FFFC- Names Edition!

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

Confess all your flameable name issues here!

I'll go first. I really don't mind some of the ayden names. Not all, but some I like.

Eliesc2 · October 2011

I sometimes get annoyed when people say that names won't grow up well. While I do agree that some names scream baby, just because a name is popular for babies now (Aiden, Ava, Isabella, etc.) and not adults does not mean that it won't grow well.

25 years ago people could have said that about Ashley, or Brittany. Yet, there are many successful adults named Ashley and Brittany. I understand it is hard to see a name on an adult when there are essentially no adults with that name, but in 25, 30 years there will be tons of adult Aidens and Isabellas.

Rant over.

StephCripps · October 2011

Rowan.. Love this name on a girl..

It seems totally femanine to me... not one ounce of masculinty to it at all

brookelynpaisley · October 2011

I posted this on a TTGP FFFC, but it's more appropriate here. Aidyn was on our list for a girl back before we started trying and I was enlightened Embarrassed

ames71 · October 2011

Eliesc2:
I sometimes get annoyed when people say that names won't grow up well. While I do agree that some names scream baby, just because a name is popular for babies now (Aiden, Ava, Isabella, etc.) and not adults does not mean that it won't grow well.
25 years ago people could have said that about Ashley, or Brittany. Yet, there are many successful adults named Ashley and Brittany. I understand it is hard to see a name on an adult when there are essentially no adults with that name, but in 25, 30 years there will be tons of adult Aidens and Isabellas.
Rant over.

I agree to a certain extent, but I wouldn't think of names like Aidan or Isabella to not "grow-up well." They're both more popular now than in previous years, but aren't new names. Names like Kinley and Paizlee fall more into that category IMO.

ETA: I forgot to add my FFFC! Had I had a daughter in my 20s, she would probably have been named Oceania. I still have a soft spot for it.

miblue · October 2011

StephCripps:
Rowan.. Love this name on a girl..

It seems totally femanine to me... not one ounce of masculinty to it at all

It's my son's name. I don't see it being feminine at all. Funny how we have such different views on it. We are Anglican so my first thought is of the Archbishop. Besides that there is also Mr. Bean and some old show called "Rowan and Martin's Laugh-In" all males!!

I know 2 other Rowans IRL who are older adults, and both are men. Anyway, it bothers me it's becoming a girl name (though I don't know any girls by this name) because it is such a boy name to me.

allisonmarie22 · October 2011

I decided when I was in 6th grade (I'm now 32 years old) that I wanted to name my daughter Isabella. Now it's so overly popular (thanks Twilight....worst written, stupidest series of books ever) that I'd never use it.

I'm so upset and bitter!!

WashingtonQueen · October 2011

For some reason, I have been supper obsessed with trying to nail down names for our next kid and we wont even be TTC for another 1 year an a 1/2!

ames71 · October 2011

miblue:
StephCripps:
Rowan.. Love this name on a girl..

It seems totally femanine to me... not one ounce of masculinty to it at all
It's my son's name. I don't see it being feminine at all. Funny how we have such different views on it. We are Anglican so my first thought is of the Archbishop. Besides that there is also Mr. Bean and some old show called "Rowan and Martin's Laugh-In" all males!!
I know 2 other Rowans IRL who are older adults, and both are men. Anyway, it bothers me it's becoming a girl name (though I don't know any girls by this name) because it is such a boy name to me.

I totally agree! Love Rowan, but only on a boy.

alohamora · October 2011

I actually do think that names like Ashley and Brittany don't sound that great on professional women, even if they do exist.

I have 2:

1. People who ask how popular a name "really" is, even though they know the rank on the SSA list or their state lists. It's the most objective measure of name popularity out there...and yes, it's how popular names really are. Of course those numbers may be concentrated in different areas of the country, but it's not possible for Sophia to be a top name if there are no little girls named that.

2. This isn't really a gripe, more of something I find interesting - the variation in definitions of "unique" names, especially from newbies asking for opinions.

sunnyfalls · October 2011

ames17:
Eliesc2:

I sometimes get annoyed when people say that names won't grow up well. While I do agree that some names scream baby, just because a name is popular for babies now (Aiden, Ava, Isabella, etc.) and not adults does not mean that it won't grow well.

