FFFC anyone?

brookelynpaisley

I woke up Wednesday thinking - totally out of the blue - "I'm pregnant, I just know it. The timing was pretty non-existant, but I just have this feeling." Yeah, Wednesday turned into CD1, so WRONG. But I confess I haven't been that confident about being pregnant since cycle 1.

TJ1979

Last cycle I had a BFN on d14piui but no AF till 17dpiui.  Those 3 days, I had totally convinced myself that no matter how many BFNs I saw, the sticks were wrong.  Although I had also almost convinced myself that it was going to be a late implant, abnormal chromosome m/c again.  So it actually wasn't as hard to see AF as I thought because as much as a BFN sucks, m/c is way harder.  Only time I've ever been relieved to see a BFN.  The mind is a funny thing.

brookelynpaisley

Apparently, I have a few: 

DH and I are seriously considering not doing gifts for adult family members for Christmas this year and just spending the budget on our friends' kids.

I confess I was judgy about ladies here mentioning not wanting to celebrate Christmas this year. It seemed dramatic to me. And then I walked into Target and came across a misplaced "Baby's First Christmas" bib and got teary. I get it now, and I'm sorry for judging.

Robeano

sorry for AF showing up.

And I've done the same thing before, and it just sucks. I wish we all that that bright and shiny optimisim that all the newbs get when they first TTC. IF blows.

Kathy4678

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

jessican08

Robeano:

sorry for AF showing up.

And I've done the same thing before, and it just sucks. I wish we all had that that bright and shiny optimisim that all the newbs get when they first TTC. IF blows.

This!

 

farmerlynda

My FFFC is that my coworker is incredibly insensitive to our IF struggles, but I'm just too chicken to ask her to act otherwise.  I don't want to come off as a bitter biitch, so I will likely just sit there and take it until she goes on maternity leave (which isn't until May).

I'm trying to get work done, and the pregnancy and baby talk is non-stop.  All she could talk about yesterday was how her brother wasn't allowing kids at his wedding, so she's dropping out of the wedding party. 

At one point the Duggars came up and she said, "The Duggars must be the most fertile couple ever" which just really made me feel crappy.

She of course is KU with #2, and is one of those people that gets pregnant the first cycle trying.

jessican08

I judge people who are extremely picky eaters. Don't get me wrong, there are some foods I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole because they seem gross to me (liver, caviar, "sweet breads", etc.) but I can't imagine trying to go through life as an adult who eats like a 5 year old. Espeically when it comes to eating out with friends or going over to someone's home for dinner.

For example, I have a co-worker who basically lives on chicken fingers, french fries and potatoes. He won't eat ANY vegetables, fish, condiments, etc. 

Robeano

I confess that I got jealous when a girl I know (who has been trying to get pregnant for a while, don't know if there was any issues besides it taking a while) got pregnant and my first thought was "dang, there's another one who "beat me to it"."  It's almost like I wanted somebody to "share my misery" Like nobody else can be happy cuz I can't be happy. Terrible I know.

Sometimes I wish I could be that IF exception, get pregnant right away, well I'm at 2 1/2 years and two m/c. I seem pretty normal for the IF world.

jessican08

farmerlynda:

My FFFC is that my coworker is incredibly insensitive to our IF struggles, but I'm just too chicken to ask her to act otherwise.  I don't want to come off as a bitter biitch, so I will likely just sit there and take it until she goes on maternity leave (which isn't until May).

I'm trying to get work done, and the pregnancy and baby talk is non-stop.  All she could talk about yesterday was how her brother wasn't allowing kids at his wedding, so she's dropping out of the wedding party. 

At one point the Duggars came up and she said, "The Duggars must be the most fertile couple ever" which just really made me feel crappy.

She of course is KU with #2, and is one of those people that gets pregnant the first cycle trying.

Another FFFC - I think it's immature for someone to drop out of a wedding because it's for adults only and their kids aren't invited. I get that if you have a newborn or are BF that you may not be able to attend, but hey...it is what it is. It's that couples' wedding, they're paying for it, I don't think it's too much to ask to ask you to find a babysitter for a few hours.

