Are you bringing anything for the nurses?

kristen+at+bcb

I had lunch with a friend of mine who's an L&D nurse today and asked her if this was silly or appreciated. She said it is always appreciated but totally not necessary. I'm not sure if I will or not; I know DH would think it was silly to bring a goodie basket or something. 

 Do any of you plan on bringing a gift? If so, what? 

janamg

I am going to have my hubby bring in doughnuts or something the next morning. It is a very small OB wing I think there are only 6 rooms so there are only a few nurses so you can really get to know them. I think they would like it. 

Nichole06

No. I'll be there for several days and have lots of nurses because of that. When I had DS I made a point of writing down the names of the nurses I bonded with and that I felt were great. When I got home I wrote them each a short thank you. I know a nurse that works in the nursery and she said those are great because they go in their files and their supervisors see them.

CamJack mom

nope, they are nurses, doing their job. My cousin is an RN in L&D and she always wonders why people give them stuff. She says it is of course appreciated, but why would you give a gift to them for doing what their job entails.

indomesticbliss

yeah, no. I had a really bad exprience with the PP nurses last time (we got stuck at the hospital for 6 hours because they lost LO's records and claimed we had given birth to a girl... Just one example of many.)

if I had a nurse or a few that went above and beyond I would contact the nurse manager and sing their praises. I think bringing treats is a little silly.

kwinkle1980

I have never heard of anyone bringing stuff to the nurses. I am not going to do that. It seems a little inappropriate. They are doing their job, not a favor.

Ricola

I think it's a really nice gesture for sure. So the route a PP is going by having her DH bring in donuts or something like that the next morning is a good one, I think, and I might steal that idea 

Even though it's their job, it never hurts to appreciate them. teachers just do their jobs and get presents all the time, no? When I worked at the reception desk at a hotel, I always thought it was nice when a guest brought me chocolate or something. It doesn't hurt to be nice, even though people get paid for doing their job. 

KScheibe12

I will be bringing a gift basket.  We're hoping for a med-free/intervention-free birth which doesn't always go over well.  So, handing them a gift basket before handing them our birth plan may make them more receptive to our wishes.  Maybe not... but it's worth a try

TauntyCupcake

Well, I plan on making a big batch of puppy chow and will probably make up some goodie bags and just putting them in the bag.

micaela421

Yes, we have been to the L&D twice and I know it's their job but just want to show them our appreciation, we were thinking like a box of pastries for every shift. 

kylayton

I don't think it's expected or necessary but I definitely don't think it's inappropriate.  

I work in a leasing office and new residents often bring us little thank you's.  I think a thank you card and a treat is more than enough.  If they gave me a gift basket or something expensive I might feel a little awkward. 

kristen+at+bcb

I really like the idea of notes for the nurses who go above and beyond - that sounds like the route I might go. I'm a big fan of handwritten notes, so it's right up my alley.   

LDQAM516

Uh, nope!

KatieMcClure86

No.  I will be in there for a few days and will have many nurses come and go.

CamJack mom

Ricola:

I think it's a really nice gesture for sure. So the route a PP is going by having her DH bring in donuts or something like that the next morning is a good one, I think, and I might steal that idea 

Even though it's their job, it never hurts to appreciate them. teachers just do their jobs and get presents all the time, no? When I worked at the reception desk at a hotel, I always thought it was nice when a guest brought me chocolate or something. It doesn't hurt to be nice, even though people get paid for doing their job. 

 

I am a teacher. I rarely get presents except for CHristmas which is usually $5 gift cards to starbucks. I do like the donut idea, but I am saying that bringing in a gift seems silly. I think doing something nice for them if you have a positive experience if a nice gesture.

lageorgiapaperie

I had DH run out and buy a couple boxes of cookies that we left at one of the nursing stations.

We did the same thing for the NICU nurses on the day we brought Harry home. 

lilwildthing

I think I'll probably do one of those edible arrangements. Many of the nurses do go above and beyond, and it is always appropriate to show appreciation.

alexvause

I was raised to show appreciation where it is due and I plan to do so.

alicorl

ruby soho:

I was raised to show appreciation where it is due and I plan to do so.

Same here!

EvenAngelsFall

alicorl:

ruby soho:

I was raised to show appreciation where it is due and I plan to do so.

Same here!

....Perhaps.... but AFTER the fact, definitely not before!

I'd rather give a THANK YOU gift (if the staff goes above an beyond) then what might appear to be a kiss-assy gift before anything happens.