25 years ago people could have said that about Ashley, or Brittany. Yet, there are many successful adults named Ashley and Brittany. I understand it is hard to see a name on an adult when there are essentially no adults with that name, but in 25, 30 years there will be tons of adult Aidens and Isabellas.

Rant over.

I agree to a certain extent, but I wouldn't think of names like Aidan or Isabella to not "grow-up well." They're both more popular now than in previous years, but aren't new names. Names like Kinley and Paizlee fall more into that category IMO.

ETA: I forgot to add my FFFC! Had I had a daughter in my 20s, she would probably have been named Oceania. I still have a soft spot for it.

I also agree that Aidan/Aiden and Isabella sound fine on adults...I know a lot of adults with those names (30+ years old) and am surprised how popular it is again.

My FFFC: My child will be nameless because we can't find names that aren't too popular or doesn't remind us of someone awful.

kellyrn9956 · October 2011

Speaking of Rowan for a girl (which I do not like), I actually adore the name of Brooke Shields' other daughter - Grier.

My other confession is Sailor. Always Sailor.

kerribear1717 · October 2011

When I was first pg I really liked the name Brayden. I went to Ireland the year before and there was this nice town called Bray (I believe just south of Dublin) and I thought it was a cool way to use the name.

Then I saw this whole -ayden craze. Ruined it.

I was really pushing for Maverick.

miblue · October 2011

I forgot to do a confession.

I love Alistair. love love love it. I know my kid would be made fun of it but it's my fav, sadly we'll never use it though .

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

miblue:
I forgot to do a confession.
I love Alistair. love love love it. I know my kid would be made fun of it but it's my fav, sadly we'll never use it though .

Happy Birthday to your DS!!!

apc1929 · October 2011

I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

Also hate that Jackson gets so bashed I think its such a strong handsome name and Love being able to use Jack-- Yes I HATE its become so popular but I still think its a great name Crying ok vent over thanks!!

slukd79 · October 2011

fitzpemberley:
I actually do think that names like Ashley and Brittany don't sound that great on professional women, even if they do exist.
I have 2:
1. People who ask how popular a name "really" is, even though they know the rank on the SSA list or their state lists. It's the most objective measure of name popularity out there...and yes, it's how popular names really are. Of course those numbers may be concentrated in different areas of the country, but it's not possible for Sophia to be a top name if there are no little girls named that.
2. This isn't really a gripe, more of something I find interesting - the variation in definitions of "unique" names, especially from newbies asking for opinions.

So true. I work in early intervention and find those lists very accurate. It drives me crazy to see a post that says, but I don't know any "Ethans" or "Sophies" myself! I promise you-- there are many.

My confession: I also find NMS to be an acceptable answer to a post. I don't feel the need to drive home my "honesty" with any of the following that are rarely challenged around here: gross, vomit worthy etc.

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

Joy2611:
apc1929:
I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

I confess that I'd quietly roll my eyes if our president was named Krhysteena or anything equally ridiculous.

ITA

apc1929 · October 2011

Joy2611:
apc1929:

I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

I confess that I'd quietly roll my eyes if our president was named Krhysteena or anything equally ridiculous.

Like Grover, Millard, Rutherford or Barack? Not saying they are great names just saying its not going to hold someone back in life which is what some people seem to imply

Moneypenny424 · October 2011

Joy2611:
apc1929:
I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

I confess that I'd quietly roll my eyes if our president was named Krhysteena or anything equally ridiculous.

I agree with this--he or she will get a side eye from me.

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

apc1929:
Joy2611:
apc1929:

I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

I confess that I'd quietly roll my eyes if our president was named Krhysteena or anything equally ridiculous.

Like Grover, Millard, Rutherford or Barack? Not saying they are great names just saying its not going to hold someone back in life which is what some people seem to imply

The problem with that argument is that all of your names are legit. Last time I checked Krhysteena was not a legit name. And all Joy was saying is that youneek spellings would get the side eye, which I agree with.

