FFFC anyone?

brookelynpaisley

brooklynesque:

katyj25:

My FFFC confession of the day is this:

 A good friend of mine just had her baby 2 weeks ago. From the very first night in the hospital, they would not allow the baby to be picked up if he were crying. They want to "self soothe". I visited 2 days after the baby was born and when he started to cry, I had to ask permission to pick him up. Mom and dad were going to let him cry. They agreed to let me pick him up and when I did, he had a dirty diaper. I felt so terribly sorry for the little guy and I feel that trying to "self soothe" that young is child abuse in my eyes.

Now every day since the little guy was born, both of their FB status messages are just them biiiitching about having to be up all night and the baby not ever stopping crying. I want so badly to come and take the little guy off their hands, since they are acting like he is such a burden. I even offered to baby sit this weekend. I hope they take my up on the offer. Thinking about it just makes me want to cry and makes my heart ache.

That's awful.  2-week-olds are supposed to be soothed by their PARENTS.  Where did they get the horrid idea that a newborn can self-soothe?

This post just makes me sad. Babies aren't supposed to self-soothe until much later. I'd be calling CPS, personally, even if it's just to get them some guidance or parenting classes. That poor baby

honeygirl500

katyj25:

My FFFC confession of the day is this:

 A good friend of mine just had her baby 2 weeks ago. From the very first night in the hospital, they would not allow the baby to be picked up if he were crying. They want to "self soothe". I visited 2 days after the baby was born and when he started to cry, I had to ask permission to pick him up. Mom and dad were going to let him cry. They agreed to let me pick him up and when I did, he had a dirty diaper. I felt so terribly sorry for the little guy and I feel that trying to "self soothe" that young is child abuse in my eyes.

Now every day since the little guy was born, both of their FB status messages are just them biiiitching about having to be up all night and the baby not ever stopping crying. I want so badly to come and take the little guy off their hands, since they are acting like he is such a burden. I even offered to baby sit this weekend. I hope they take my up on the offer. Thinking about it just makes me want to cry and makes my heart ache.

That is so awful.  Do you know any family members you could mention something to?  Sounds like they could use some parenting advice.  That is really depressing.

tombomb84

I confess that I have pretty much cried nonstop since Wednesday morning when I realized my BFP was fading away, barely got out of bed and didn't go to work. I confess that I plan to get really drunk tonight with my best friend, wallow in my sorrow this weekend and then find a way to snap the f*ck out of it on Monday.

tombomb84

Bump burp

farmerlynda

genmalone:

brookelynpaisley:

sbrowns08:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

I couldn't agree more which is why I didn't respond.  I think she's really sweet but I though it was in poor taste on so many levels.

I'll add more.  I can't stand it when people intro here after 6 months of TTC and then want to post their BFP and all their betas at 7 or 8 months TTC.  I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but it annoys me.  Keep in mind that I intro'd at 6 months TTC but had enough sense that if it happened in the first few months of treatment I would of just moved to my BMB.  I know I'm just bitter but after being on 3T for over a year it just gets hard to be happy for those that are here for 1 month.

I totally agree with all of this.  I was pretty surprised when she posted without a ticker warning -- it kind of shocked me when I opened it up.  That said, I still think she's a sweetheart... but is better suited to PAIF at this stage of her journey than here.  

doggie mama

genmalone:

doggie mama:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

Sorry to get off track, but can someone explain what a BMB is? I can usually figure these things out, but this one has me stumped.

My FFFC is that I have done zero work today. I am 8dp5dt and my beta is Monday and I have horrible cramps and I just can't concentrate on anything besides whether this worked.

Birth Month Board, ie July 2012 Moms.

Thanks!

sbrowns08

farmerlynda:

genmalone:

brookelynpaisley:

sbrowns08:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

I couldn't agree more which is why I didn't respond.  I think she's really sweet but I though it was in poor taste on so many levels.

