Would this sit badly with you?

mommybrynn

wildfloweragain:

Wow.  Giving conditional gifts, getting upset over girl clothes when you don't even have a girl, and planning out cousins wearing the same clothes in pictures years apart are signs that you either have a mental disorder or just have had nothing bad or difficult in your life that THIS is what you have to worry about.  Most of us have real problems and would be way too busy to think like this.

 

I don't feel that badly for your sister.  She must know what you are like by now - she grew up with you.  If she accepted these gifts, I'm sure she anticipated this, said 'yeah" while rolling her eyes and moved on.

 

Who I really feel badly for is your son's future wife.  You'll be a prize of a MIL.

 

That was CRAZY mean and very rude... 

CinemaGoddess

I wouldn't be upset.  Like PPs said, if you wanted the clothes that badly, you should've kept them.  We have several items of clothing we've held back from giving away, even though we're not having anymore children, because the clothes special to us. 

That being said, my BFF often buys the girls clothes and says, "I'm just buying this so you can pass it down to my daughter when the girls have outgrown it."  I'm cool with that, though. 

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ABColeslaw:

robinsokj:

I think its weird that you gave her girl clothes you were already attached to . I can understand wanting ashers stuff but the girl clothes? Weird

Is it really weird that I'm attached to special things I bought for my niece with the intention of it being a family thing??  I'm only attached to it because my niece made them special.  But yeah a few things that I said "wow this is spectacular, wouldn't in be neat if we take Kylee's picture in it and then if I have a girl we take her pictures in it too, wouldn't that be something special they could share?"   Like, yes it pisses me off that the flower girl dress she wore in my wedding that I picked out for her and bought will be given to someone else so they can use it as a christening gown.   I've purchased Kylee a great deal of her clothes.  Shes three, thats a lot of clothes.  I'm only taking about maybe 4 or 5 dresses. 

And I guess not everyone is super sentimental.  But I've always envied people who had christening gowns that all their cousins wore.  Or a cradle that all the babies in their family had slept in.  Maybe its because I never had it.  It could also be the reason my kid gets his pictures professionally taken even three months, has locks of hair labled in his baby book, and will have pewtered shoes and a quilt made out of his baby clothes.  Because I'm weird.  

I'm totally with you on the Christening gown. It should be sentimental to HER.  

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Stephanie2167:

I only give away clothes that I don't care to lose. I sort of feel like the clothes of Asher's that you wanted to make a quilt out of you should have never given them to her in the first place.

angelame1979

I had a few people give me things that their kids wore and they wanted them back.  I think if you put it out there in the beginning then yes, I would be upset.  I do also think that unless you are planning on having more children then I wouldn't ask for it or expect it back.