Masturbating while in labor

preggersINschool25

This is a little awkward to post about, but I have been wondering about this for a while.  I know that some women have orgasmic births where the baby being born actually triggers an orgasm, but what about intentionally having an orgasm while you are in labor?

I know that these links are mostly testimonials and not scientific research, but what do you think?  I mean if I am going to poop in front of someone, why can't I have an orgasm to try and relieve the pain?  Is this weird?  Has this crossed your mind at all?  Thoughts?

 https://www.examiner.com/modern-love-in-national/orgasm-and-masturbation-the-new-epidural-for-birth

https://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/sensual/sensualbirth.html

https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/birth-stories/orgasm-a-tool-for-birth

messfam07

That is intense but thank you for sharring, my husband and i have some talking to do tonight.

preggersINschool25

All these views, and no opinions?  I find that hard to believe.  Don't be shy... Please speak up!

frogchic295

It helps the first day of my period when i am super crampy so i bet it would help especially in the begining and middle of labor... i think as far as family being there you could ask to rest alone for a half hour with dh ad take care of business... I bet it helps!

pinksweetpea2

I will be honest- I didn't click on the links, but as someone who has been through labor and given birth I can safely say that was the LAST thing on my mind at that point...or the few days before labor and the 6-8 weeks after giving birth.

The topic of orgasmic birth comes up a lot in the natural birth circles and although I am very open to most ideas surrounding natural birth, I have not been able to wrap my head around this one.  

SapphireDreamRock

FTM, so I have no idea what I'll be feeling/experiencing during labor.  I've also never heard of women having orgasms triggered by giving birth either--I'm not a non-believer, just haven't ever read/heard about it until you posted. 

I did read some of the testimonials in the link--but it honestly doesn't sound anything like what I picture birth to be. Especially because I am planning to deliver in a hospital, I don't think I would ask all the nurses to leave so I can give myself a "clitoral massage."  Perhaps some of my feelings toward this was the article itself, when one woman said, "Come baby, come mother.  Loud, deep-throated moaning helped ease all this muscular exertion. I still have erotic dreams about this really sexy and painless transition of labour."   I kind of feel like it was written like a romance novel, which is not my genre of choice.  I don't imagine giving birth as being sensual and arousing, but I obviously have no experience so who am I to nay-say? 

SeptemberBride'08

pinksweetpea2:

I will be honest- I didn't click on the links, but as someone who has been through labor and given birth I can safely say that was the LAST thing on my mind at that point...or the few days before labor and the 6-8 weeks after giving birth.

The topic of orgasmic birth comes up a lot in the natural birth circles and although I am very open to most ideas surrounding natural birth, I have not been able to wrap my head around this one.  

 

Although I've never been in labor I've been in immense amounts of pain before in my life and the last thing on my mind would be, hey, maybe I should try and masturbate to have a orgasm. 

katied022

I did not read the links (i'm sure they will be blocked here at work) and I'm not sure the idea is for me. However, my Aunt is a L&D nurse and she was with a patient and told them she would be right back in because she needed to go grab something. She came back to the room knocked and then walked in to find the laboring patient bent over the bed with her SO behind her. Yes, they were having sex during labor.

mkarns

Personal opinion...I just dont think I would ever want to associate my son and masturbating/orgasms. Plus, during pregnancy I havent hit the O while I'm not in pain...I'm pretty sure there is no way I'd be hitting it while I'm in pain. haha.

btartaroind

mkarns:

Personal opinion...I just dont think I would ever want to associate my son and masturbating/orgasms. Plus, during pregnancy I havent hit the O while I'm not in pain...I'm pretty sure there is no way I'd be hitting it while I'm in pain. haha.