I'll add more.  I can't stand it when people intro here after 6 months of TTC and then want to post their BFP and all their betas at 7 or 8 months TTC.  I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but it annoys me.  Keep in mind that I intro'd at 6 months TTC but had enough sense that if it happened in the first few months of treatment I would of just moved to my BMB.  I know I'm just bitter but after being on 3T for over a year it just gets hard to be happy for those that are here for 1 month.

I totally agree with all of this.  I was pretty surprised when she posted without a ticker warning -- it kind of shocked me when I opened it up.  That said, I still think she's a sweetheart... but is better suited to PAIF at this stage of her journey than here.  

Exactly. PAIF exists for a this exact reason. Heck, we all want to be there! 

farmerlynda

katyj25:

brooklynesque:

katyj25:

My FFFC confession of the day is this:

 A good friend of mine just had her baby 2 weeks ago. From the very first night in the hospital, they would not allow the baby to be picked up if he were crying. They want to "self soothe". I visited 2 days after the baby was born and when he started to cry, I had to ask permission to pick him up. Mom and dad were going to let him cry. They agreed to let me pick him up and when I did, he had a dirty diaper. I felt so terribly sorry for the little guy and I feel that trying to "self soothe" that young is child abuse in my eyes.

Now every day since the little guy was born, both of their FB status messages are just them biiiitching about having to be up all night and the baby not ever stopping crying. I want so badly to come and take the little guy off their hands, since they are acting like he is such a burden. I even offered to baby sit this weekend. I hope they take my up on the offer. Thinking about it just makes me want to cry and makes my heart ache.

That's awful.  2-week-olds are supposed to be soothed by their PARENTS.  Where did they get the horrid idea that a newborn can self-soothe?

 

Trust me, I wish I knew. I think it is more the husband that is pushing for it rather than the mom. I feel awful for that little guy.

That's so sad, and breaks my heart!  Why are these the people who are able to have children without any trouble....

Kathy4678

sbrowns08:

farmerlynda:

genmalone:

brookelynpaisley:

sbrowns08:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

I couldn't agree more which is why I didn't respond.  I think she's really sweet but I though it was in poor taste on so many levels.

I'll add more.  I can't stand it when people intro here after 6 months of TTC and then want to post their BFP and all their betas at 7 or 8 months TTC.  I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but it annoys me.  Keep in mind that I intro'd at 6 months TTC but had enough sense that if it happened in the first few months of treatment I would of just moved to my BMB.  I know I'm just bitter but after being on 3T for over a year it just gets hard to be happy for those that are here for 1 month.

I totally agree with all of this.  I was pretty surprised when she posted without a ticker warning -- it kind of shocked me when I opened it up.  That said, I still think she's a sweetheart... but is better suited to PAIF at this stage of her journey than here.  

Exactly. PAIF exists for a this exact reason. Heck, we all want to be there! 

Exactly. The post should have been on PAIF. Not here.

brookelynpaisley

I'm tired of having to do fvcking everything with my in-laws. I get that they're my DH's parents, but we have never had a BBQ at our house with just our friends without them coming over (they usually happen to call and when MIL tells DH they're just hanging out he invites them over). Our friend, who's stationed in Hawaii, is coming to town this weekend and we're having a BBQ, and my obnoxious FIL (my dislike toward the "in-laws" is 99% geared toward him) will be there making his stupid racist jokes and eating with his mouth full and being a general moron. I just want to have a BBQ with our friends.

Not to mention, this particular friend is FIL's favorite. He was also here at Father's Day and took FIL to the shooting range where they had machine gun rentals for the weekend. FIL called it the best Father's Day ever. Really? Because someone who's not your biological son paid for you to shoot off 300 rounds in 10 seconds? On a day when your biological sons aren't even with you (BIL is in MD, DH was on call and had to leave to go to work)? THAT's your best Father's Day ever? Awesome. Good to know. I was only thankful my husband wasn't there to hear that comment.