I was just in my best friend's wedding and her brother didn't go for the same reason. He had months to make arrangements for child care but he took it personally.

Rvnsgrl81

First of all thank all of you wonderful ladies for everything and all your encouragement I truly appreciate it.

Unfortunately I had to cancel my IUI for this cycle. I hope we can get things straightened out for next cycle.

Robeano

jessican08:

farmerlynda:

My FFFC is that my coworker is incredibly insensitive to our IF struggles, but I'm just too chicken to ask her to act otherwise.  I don't want to come off as a bitter biitch, so I will likely just sit there and take it until she goes on maternity leave (which isn't until May).

I'm trying to get work done, and the pregnancy and baby talk is non-stop.  All she could talk about yesterday was how her brother wasn't allowing kids at his wedding, so she's dropping out of the wedding party. 

At one point the Duggars came up and she said, "The Duggars must be the most fertile couple ever" which just really made me feel crappy.

She of course is KU with #2, and is one of those people that gets pregnant the first cycle trying.

Another FFFC - I think it's immature for someone to drop out of a wedding because it's for adults only and their kids aren't invited. I get that if you have a newborn or are BF that you may not be able to attend, but hey...it is what it is. It's that couples' wedding, they're paying for it, I don't think it's too much to ask to ask you to find a babysitter for a few hours.

I was just in my best friend's wedding and her brother didn't go for the same reason. He had months to make arrangements for child care but he took it personally.

YES I hate this two. I had a similar experience with my cousin's wedding. My BIL an SIL waited until last minute to find a babysitter (luckily they did) But my SIL knew about the wedding for months, and tried to get the day off work like the week before the wedding, and ended up not getting it off. Uh they send out invitations in advance for a reason dummy

TJ1979

farmerlynda:

My FFFC is that my coworker is incredibly insensitive to our IF struggles, but I'm just too chicken to ask her to act otherwise.  I don't want to come off as a bitter biitch, so I will likely just sit there and take it until she goes on maternity leave (which isn't until May).

I'm trying to get work done, and the pregnancy and baby talk is non-stop.  All she could talk about yesterday was how her brother wasn't allowing kids at his wedding, so she's dropping out of the wedding party. 

At one point the Duggars came up and she said, "The Duggars must be the most fertile couple ever" which just really made me feel crappy.

She of course is KU with #2, and is one of those people that gets pregnant the first cycle trying.

 Omg I've been dealing with exactly this.  The entire time it was like pregnancy this pregnancy that non-stop all day long.  It's been so blessedly quiet since she's been gone, but I know as soon as she comes back it'll be constant Baby 1 this Baby 2 that.  And I feel so bad because I adore her as a friend.  But at work, she never stops talking about her pregnancy and her babies and it drives me insane!  I took to wearing headphones all day from the time I m/c to the time she left for maternity leave because I just couldn't deal with her.  I'm sorry you're dealing with this too.

 

racheyt0227

My SIL gave me all her maternity clothes as she is done having kids. She is smaller than me, so some of the stuff won't fit (although a lot does look like it will!) so I wore a pair of the pants to work yesterday because they fit me now. lol!

sbrowns08

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

brookelynpaisley

jessican08:

farmerlynda:

My FFFC is that my coworker is incredibly insensitive to our IF struggles, but I'm just too chicken to ask her to act otherwise.  I don't want to come off as a bitter biitch, so I will likely just sit there and take it until she goes on maternity leave (which isn't until May).

I'm trying to get work done, and the pregnancy and baby talk is non-stop.  All she could talk about yesterday was how her brother wasn't allowing kids at his wedding, so she's dropping out of the wedding party. 

At one point the Duggars came up and she said, "The Duggars must be the most fertile couple ever" which just really made me feel crappy.

She of course is KU with #2, and is one of those people that gets pregnant the first cycle trying.

