My ET update

lhcooper

ET was this morning with our DE-made embryos, day 5, as most of you know. I have mixed feelings about how it went, I'm afraid. We had 2 embryos still going -- a 1BB (expanded blast, fair quality) and 1 "cavitated" embryo (i.e. not quite a blast yet). The weekend doctor who did the transfer was definitely not very helpful; he just gave me this info and asked how many I wanted to transfer. I asked him what he thought and he gave me what I took to be more of a standard line than anything really particular to our embryos: "if you're averse to the risk of multiples, you should only transfer one." I thought about calling DH for help because we had said we'd do one if one was excellent and two if they were not, but this seemed somewhere in between, and the doctor was making me feel like I should hurry up and decide (though I'm SURE he would have let me make the call if I had wanted to, it's not like they were having a busy day). Anyway, ta-da, I know you're wondering what I did: I decided to go with just the one. Which I am both regretting and also not regretting. If the other one makes it to freeze and we're successful with this try, we'll have a chance at a sibling. If we're not successful, we just have the one FET to do. And if nothing works, well, we move on to a new donor that much faster (since we get 6 fresh attempts and unlimited frozen). I just have become too scared of a twin pregnancy, more because I feel like I'm IF jinxed and something bad will happen if I get pregnant with twins than anything else.

So anyway, I also had acupuncture right before and after the transfer (right in the same building as the clinic). It really made me feel like I had someone looking out for me today, which made a difference, being there without DH (we just couldn't justify the cost of him coming with me). Plus, it was very relaxing, especially afterwards.  Here's hoping it makes a difference.

What I didn't know is that the clinic would put me on 24-hour mandated bed/couch rest. It's funny because my RE at home doesn't agree with the bedrest protocol -- she thinks it's better to be a little active (walking) and getting blood flowing, while still taking it easy. So who knows, but I'm doing what they say which is why it's taken me all day to get around to writing this update; I'm alone at my mother's house (she's away! at a spa! in Mexico!)--she lives in the same town as my out-of-state clinic--and she doesn't have @$#6&* wireless, so I finally decided to move down from the couch upstairs to the couch downstairs where my laptop is plugged in to the modem, with the cord pulled all the way across the floor in order to sit on the couch and be online at the same time. Not the most comfortable thing in the world because I can't recline, so I won't be typing for much longer.

Now I guess we just sit and for little 1BB. Beta is on 12/26. I don't know if I'll POAS before then or not. I don't think I want to ruin Xmas if it's negative, so maybe not.  Thanks for all the support!

P.S. Last night I was catching up with "Private Practice" (going to watch the 2-hour "event' right now). I love how Addison just got to focus on her "embryo" (what happened to the other 3 eggs), no discussion about growth, number to transfer, etc.  If they're going to go this far, I think they could go a little farther.  AND I'm still mad they haven't brought up the incredible expense of this kind of thing if you're not a filthy-rich doctor...

Mrs.McIrish

I'm sorry the stupid RE was not more helpful. I hope your embryo is snuggling in for a long winter's nap!! LOL about being at your mom 's without wireless. That would drive me nuts... Jealous of your mom in Mexico. I was supposed to leave this morning for Punta Cana but I had to cancel due to DH's back being out. Boo! Hoping this is your miracle!!

arevere

Good luck! I hope this is it for you!

lhcooper

Mrs.McIrish:

I'm sorry the stupid RE was not more helpful. I hope your embryo is snuggling in for a long winter's nap!! LOL about being at your mom 's without wireless. That would drive me nuts... Jealous of your mom in Mexico. I was supposed to leave this morning for Punta Cana but I had to cancel due to DH's back being out. Boo! Hoping this is your miracle!!

Yeah, I'm totally sitting here second-guessing my decision to put in just the one.  DH is 52 now (53 in March).  When is it I'm imagining we're going to have a second child? Maybe I should have put the 2 in and hoped for twins after all.  Aagghh! Of course, we can't afford daycare for one child, let alone two at once....

I would have been at the spa in Mexico too if not for everything that's going on.  Next year...hopefully with a 2-month-old in a little sun hat.  Sorry about your trip! Do you get to go another time??

Bubs711

Sorry that things were a little rocky today.  I truly hope everything turns out to be okay in the end - fingers crossed for you!

Also, when you're feeling up to it, may I ask you some questions about DE?

shyntrue

Hi, I've been thinking of you and praying for you!  I hope we both get our miracles today.  (Hugs) and fingers crossed!!  Oh, and tons of sticky dust.

emikat

GL with everything!  FX for you!

brooklynesque

Good luck!  Fingers crossed that your embie snuggles in!

lhcooper

Bubs711:

Sorry that things were a little rocky today.  I truly hope everything turns out to be okay in the end - fingers crossed for you!

Also, when you're feeling up to it, may I ask you some questions about DE?

Sure, ask away.  I recommend checking out the Tuesday DE check-in on the IF board, too.

winidpu

Wishing you lots of luck and hope you get your Christmas miracle!

mtlaurel

I'm sorry you felt pressured to make the decision by yourself. However, transferring a good quality blast is excellent news! I hope it snuggles in, and you get a belated christmas gift.

happywifemomofone

I'm sorry that you felt pressured by the RE and are now second guessing your decision to transfer one.  Nothing ever goes quite as planned with IF.  Glad that you are getting some rest, when will you head home?  I always feel like there's no place like home.  Hope that your embryo settles in for a long winter's nap!  Good luck!!!

annalisel

It's so easy to second guess yourself at every stage of this process. I know I have. 

You have a great embryo growing. Good luck! Hears hoping for happy news from you soon. 

amandaleigh1

I hope you don't mind my chiming in. But I think a major benefit of  purchasing the more expensive shared risk or multicycle plans is that you have the relative luxury of making the choice to transfer 1 embryo. I did a day 3 eset. I probably would not have had the courage to do that if it was my only chance. I lucked out so far. In short, I would have made the same decision that you made. And I can tell you that the conversation I had with the embryologist was way more helpful than the one I had with the md doing the transfer. I felt a little annoyed that he wouldn't register an opinion at all when I asked him. 

lhcooper

amandaleigh1:

I hope you don't mind my chiming in. But I think a major benefit of  purchasing the more expensive shared risk or multicycle plans is that you have the relative luxury of making the choice to transfer 1 embryo. I did a day 3 eset. I probably would not have had the courage to do that if it was my only chance. I lucked out so far. In short, I would have made the same decision that you made. And I can tell you that the conversation I had with the embryologist was way more helpful than the one I had with the md doing the transfer. I felt a little annoyed that he wouldn't register an opinion at all when I asked him. 

I don't mind at all, and thank you for putting it in that perspective--which I had, but briefly lost.  Indeed, if this had been our only shot, of course I would have put in two, and getting the chance to electively put in just one is, in fact, a luxury that I am paying for.  Thanks for reminding me of this! I wish I had gotten to talk more to the embryologist, but she wasn't a very friendly sort and was mostly behind the door waiting on my decision/the doctor's word.  I think this is what happens on weekends...it worked out great in terms of my schedule, not so great in terms of personalized care.  Anyway, you and everyone else have made me feel better! There's a chance the embryo won't grow, but on the other hand, there's not much reason that it shouldn't, either.

BeckyP005

I'm hoping this is it for you! Try to relax and I'm sure you made the right decision. Good luck.

irishgirl0525

Good luck!

 

owlprof

So exciting!!!  I hope you had a nice relaxing weekend!

KZ2010

I hope this is it for you!  Good luck!