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Update on name change.
While my attorney was super nice, the news wasn't what I was hoping for. Basically, it will all depend on what kind of judge we get and whether he/she agrees that changing their names is in their best interest. There's also a possibility that they will allow me to change DD, but not DS since he wasn't technically a victim.
So it's wait and see at this point. I'm going to need more time to save up the $$ for the court fees. They're about twice what I was expecting and I'm torn as to whether or not to spend all this money on something that may not even happen. I didn't realize how important this was to me until I was told it might not happen, so I've shed a lot of tears the last few days. I'm just beyond tired of fighting for every little thing.
On a somewhat humorous note, this morning DD was going through old photos for her cork-board and took it upon herself to put a thumbtack through her father's face on every picture. It's probably not the healthiest way for her to express her anger at him, but it was pretty damn funny. We were all cracking up. At least we can find humor in our dysfunction.
I also confirmed that Ex-H may be able to apply for early release in March, so I'm gearing up for that fight. I'm going to worry about it after the holidays though. FML.
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Re: Update on name change.
You gotta try....sucks about the money though. Can we help?? Nesticlause??? You are breaking my heart, and I think its stupid if they changed your DD's but not your DS....STUPID.
Focus on the holidays right now....try to enjoy them. You have all January, Feb, and March to deal with the ex-H....(easier said then done, I know....hard to put worry on back burners)
and most importantly
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I don't know how you keep going! I seriously don't. I would have crumbled by now. A long time ago, likely.
I know it probably gets old hearing it - and you probably don't feel it yourself - but you are really strong. And you have taken something sofuckingshitty and really done some amazingly positive things with it - not only in your own personal life but for others as well. Keep hanging on to that!
Please let me know if there is anything that I can do to help you through this.
(((HUGS)))
No kidding. My attorney even said: "This would be so much easier if you just hadn't been married to their father." He was being facetious, but how effed up is that?
I wonder if the judge would be more sympathetic if they know how the media coverage made it easy to figure out who you and the kids are?
Your DD is amazing -- being able to express herself so well!
I'm livid for you about the early release.
I do get a chance to speak and make my case, so I'm hopeful that will help. My attorney is also a Judge in the same county and seems to think most of the other Judges will be pretty sympathetic. He gives it a 50/50 shot of working.
What!? To think there's a judge who wouldn't approve this request or approve it only for your daughter is appalling! I have to believe you have a good chance of it happening.
And another big WTF to him possibly being released in March. I wish you tons of luck.