My thoughts exactly. I can see where some would see it as a pain relief technique, but it's crossing a line in my head, and is a little odd to me.

slv0606

I can only imagine being a FTM but I am going to go with NO WAY! My thoughts are that this would be the absolute last thing on my mind. Just my personal opinion and I really don't want to associate my LO with that AT ALL!

jewerner

I'm honestly not entirely against it, ive heard of women orgasming but it ever even occurred to me to try and bring it on yourself.. hm. will have to give this some thought, thought i might be with pp a little in not associating LO with my orgasm. Definitely interesting and worth a thought though

Sweetest116

Definitely something I am NOT interested in, but it doesn't surprise me that some women try it.  I am a FTM but I assume when you're in labor you get to the point of "I'll try anything!!"... I just don't think this will make my list.

reizen

I haven't posted in the forums in AGES, but I'm intrigued by this post and give kudos to the OP for taking the chance and posting such an interesting and personal topic. :-) 

I've watched many labor and delivery type shows over the years and one that sticks out in my mind was a natural delivery where the mother did have an orgasm. It wasn't intentional but was a 'pleasant surprise' by her account. She was interested and excited to see if it would happen with her second. It didn't. Anyway, this actually got me thinking...  Who would turn down the opportunity to feel good while being in such pain?? I wouldn't turn it down, but I don't know if I would intentionally try to have an orgasm. Being a FTM I also don't know what labor feels like. When I go into labor if the thought crosses my mind and I have an interest in giving it a try to see if it would help, What the hell... why not give it a try? *shrug* It would of course have to be a very private thing with just my husband and I and no one else in the room. 

I totally get the fact that it would be the last thing on your mind, or that it would be uncomfortable to try to masturbate in a hospital but I find it interesting that I've seen so many replies that say they wouldn't want to associate masturbating and having an orgasm with their baby. It just seems odd and weird to me that you would even associate the two. Sex and (hopefully) orgasm is how you got into this position in the first place. If you were in labor and made the choice to try masturbating to release pain, I highly doubt you'd look at your baby (after delivery or at any age for that matter) and think "Ewww... I had an orgasm when I delivered you". As for having an unexpected orgasm during a natural delivery, do you really think you're going to be traumatized and think of your baby every time you have sex/orgasm?

 Just my 2 cents...

Jess.O

mirroredimage:

I have a little confession - I've kind of thought about this (previous to reading this post).  One of our massage tools is one of those 3 pronged vibrating massagers and I will openly admit that I've used it masturbate in the past. It feels amazing and I'm currently looking for a new one because the old one's motor (even thought it's battery operated) no longer works.   Since this will be in my labor bag anyway I've kind of thought about enjoying myself when I'm in labor.  I mean, I'd rather feel good than feel crappy.  Right now it's just a thought, whether or not I actually do it is another story. 

Good for you!  (Meant in an honest, non-snarky way.)  

I just finished reading a natural childbirth book and in it they mention how clitoral massage can help relax and things up.  IMO, I'd much rather do something natural like that than risk tearing or an episiotomy.   I don't know if I'd feel comfortable taking it "all the way" so to speak but who knows.  If we have privacy I might.  I don't think it's strange and I actually hope that I do have the confidence to do so. 

 

MollySm

I don't really O if my mind is on other things, so it seems like the chances that I won't be thinking of other things during labor would be pretty slim.  

Ya Never Know

I'm fairly certain that masturbating will be the LAST thing on my mind when I'm in labour. If it works for other women, then more power to them, but I just can't see it being even a remote thought in my mind at that time.

preggersINschool25

mirroredimage:

I have a little confession - I've kind of thought about this (previous to reading this post).  One of our massage tools is one of those 3 pronged vibrating massagers and I will openly admit that I've used it masturbate in the past. It feels amazing and I'm currently looking for a new one because the old one's motor (even thought it's battery operated) no longer works.   Since this will be in my labor bag anyway I've kind of thought about enjoying myself when I'm in labor.  I mean, I'd rather feel good than feel crappy.  Right now it's just a thought, whether or not I actually do it is another story. 

This is what I was thinking.  I really wish I could find some scientific journals on this topic, but I'm having trouble.  The closest thing I could find is this: https://artofbirth.com/Sexual%20Experiences%20of%20Women%20during%20Childbirth%20by%20Danielle%20Harel.pdf

But even that has a lot of testimonials.  If it helps speed up labor, reduce the risk of tearing, and can help manage pain, then it sounds like something I might like to try.  I know I probably won't feel "in the mood" but after a taking an initiative to start things, I usually want to finish.