Another FFFC - I think it's immature for someone to drop out of a wedding because it's for adults only and their kids aren't invited. I get that if you have a newborn or are BF that you may not be able to attend, but hey...it is what it is. It's that couples' wedding, they're paying for it, I don't think it's too much to ask to ask you to find a babysitter for a few hours.

I was just in my best friend's wedding and her brother didn't go for the same reason. He had months to make arrangements for child care but he took it personally.

I agree with you except for the fact that I think it's ridiculous to not make an exception for a newborn, and a BFing one at that.

brookelynpaisley

sbrowns08:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

tayray1

Rvnsgrl81:

First of all thank all of you wonderful ladies for everything and all your encouragement I truly appreciate it.

Unfortunately I had to cancel my IUI for this cycle. I hope we can get things straightened out for next cycle.

 

Aww, I'm sorry to hear this. FX that you guys do get things figured out! I'm rooting for you!!

I recorded the "Ask the Duggars", and the mom kept saying that "God gave me this child", or something to that effect and it made me sad and angry. I understand she believes that, and maybe a lot of people do, but where's our babies? Does God not want us to be mother's? My brain cannot comprehend that some people get babies, while others do not..am I alone in this?

racheyt0227

tayray1:

Rvnsgrl81:

First of all thank all of you wonderful ladies for everything and all your encouragement I truly appreciate it.

Unfortunately I had to cancel my IUI for this cycle. I hope we can get things straightened out for next cycle.

 

Aww, I'm sorry to hear this. FX that you guys do get things figured out! I'm rooting for you!!

I recorded the "Ask the Duggars", and the mom kept saying that "God gave me this child", or something to that effect and it made me sad and angry. I understand she believes that, and maybe a lot of people do, but where's our babies? Does God not want us to be mother's? My brain cannot comprehend that some people get babies, while others do not..am I alone in this?

 

I said the same exact thing in a post on my local board. It bugs me that she said god wanted her to have it. Guess that means I dont deserve to have a baby..

Robeano

This confession is kinda gross, but it also kinda made me laugh... like in the "i'm a highschool boy kinda way"

I had this nasty zit, the like under the skin kind. It's been painful and gross (stupid hormones!)

Well I just popped it, and it hit the mirror!!! EWWWW!!! Gross, but funny.

genmalone

brookelynpaisley:

sbrowns08:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

This.

I couldn't agree more which is why I didn't respond.  I think she's really sweet but I though it was in poor taste on so many levels.

I'll add more.  I can't stand it when people intro here after 6 months of TTC and then want to post their BFP and all their betas at 7 or 8 months TTC.  I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but it annoys me.  Keep in mind that I intro'd at 6 months TTC but had enough sense that if it happened in the first few months of treatment I would of just moved to my BMB.  I know I'm just bitter but after being on 3T for over a year it just gets hard to be happy for those that are here for 1 month.

MsGMChick

racheyt0227:

tayray1:

Rvnsgrl81:

First of all thank all of you wonderful ladies for everything and all your encouragement I truly appreciate it.

Unfortunately I had to cancel my IUI for this cycle. I hope we can get things straightened out for next cycle.

 

Aww, I'm sorry to hear this. FX that you guys do get things figured out! I'm rooting for you!!

I recorded the "Ask the Duggars", and the mom kept saying that "God gave me this child", or something to that effect and it made me sad and angry. I understand she believes that, and maybe a lot of people do, but where's our babies? Does God not want us to be mother's? My brain cannot comprehend that some people get babies, while others do not..am I alone in this?

 

I said the same exact thing in a post on my local board. It bugs me that she said god wanted her to have it. Guess that means I dont deserve to have a baby..

I was talking to MH about this a few days ago. What happens when all her kids start growing up and having kids. Heaven forbid one of them have to struggle through IF. Statistically is she has 20 kids, 2-3 of them will struggle. What will happen to them? Will she support them or will they just not be meant for kids?  

btaylor19

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

Mitzi Bishi

I get really tired of reading posts that seem to come from women throwing temper tantrums about wanting to be pregnant yesterday or loading the dramatics on about having to do clomid or only wanting it to be natural. 

