How is that possible???

Petunia844

I know I've written before about how different this is for me and my DH... but he forgot today is my EDD.  I just don't understand.  How could he have forgotten that so quickly?  I've said before I know he hurts, I know he thinks about Peyton...but it makes me mad that he forgot. It makes me feel that much more alone.

Auki13

I am so sorry. (((HUGS))) But I have to say that my DH always forgets our due dates.  I just don't think the date carries the same significance for them as it does for us.  As DH put it- you could have the baby 2 weeks before or after, so it's really a birth month.  I don't know if that helps at all, but I am sure he isn't forgetting your son he just doesn't remember the same details we do.  

ruthymusney

I'm sorry *hugs*

If it helps any, I forgot Kyndals EDD too.  The original one.  Because her birthdate was much more important.  Maybe that's how your DH forgot?

Petunia844

ruthymusney:

I'm sorry *hugs*

If it helps any, I forgot Kyndals EDD too.  The original one.  Because her birthdate was much more important.  Maybe that's how your DH forgot?

It does help, I know he didn't forget Peyton, I just wish he felt how I do all the time, but I know that's not possible.

johnnys june

*hugs*  I'm sorry hun.  Honestly, I think it comes down to truly just accepting that you and DH will forever be and grieve differently.  Even remember differently.  I used to get mad at DH too.  Then DH would get mad at me saying I put too much stock into dates that aren't significant.  He didn't they don't matter, he pointed out that regardless of when Logan was due, he was born on a different day.  And regardless of whether or not that day was early, on time, or late, the outcome is the outcome.  We have to celebrate and grieve simultaneously the day he was born.  It's hard to accept, I know.  My DH knows when the EDD was...I wouldn't say he forgot, but he just doesn't "notice."  For men, a "what if" or "could have been" date just isn't something they dwell on.

Again, *hugs*  I know that doesn't make it easy.  But I think most of us on this board can say we've been there. 

weddedwife

johnnys june:

For men, a "what if" or "could have been" date just isn't something they dwell on.

This is very true. At least you have us to vent to?

Petunia844

weddedwife:

johnnys june:

For men, a "what if" or "could have been" date just isn't something they dwell on.

This is very true. At least you have us to vent to?

thank goodness for that, I know I'm not really mad at DH, just mad at life...and it helps sooo much to talk to you ladies and keep things in perspective.

pottermommy

My DH doesn't remember dates, and the ones he does remember come around they do not affect him like they do me...

But he will be walking past the bathroom and just fall to his knees, or he will see a little girl with blonde curls and have to leave the store.  I am sure he is affected by different things, alot of women are more date oriented where as men are more visual-object oriented. 

I know he cares and hurts, just remember that his is different not less.  Hugs*

Carolee

(((HUGS))) I'm sorry.

hewinked

My DH doesn't remember dates either.  I lit a candle on Sunday, the 11th (when Adam died), like I have been doing all day on every 11th of the month for the past year.  DH says, why are you lighting a candle this morning?  I was like, uh, it's the 11th.  He forgot, too. 

magdalina.h

Mh had no clue of the edd. He remembers his birthday and angel day

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pb127

(((hugs))) I know mine doesn't remember all the dates either, but I know he remembers all these other little things about DS and our pregnancy with him that I didn't remember well.