We shall see. 

NYGirl02

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

kylayton

NYGirl02:

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

I could only see this being an issue if you were trying to give them cash or something.  I highly doubt it's against policy to accept a nice box of chocolate and a thank you card. 

DaisyKD

If I feel like we have bonded with them and/or they have gone above and beyond I will send a thank you note and possibly have DH bring cookies or something.  

I do find it a little bit strange to just show up at the hospital with something right away before you even know them, it seems more appropriate after the fact if you feel like you have gotten to know them and gotten good care.

NYGirl02

kylayton:

NYGirl02:

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

I could only see this being an issue if you were trying to give them cash or something.  I highly doubt it's against policy to accept a nice box of chocolate and a thank you card. 

One would think.  However, it was seriously against the policy at a hospital that I worked at that I was technically not even allowed to accept a drawing a child drew.  Now, that doesn't mean we followed that....I am certainly not going to break some kids heart because of a policy like that.  But anything that is purchased at all, I am technically supposed to refuse.  I currently work at job #3 where this has been the case.  I am also not allowed to accept any food or drink that is offered.  I realize it's been taken to the extreme, but it is truly a really awkward position for me to be in.

Sometimes thank you cards would be sent after the fact, but that was about the extent of it.

brookie9

I grabbed 3 big bags of different types of m&m's for the nurses. It's easy and keeps and I hid it in the bottom of the bag so I wouldn't be tempted!

micaela421

kylayton:

NYGirl02:

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

I could only see this being an issue if you were trying to give them cash or something.  I highly doubt it's against policy to accept a nice box of chocolate and a thank you card. 

In the hospital we are going to deliver money is not allowed but food for the staff is allowed, if there is a nurse or staff who has done something above and beyond what they expected a nice letter is what I plan to give to their managers. 

kylayton

NYGirl02:

kylayton:

NYGirl02:

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

I could only see this being an issue if you were trying to give them cash or something.  I highly doubt it's against policy to accept a nice box of chocolate and a thank you card. 

One would think.  However, it was seriously against the policy at a hospital that I worked at that I was technically not even allowed to accept a drawing a child drew.  Now, that doesn't mean we followed that....I am certainly not going to break some kids heart because of a policy like that.  But anything that is purchased at all, I am technically supposed to refuse.  I currently work at job #3 where this has been the case.  I am also not allowed to accept any food or drink that is offered.  I realize it's been taken to the extreme, but it is truly a really awkward position for me to be in.

Sometimes thank you cards would be sent after the fact, but that was about the extent of it.

Yeah I definitely wouldn't try to give the nurses a homemade treat.  I never eat anything others make me unless I know them well. Maybe L&D is more lax than other areas of the hospital?  

NYGirl02

kylayton:

NYGirl02:

kylayton:

NYGirl02:

Even though I think it's really nice, it can actually be really awkward for the person it's being given to.  I have worked in a few different jobs where I have done home visiting, and where I have worked in hospitals and at every job it has been a policy that I am NOT TO ACCEPT gifts.  It's considered a boundary issue.  I've been put in a really awkward position because of it.  I don't want to make the person who is just showing their appreciation feel bad or guilty, but I could seriously lose my job because of it.  Just something to keep in mind. 

I could only see this being an issue if you were trying to give them cash or something.  I highly doubt it's against policy to accept a nice box of chocolate and a thank you card. 

One would think.  However, it was seriously against the policy at a hospital that I worked at that I was technically not even allowed to accept a drawing a child drew.  Now, that doesn't mean we followed that....I am certainly not going to break some kids heart because of a policy like that.  But anything that is purchased at all, I am technically supposed to refuse.  I currently work at job #3 where this has been the case.  I am also not allowed to accept any food or drink that is offered.  I realize it's been taken to the extreme, but it is truly a really awkward position for me to be in.

Sometimes thank you cards would be sent after the fact, but that was about the extent of it.

Yeah I definitely wouldn't try to give the nurses a homemade treat.  I never eat anything others make me unless I know them well. Maybe L&D is more lax than other areas of the hospital?  

Very possible.  Also, it's possible it's the policy but people accept anyway because they don't want to be rude.  I know I have accepted a couple small things even though it was against the rules.  It just seemed way more inappropriate to decline the gift.  I would also think bringing something for the entire staff would be more acceptable than just giving something to one person.  This is all just my experience though.

uncharch7

no.

sept9107bride

Only if I deliver on christmas eve/day or NEw years eve/day...cause it's a holiday away from family.