I know it's all extremely difficult, but as someone at the end of the rope with ART, I also find it insulting. Does anyone truly believe we're jumping at the bit do go through this and do in an "unnatural" way? 

I'm also really tired of people acting as though we have the magic answer as to why they aren't pregnant and don't take the time to know their bodies, chart, or learn if they are ovulating. 

Answering questions is one thing. This is all complex stuff and people want to talk to others who have been there, but I don't understand why people don't get that they are their own best advocate and that with education comes control and power over the situation.  

Frankly, people scare me.

One last one... with the Duggars I don't care if they repopulate to high heavens, they can make humans with their bits and it doesn't affect me or my situation, but I think they are greedy and question if they really think about the future.

It's going to be difficult for their children to grow up and avoiding intertwined family trees down the road. They will have to move far and wide and really know who all is in their family. Maybe not immediately, but in another generation or so. Think of those cousins and second cousins...  

Mitzi Bishi

MsGMChick:

I was talking to MH about this a few days ago. What happens when all her kids start growing up and having kids. Heaven forbid one of them have to struggle through IF. Statistically is she has 20 kids, 2-3 of them will struggle. What will happen to them? Will she support them or will they just not be meant for kids?  

I thought the same thing. To me religion is such an easy shield to use for anything.

People are entitled to their reproductive choices, but I'm curious how people are so short sighted. If something happens to the breadwinner taking care of a small family and a giant one are two entirely different ball games.  

If you grow up as a woman in an oppressive religion where your value is placed on your reproductive qualities it has to be even more isolating. 

"God" didn't do this to any of us. It's not something we earned through behaviors, being unfaithful, or anything else.

AKB090609

Okay, I have three for you today!

1) I think I hate my MIL right now I think that she is a terrible mother and I'm pissed that she got pregnant so easily!

2)Whenever I get AF I go buy a pack of those pink frosted cookies with sprinkles and I eat them all (not at once) I refuse to share!!!!

3) I don't think (and I've felt this way since we started TTC in 2009) that anything short of IVF is going to work for us and I think it is DH's fault   (This may be because he is refusing to see a uro, but I stab myself with drugs and blood draws)

doggie mama

jessican08:

I judge people who are extremely picky eaters. Don't get me wrong, there are some foods I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole because they seem gross to me (liver, caviar, "sweet breads", etc.) but I can't imagine trying to go through life as an adult who eats like a 5 year old. Espeically when it comes to eating out with friends or going over to someone's home for dinner.

For example, I have a co-worker who basically lives on chicken fingers, french fries and potatoes. He won't eat ANY vegetables, fish, condiments, etc. 

I'm sorry but I had to laugh at this because you are describing MH and it drives me nuts! On top of that he has a couple medical issues that require him to watch his diet. Cooking for  him is pretty much impossible. You know what I won't eat? Liver, for ethical reasons, and cauliflower, because I think it's gross. That's it. And your coworker sounds exactly like our best friend, who I'm positive has chicken fingers in his veins.

AKB090609

doggie mama:

jessican08:

I judge people who are extremely picky eaters. Don't get me wrong, there are some foods I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole because they seem gross to me (liver, caviar, "sweet breads", etc.) but I can't imagine trying to go through life as an adult who eats like a 5 year old. Espeically when it comes to eating out with friends or going over to someone's home for dinner.

For example, I have a co-worker who basically lives on chicken fingers, french fries and potatoes. He won't eat ANY vegetables, fish, condiments, etc. 

I'm sorry but I had to laugh at this because you are describing MH and it drives me nuts! On top of that he has a couple medical issues that require him to watch his diet. Cooking for  him is pretty much impossible. You know what I won't eat? Liver, for ethical reasons, and cauliflower, because I think it's gross. That's it. And your coworker sounds exactly like our best friend, who I'm positive has chicken fingers in his veins.

I will admit to being picky, but I always make it clear that I will be able to find somthing anyplace that we eat and I try not to complain... it might help that I love veggies my issues are mor a no pork, no fish, no dressings thing! 

