DH vent

CagleBaby

I really feel like I am going to lose it with my dh. I am at my wits end and last night about sent me over the edge. I get up and do all the night time feedings for Sarah of I get up when ever she starts a screaming fit. Dh just lays there like he can't hear her. Last night I got up with her several times and then at 5am I rolled over and said "its your turn." His response " a hugh moan and then said "are you serious?" I said yes. He then gets up and goes into the bathroom and I end up having to go tend to Sarah. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE MY KIDS, but sometimes I need a break.

Now all three kids are up and fussing about how hungry they are. All of them need to eat and DH is laying in bed once again like he can't hear time. I can't even leave the house by my self. Everywhere I go I have to take at least Sarah. DH says her screams are like nails on chalkboard to him. Well excuse me GET OVER IT your her father and I need a break to.

 thanks for letting me vent.

ec3under4

I am so sorry. Lots of hugs!!

And, YGPM  

misjenn

Go in there and take the bedding off of him and tell him like everything else you do you have to clean the bedding right then because you have no other time to do it.

Sorry he is being a jerk and I hope you get a break soon.

ec3under4

Okay, nevermind, I am too incompetent to figure out PM's. Can you email me at erin at purewonderphotography dot com 

 

CagleBaby

ec3under4:

Okay, nevermind, I am too incompetent to figure out PM's. Can you email me at erin at purewonderphotography dot com 

 

LOL YGM

CagleBaby

misjenn:

Go in there and take the bedding off of him and tell him like everything else you do you have to clean the bedding right then because you have no other time to do it.

Sorry he is being a jerk and I hope you get a break soon.

I sent the girls in there to climb in bed with him, which really means jump. My oldest climbed on him to play horsey. LOVE it.

rssnlvr

CagleBaby:

DH says her screams are like nails on chalkboard to him.

Yeah, because I'm sure they're just music to your mommy ears. As if. 

Your DH needs to get over himself, grow a pair, and start doing the hard sh!t, too. Parenting isn't a day job, and you don't get to take your ball and go home when it stops being fun.

I'm sorry you're having to worry about HIM on top of Sarah. Your husband should be your support, not another source of stress.

kiarox2002

rssnlvr:

CagleBaby:

DH says her screams are like nails on chalkboard to him.

Yeah, because I'm sure they're just music to your mommy ears. As if. 

Your DH needs to get over himself, grow a pair, and start doing the hard sh!t, too. Parenting isn't a day job, and you don't get to take your ball and go home when it stops being fun.

I'm sorry you're having to worry about HIM on top of Sarah. Your husband should be your support, not another source of stress.

This x1000.  I would be pissed. 

BSE

i'm sorry, that sounds so frustrating. i understand and my situation is no where near yours. if you ever need some help i'm willing to leave dd with dh and come babysit or run some errands or whatever you could use, just let me know!

CagleBaby

MrsRosie:

He's on the third kid and still acting this way?

Yes and his mom gets on to him everytime we are around because she see what he is doing and she knows with Sarah I NEED the help. My House is a mess because I have a hard time finding time to clean with all the attention Sarah needs, So I figure if he wants it clean he can do it. Although I really hate that the house is a mess, but oh well.

SareBear30

kiarox2002:

rssnlvr:

CagleBaby:

DH says her screams are like nails on chalkboard to him.

Yeah, because I'm sure they're just music to your mommy ears. As if. 

Your DH needs to get over himself, grow a pair, and start doing the hard sh!t, too. Parenting isn't a day job, and you don't get to take your ball and go home when it stops being fun.

I'm sorry you're having to worry about HIM on top of Sarah. Your husband should be your support, not another source of stress.

This x1000.  I would be pissed. 

Ditto. I'm sorry he is having trouble coping with this, but I'm sure you are too and he needs to work with you rather than check out. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to the girls. (((hugs)))

Sinafey

Everything you've said in this thread is eerily similar to what happened with my DH when DD was an infant.  So sorry you're dealing with that on top of a sick baby  

I tried to PM you but I can't figure out how to, I think they may have disabled them.  Do you have a decent baby carrier?  I have a ring sling that I'd love to give you, it could help you get things done while still keeping Sarah close and comforted.  Let me know. 

JJ&BB1146

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I have no advice, only sympathy. My DH is just like this and I only have 1. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you are with 3 and no help! Hang in there girl!

agran

I'm sorry he's being such an a**hat.  Make sure you talk to him and tell him you need help and that his behavior is unacceptable.  Sometimes I get really irritated with my dh and when I finally explode he had no clue that he wasn't giving me what I needed.  Although it seems obvious to you and all of us he should know to help you with the girls perhaps he's just a little blind to it.

FeistyFille

Dude needs a reality check.  DH did this very briefly, and every time he complained about how tired he was, I wanted to punch him in the face.  This is no good for you, no good for your children, and no good that he thinks he gets to clock out.  Time for a coming to Jesus talk.

flymansWife

FeistyFille:

Dude needs a reality check.  DH did this very briefly, and every time he complained about how tired he was, I wanted to punch him in the face.  This is no good for you, no good for your children, and no good that he thinks he gets to clock out.  Time for a coming to Jesus talk.

i feel like we've had a dozen come to Jesus talks. DH is doing better but it's nothing like i think it should be... i'm sorry. its incredibly frustrating!

CagleBaby

Sinafey:

Everything you've said in this thread is eerily similar to what happened with my DH when DD was an infant.  So sorry you're dealing with that on top of a sick baby  

I tried to PM you but I can't figure out how to, I think they may have disabled them.  Do you have a decent baby carrier?  I have a ring sling that I'd love to give you, it could help you get things done while still keeping Sarah close and comforted.  Let me know. 

Thanks I have a hotsling and a moby. I do use them, but sometimes she won't even calm down while she is in them.

I just did a power clean of our kitchen While DH played Mario for the girls.

CagleBaby

flymansWife:

FeistyFille:

Dude needs a reality check.  DH did this very briefly, and every time he complained about how tired he was, I wanted to punch him in the face.  This is no good for you, no good for your children, and no good that he thinks he gets to clock out.  Time for a coming to Jesus talk.

i feel like we've had a dozen come to Jesus talks. DH is doing better but it's nothing like i think it should be... i'm sorry. its incredibly frustrating!

We have had some come to Jesus talks. Right now I am hiding in the compuer room while he has all three girls. I know it won't last long, but every min is awesome to me.

Abrooks

Big hugs!!!  When your DH is not half asleep - you need to have a serious conversation about his role as a parent.  Hang in there!!!!