How to deal with DC provider's advice?

dbadura01

First, let me say, I LOVE our day care provider.  She's great with LO and is like a grandma for him.  He's only been there 3 weeks, and she keeps talking about how he's teething.  There are no bumps (yes, I know teething happens before you see or feel anything) and his demeanor/mannerisms haven't changed at all.  Yesterday, she was recommending teething tablets for him.

LO has always put everything in his mouth and chewed on his fingers since 3 months old.  People always comment, "oh, he must be teething" for the last 4 months.... and the doctor checks during his appointments and always says, "nope, not for a while yet."

So, the question is how do I politely ask her why she thinks he's teething and tell her that I don't think he is as nothing has changed and he's always chewed on things and drooled.  He actually drools less now.  How do I politely disagree without making her upset that I don't believe her?  She's raised 4 kids and has been doing daycare for over 30 years and I'm a FTM.  I just feel like I know my son, and I would think I would know if he was teething... I keep looking for the signs.  I just don't want to upset her by disagreeing and I don't want to give LO teething tablets if he's not going to have teeth for another 2-3 months.

Any advice is appreciated.

Mrs.Purdue

you don't have to say anything.  If you really feel like she's pushing the teething tablets, say that you're going to wait to use them until you can see that he's obviously upset (fussy, rash from all the drool, you can feel them under the skin, etc), and that until then, you're going to just let nature run it's course. 

ITGurl0626

Mrs.Purdue:

you don't have to say anything.  If you really feel like she's pushing the teething tablets, say that you're going to wait to use them until you can see that he's obviously upset (fussy, rash from all the drool, you can feel them under the skin, etc), and that until then, you're going to just let nature run it's course. 

According to my DCP my LO has been teething since she started taking care of her at 12 weeks.  But, alas, no teeth yet!  I gave my DCP some teething rings to keep at her house to give to my LO.  Just do the same...no need to point out anything or say anything.

snoopy5512

I would say thank you and that you will think about it.  Honestly, our provider kept mentioning giving DD breakfast before I was ready and that is how I handled it. 

wendy46001

Our daycare girls are great, but like you they tend to rush meds (and food).  They?ve asked us to leave tylenol, tablets and orajel.  We found it best to say we'll bring in whatever the peds. approves for her and leave it at that.    

Nancy729

I just wouldn't address it at all...that way she'll never know that you disagree with her. 

gymnst1013

FWIW I had no idea Nikolai was teething.  He has always chewed things, he wasn't very drooly and only a little fussy which could have been from anything.  Then one BAM!  Two teeth.

And I agree, no need to bring it up.  There is no harm in letting her think he is teething.  Tell her you'll keep the teething teblets in mind   

dbadura01

Thank you ladies! I think you're right and I'll just keep glazing over the subject if she brings it up. 

 

laurakaz13

Honestly, I don't think it's a big deal at all.  I wouldn't say anything.  Usually my DC providers have fabulous advice.  I take it and think about it, but they never push anything at all. 

I'm pretty much the most laid back parent I know though, so I don't get worked up over this stuff. 

ITGurl0626

laurakaz13:

I'm pretty much the most laid back parent I know though, so I don't get worked up over this stuff. 

Me too....