 

doggie mama

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

Sorry to get off track, but can someone explain what a BMB is? I can usually figure these things out, but this one has me stumped.

My FFFC is that I have done zero work today. I am 8dp5dt and my beta is Monday and I have horrible cramps and I just can't concentrate on anything besides whether this worked.

genmalone

doggie mama:

Kathy4678:

The thread about the July 2012 board kind of bothered me.

My IF issues are mine. Does that make me sad sometimes? Sure. Does it make me jealous? Sure. Do I feel like I should put all that one someone who got pregnant on the first cycle? Nope.

And I think news from the BMB's should be kept in the grad thread. To come back and say that you miss this board and the ladies there just don't understand you stings a little for some of us who feel like we'll never leave this board. Just my opinion.

Sorry to get off track, but can someone explain what a BMB is? I can usually figure these things out, but this one has me stumped.

My FFFC is that I have done zero work today. I am 8dp5dt and my beta is Monday and I have horrible cramps and I just can't concentrate on anything besides whether this worked.

Birth Month Board, ie July 2012 Moms.

Mitzi Bishi

AKB090609:

3) I don't think (and I've felt this way since we started TTC in 2009) that anything short of IVF is going to work for us and I think it is DH's fault   (This may be because he is refusing to see a uro, but I stab myself with drugs and blood draws)

Wait one hot minute... your husband isn't getting things checked? Isn't that kind of essential is doing an IUI or heck even clomid? 

I'd have big issues with that, too. MFI is a sensitive topic, so try not to blame him, but has he been checked for anything? It's all scary, but knowledge is power!  

If I wasted time and drugged myself up for nothing I'd be livid.  

jenn0620

My SIL drives me nuts, she is very needy and calls me and my MIL numerous times a day. this annoys the hell out of me because it's basically her not being able to take care of her girls. She knows what DH and I are going though, but gets offended when we don't want to come over and see her children all the time. I just feel she is insensitive to what we are going though. Sometimes I just have days when I'm jealous she has her children and I don't want to be around them.

Robeano

jenn0620:

My SIL drives me nuts, she is very needy and calls me and my MIL numerous times a day. this annoys the hell out of me because it's basically her not being able to take care of her girls. She knows what DH and I are going though, but gets offended when we don't want to come over and see her children all the time. I just feel she is insensitive to what we are going though. Sometimes I just have days when I'm jealous she has her children and I don't want to be around them.

I used to be the exact same way. Until one day I realized what a terrible mother my sil was and that her kids needed the extended family to love and help support them cuz she was doing a  terrible job.

But for a while I almost had a hard time getting close cuz there first child was an "accident"

katieworek

Sometimes when I'm on fb i will bring up a pregnant friend's profile and look through her pregnancy pictures (if any exist). 

I don't know why I do it to myself, but it seems to happen more often than it should.  Then I just wind up feeling even worse for myself....

jenn0620

Robeano:

jenn0620:

My SIL drives me nuts, she is very needy and calls me and my MIL numerous times a day. this annoys the hell out of me because it's basically her not being able to take care of her girls. She knows what DH and I are going though, but gets offended when we don't want to come over and see her children all the time. I just feel she is insensitive to what we are going though. Sometimes I just have days when I'm jealous she has her children and I don't want to be around them.

I used to be the exact same way. Until one day I realized what a terrible mother my sil was and that her kids needed the extended family to love and help support them cuz she was doing a  terrible job.

But for a while I almost had a hard time getting close cuz there first child was an "accident"

I should rephrase a little bit she is a good mom she just freaks out about every little thing they do, and thinks she needs help with things she could do on her own if she just trusted herself. I think she needs a hobby or a part time job. What makes it even more hard for me is the Seconds child she got pregnant with was because she knew we had started trying. needless to say she got pregnant and we did not.