For the people who don't want to associate your baby with an orgasm, I mean that is how you made the baby in the first place.  I know it is a little weird to think about, but not so much if you put things in perspective.  It doesn't seem any more creepy to me than breast feeding...

Daisy07gray

FTM too and I have no clue what I'll want to do-- but I feel like DH will be all over this.  Since we would like to go natural, it's a possibility for us (but, sex hasn't been easy/ comfortable so I don't see that happening while in labor!).  I'm tagging these links and wanted to thank you for sharing/ asking such a potentially controversial question!  

I think the more tools and tricks we start out with the more comfortable I'll be trying to figure out how to labor.   

mrsacp

katied022:

I did not read the links (i'm sure they will be blocked here at work) and I'm not sure the idea is for me. However, my Aunt is a L&D nurse and she was with a patient and told them she would be right back in because she needed to go grab something. She came back to the room knocked and then walked in to find the laboring patient bent over the bed with her SO behind her. Yes, they were having sex during labor.

 

LMAO!!!

Lena122

I can't imagine being comfortable with anyone touching me down there during labor. If I was laboring alone with only DH I may consider the massaging aspect but that's much too personal and intimate for me to do with others around.

bethanyturon

This is something that was recommended in one of the labor books I read (Ina May's Guide to Childbirth).  She tended to more recommend kissing and just being close, but did mention the possibility of orgasm during birth.  I watched the "Orgasmic Birth" documentary and that seemed a little out there.  BUT - for me - I'm definitely open to laboring at home as long as possible, alone with DH, and doing whatever makes me feel better at the moment.  I'm one of those that found that an orgasm took away period pain - so this could be similar.  They also say nipple stimulation helps - in a bunch of different sources.  I doubt I'll want to do any of this in front of anyone other than DH, though.

cvillecouple

katied022:

I did not read the links (i'm sure they will be blocked here at work) and I'm not sure the idea is for me. However, my Aunt is a L&D nurse and she was with a patient and told them she would be right back in because she needed to go grab something. She came back to the room knocked and then walked in to find the laboring patient bent over the bed with her SO behind her. Yes, they were having sex during labor.

oh, my, god.  I cannot even imagine how anyone would want to, or would be physically able to have sex during labor... A friend of mine said she and her DH had sex the morning before she went in to be induced, but she wasn't actually in labor at the time!

cvillecouple

pinksweetpea2:

I will be honest- I didn't click on the links, but as someone who has been through labor and given birth I can safely say that was the LAST thing on my mind at that point...or the few days before labor and the 6-8 weeks after giving birth.

The topic of orgasmic birth comes up a lot in the natural birth circles and although I am very open to most ideas surrounding natural birth, I have not been able to wrap my head around this one.  

I mean really!  This exactly. 

FirstSchatz

reizen:

...I find it interesting that I've seen so many replies that say they wouldn't want to associate masturbating and having an orgasm with their baby. It just seems odd and weird to me that you would even associate the two. Sex and (hopefully) orgasm is how you got into this position in the first place. If you were in labor and made the choice to try masturbating to release pain, I highly doubt you'd look at your baby (after delivery or at any age for that matter) and think "Ewww... I had an orgasm when I delivered you". As for having an unexpected orgasm during a natural delivery, do you really think you're going to be traumatized and think of your baby every time you have sex/orgasm?

 Just my 2 cents...

I completely agree with this.  You felt good getting the baby in there, why not try feeling good to get it out?

I'm a FTM.  I have made the choice to have a pain-free, medication-free birth.  (Yes, I've said I've decided not to feel pain during labor...)  If enjoying myself can help with that goal, I'm all for it!  When our bodies are producing the feel good hormones, they're not producing the hormones that create stress (and therefor, pain...).  So go ahead if you want to, give it a try!  I know I would!

crystalinak

Masturbation has helped me quite a bit through all of the terrible pain I've experienced so far, so you bet I'm going to try it through labor! I'm only four months along and I'm finally physically able to walk again after two weeks of bed rest because of lower back spasms caused by our great friend relaxin. I'll take massage over needles and knives in the birthing room any day!