.  

LnR70707

I was in the same position.  DH is a jr. and wanted a 3rd.  Aside from the fact that I am not a fan of his middle name, his extended family was totally uncreative and both his first and middle name were used several times already so the only available nicknames were Trip or Trey (from the 3rd part, nothing to do with the actual names).   Our compromise was using DH's first name, and giving our son his own middle, which is the name we call him by.   I think DH's parents were a little butthurt at first, but we are happy with it and that is all that matters.

Emie28

I'm a really big asshoIe when it comes to this situation b/c there is no way, no how that I would go along with it. The only compromise I would be willing to make is with the middle name. I really hate the idea of being obligated to give my child a certain name and having absolutely no say in it. Luckily, dh's older brother was the III and I didn't have to worry about it.

However, I told dh that the ONLY way I would be willing to even consider giving our son his first and middle name is if he pushed him out of his vagina. I might be willing to entertain the idea then. 

caffinated_tulip

DH is the third with his name in his family (He's not a 3rd, they all have different middle names). No one was trying to force us into naming R after them, but DH really wanted to give him part of his name, and if we have girl, she'll get my former middle name. So we made it his middle name. Worked out for us. 

aracelyluna

Hello, I usually lurk here.

DH wants to name our LO after him as well. We decided that they would have the same first name but different middle name. It is weird because he shares his dad's name. Which is a very common name in my family. I however, will not name a daughter after me. I have my mother's name, with different middle name. Everyone calls me my middle name, because I do not like my first name. 

I think it's a pride thing with my DH. I will give him this one, it's first born and some what of a culture thing.

salt78

My oldest cousin is a 4th and there are a few other instances of this in my family too. Though we wouldn't have done it if LO had been a boy, I understand why people do it and it doesn't bother me. DD is named after my grandmother.

That said, this is your child too so you shouldn't be steamrolled into it if you really don't want to do it. But if it's an important tradition in his family, you need to be sensitive to that also. Compromise.

magdalina.h

I don't like the idea of a junior. MH's family uses the first name of the dad as the middle name, but that's as close to naming after himself.

Lyssapee

AAAROD44:

I actually had neighbors growing up that named the son after the dad exactly and the daughter after the mother exactly. Talk about some vain people eh? lol There were never any Juniors or 2nds or 3rds in my family, but the one tradition that has been in our family for awhile now is that the first son always had his father's first name as his middle name. That I can handle.

 They might not be full of themselves, it's a tradition in some cultures I know cuban for sure, and maybe swedish or dutch?

First name as the middle is fine by me. DH is a Michael, and I actually love his name.  I would use it as a middle, and would actuallly use it as a first, but he also has a counsin named michael (same last name) so it might be a bit much.

SaraOflaherty

Emie28:

However, I told dh that the ONLY way I would be willing to even consider giving our son his first and middle name is if he pushed him out of his vagina. I might be willing to entertain the idea then.  

 

I think this is a perfectly reasonable compromise.  I hate the idea of naming a child after yourself. It's vain and stupid.

BLT20051

DH is the II and doesn't want to pass on any of his name. He got his name on accident because his parents were totally prepared for a girl and floored when they had him. So it has no special meaning and he thinks is a pain because they get each others mail/phone calls/etc.

Elaine&Matt

Button is named after both of us.  DH did not want a junior, he hates is first name and goes by his middle name.  Button's first name is DH's middle name and his middle name is my middle name (which was a maiden name of one of my gma's) and when he's not being called Button, he goes by his middle name.

That make sense?