AKB090609

jalara48:

Mitzi Bishi:

AKB090609:

3) I don't think (and I've felt this way since we started TTC in 2009) that anything short of IVF is going to work for us and I think it is DH's fault   (This may be because he is refusing to see a uro, but I stab myself with drugs and blood draws)

Wait one hot minute... your husband isn't getting things checked? Isn't that kind of essential is doing an IUI or heck even clomid? 

I'd have big issues with that, too. MFI is a sensitive topic, so try not to blame him, but has he been checked for anything? It's all scary, but knowledge is power!  

If I wasted time and drugged myself up for nothing I'd be livid.  

I have to agree with this. If DH and I weren't in this together 100% our relationship wouldn't survive. 

 

He has had SA's one good one bad, for our 3 IUI's w/ clomid his post wash numbers were 1million, 17million, and 800,000. I see this as a HUGE issue and DH thinks its all 'flukes'. My RE suggested moving to IVF w/ICSI after my last IUI, but I wanted at the very least one cycle to prepare myself for all the injects. I did ask for a referal to a uro before we talk IVF and because of DH's job (80-90% travel) they can't get him in until 2012. I know if I push he will go, I am just feeling a little bit resentful today!

Robeano

katieworek:

Sometimes when I'm on fb i will bring up a pregnant friend's profile and look through her pregnancy pictures (if any exist). 

I don't know why I do it to myself, but it seems to happen more often than it should.  Then I just wind up feeling even worse for myself....

I do that too... sigh. I guess I feel like I can live through their FB pictures vicariously

AKB090609

Robeano:

katieworek:

Sometimes when I'm on fb i will bring up a pregnant friend's profile and look through her pregnancy pictures (if any exist). 

I don't know why I do it to myself, but it seems to happen more often than it should.  Then I just wind up feeling even worse for myself....

I do that too... sigh. I guess I feel like I can live through their FB pictures vicariously

Me three!

jessican08

jalara48:

FFFC:

1. DH paid to have my hair done for me yesterday and I hate it. I went from brunette to a bright orangey-red and with my rosy skin it looks ridiculous. But it was his birthday gift to me..... 

2. I am really mad with my father because he's immature and doesn't take responsible approaches to anything. For example, he just bought a new truck that they can't afford, but has no idea how they will pay their bills and they may start losing things in the new year. He won't listen when Mom tries to talk to him about finances and blows up at her and walks out. I hate that they can't grow up and make smart decisions. But it's been like this my entire life.

3.  We decided to tell people about the IVF and explain that we were sitting out of the holiday parties because we don't feel like being around children right now. As a result no one is talking to us - they don't know what to say (I guess) and even the night we told them people started acting weird around us. I am wondering if maybe we just need new friends.

((HUGS)) I'm sorry. I hate that IF has to interfere in so many aspects of our lives.

partymama

katieworek:

Sometimes when I'm on fb i will bring up a pregnant friend's profile and look through her pregnancy pictures (if any exist). 

I don't know why I do it to myself, but it seems to happen more often than it should.  Then I just wind up feeling even worse for myself....

I do this ALL THE TIME.  Four of my old co-workers are pregnant together and I wish I could be part of their club  

brooklynesque

katyj25:

My FFFC confession of the day is this:

 A good friend of mine just had her baby 2 weeks ago. From the very first night in the hospital, they would not allow the baby to be picked up if he were crying. They want to "self soothe". I visited 2 days after the baby was born and when he started to cry, I had to ask permission to pick him up. Mom and dad were going to let him cry. They agreed to let me pick him up and when I did, he had a dirty diaper. I felt so terribly sorry for the little guy and I feel that trying to "self soothe" that young is child abuse in my eyes.

Now every day since the little guy was born, both of their FB status messages are just them biiiitching about having to be up all night and the baby not ever stopping crying. I want so badly to come and take the little guy off their hands, since they are acting like he is such a burden. I even offered to baby sit this weekend. I hope they take my up on the offer. Thinking about it just makes me want to cry and makes my heart ache.

That's awful.  2-week-olds are supposed to be soothed by their PARENTS.  Where did they get the horrid idea that a newborn can self-soothe?