/rant

I'm just in a funk this week, and I want nothing more than to go home and go to bed.

kz's_girlygirl

My confession is kinda funny, but mostly depressing. I was in Pottery Barn kids the other day (that's a confession on it's own!) and when I checked out, the clerk was telling me how there is a mommy-and-me type tea party event coming up. Since I was buying baby stuff anyway (not for me!) I said, "Great! My daughter will be so excited!". Fml.

genmalone

kz's_girlygirl:

My confession is kinda funny, but mostly depressing. I was in Pottery Barn kids the other day (that's a confession on it's own!) and when I checked out, the clerk was telling me how there is a mommy-and-me type tea party event coming up. Since I was buying baby stuff anyway (not for me!) I said, "Great! My daughter will be so excited!". Fml.

I've got one kinda similar.  I donate blood every quarter but haven't wanted to the last few months because I struggle to not have low iron and I'm afraid it could effect TTC (even though my RE said I could donate at the beginning of my cycle).  Anywho, if you don't donate regularly they will call you every few days to get you to donate.  I find it really annoying but understand.  Last month I told them I was pregnant so they would stop calling.  Well, it worked but I feel guilty now.

Mrs.Slick

katyj25:

My FFFC confession of the day is this:

 A good friend of mine just had her baby 2 weeks ago. From the very first night in the hospital, they would not allow the baby to be picked up if he were crying. They want to "self soothe". I visited 2 days after the baby was born and when he started to cry, I had to ask permission to pick him up. Mom and dad were going to let him cry. They agreed to let me pick him up and when I did, he had a dirty diaper. I felt so terribly sorry for the little guy and I feel that trying to "self soothe" that young is child abuse in my eyes.

Now every day since the little guy was born, both of their FB status messages are just them biiiitching about having to be up all night and the baby not ever stopping crying. I want so badly to come and take the little guy off their hands, since they are acting like he is such a burden. I even offered to baby sit this weekend. I hope they take my up on the offer. Thinking about it just makes me want to cry and makes my heart ache.

That is messed up and borderline child abuse. Newborns can't self soothe. If they're crying there is a reason.  

Mrs.Slick

My confession: 

I wrote a blog post about this already but at my baseline last week (I think it was last week anyway...) I did something I never would have thought possible. 

I was tired, going on several days with little to no sleep.

The nurse dimmed the lights for my u/s. I laid down and...and...and...

I FELL ASLEEP!  I fell asleep while being violated by a dildo cam.

It was only for a split second and I don't think she noticed but I think I hit a new all time low.  

kellyrn9956

I confess that I am very judgy of people suffering from IF that avoid contact with children or "write people off" because they made an insensitive comment. Yes, it makes me very sad that I don't have a child, but when I do finally get pregnant, I don't want to look back at my life and say "Gosh, I wish I had been closer to my niece/nephew/godchild/etc." or "Why did I push that friend away when she just couldn't understand my situation?"

To me, life is way too short to let my IF affect my relationships with others, unless the other person does something absolutely heinous or says something insensitive that they actual mean in a mean way.

Maybe I'm just a cold b*tch, but I refuse to let my IF affect every single part of my life. Life is too precious, and there's not much I can do in the meantime except try my hardest to get pregnant and try to live a happy life.

racheyt0227

kellyrn9956:

I confess that I am very judgy of people suffering from IF that avoid contact with children or "write people off" because they made an insensitive comment. Yes, it makes me very sad that I don't have a child, but when I do finally get pregnant, I don't want to look back at my life and say "Gosh, I wish I had been closer to my niece/nephew/godchild/etc." or "Why did I push that friend away when she just couldn't understand my situation?"

To me, life is way too short to let my IF affect my relationships with others, unless the other person does something absolutely heinous or says something insensitive that they actual mean in a mean way.

Maybe I'm just a cold b*tch, but I refuse to let my IF affect every single part of my life. Life is too precious, and there's not much I can do in the meantime except try my hardest to get pregnant and try to live a happy life.

 

This is 100% me as well. I just don't get why people let it affect them so much. I know it can sometimes sting, etc when you see other babies/children, but I don't get not wanting to be around them at all..Especially family/friends children.