Moneypenny424 · October 2011

apc1929:
Joy2611:
apc1929:

I can't stand when people say "Can you imagine a judge or a president with that name?" Its just super judgemental and totally ridiculous and sounds extremely pretentious! Like if your kids name isn't right off the country club list they won't succeed in life.

I confess that I'd quietly roll my eyes if our president was named Krhysteena or anything equally ridiculous.

Like Grover, Millard, Rutherford or Barack? Not saying they are great names just saying its not going to hold someone back in life which is what some people seem to imply

Those are all historically legitimate, real names. They may not be common, but they're real. Different than you-neek spelling.

evaazalea · October 2011

I find the answer NMS to be totally useless, and only a way to get your thread count up, what good am I going to do with it, I don't even know what your style is. Not condoning 'vomit worthy' as an acceptable answer.

Just because you don't know someone with a name does not make it any less popular, I did not know any -aydens, once my DS started kinder I now know more then I will ever need to, including Drayden and Shaden.

Yes, Grace is a pretty middle name with pretty much every name, that does not mean you have to use it.

cgwell02 · October 2011

Confession: I love boy's names for girls. In fact, if we have a daughter her name will be Bennett. The only Bennett I know IRL is a grown woman and I absolutely adore this name for a girl/woman. (Interestingly, I would not name a boy Bennett because I don't find it particularly masculine) Despite all the hate on this board for boy's names on girls, I haven't been swayed. Flame away!

Also, I, too, roll my eyes every time someone states that they would never go to a Dr. named "xyz," or could you imagine a judge named "xyz?" My response to you is (1) if Dr. "xyz" is the best doctor in town with glowing recommendations, hell yes I am going to go to that Dr. and (2) it really doesn't matter if the Judge is named "xyz" or "zyx" because, get this, he/she IS the Judge. I don't think they care what you think. Not to mention that this type of judgment invites some prejudice into the mix when you think of all the international professionals we have in our society whose names reflect their heritage which is unfamiliar to lots of Americans. I just think this argument fails on so many levels.

salt78 · October 2011

TysMomPlusOne:
Yes, Grace is a pretty middle name with pretty much every name, that does not mean you have to use it.

ITA. Same with Rose.

cheese.fiend · October 2011

cgwell02:
Confession: I love boy's names for girls. Despite all the hate on this board for boy's names on girls, I haven't been swayed. Flame away!

This! I agree with all the other "rules" on this board for the most part, but I do lovea great unisex name. The name we've chosen for our daughter is traditionally a boy name... and, technically, a last name used as a first name... GASP!!!

Moneypenny424 · October 2011

cgwell02:
Confession: I love boy's names for girls. In fact, if we have a daughter her name will be Bennett. The only Bennett I know IRL is a grown woman and I absolutely adore this name for a girl/woman. (Interestingly, I would not name a boy Bennett because I don't find it particularly masculine) Despite all the hate on this board for boy's names on girls, I haven't been swayed. Flame away!

Also, I, too, roll my eyes every time someone states that they would never go to a Dr. named "xyz," or could you imagine a judge named "xyz?" My response to you is (1) if Dr. "xyz" is the best doctor in town with glowing recommendations, hell yes I am going to go to that Dr. and (2) it really doesn't matter if the Judge is named "xyz" or "zyx" because, get this, he/she IS the Judge. I don't think they care what you think. Not to mention that this type of judgment invites some prejudice into the mix when you think of all the international professionals we have in our society whose names reflect their heritage which is unfamiliar to lots of Americans. I just think this argument fails on so many levels.

Again, there is a difference between made up names and ethnic names one might not be familiar with.

I agree though, if the best doctor in my area is Dr. Maisyn Jones, of course I'd go to him.

AimesH · October 2011

cheese.fiend:
cgwell02:

Confession: I love boy's names for girls. Despite all the hate on this board for boy's names on girls, I haven't been swayed. Flame away!

This! I agree with all the other "rules" on this board for the most part, but I do lovea great unisex name. The name we've chosen for our daughter is traditionally a boy name... and, technically, a last name used as a first name... GASP!!!

My confession is I'm dying to know what the name is

slukd79 · October 2011

TysMomPlusOne:
I find the answer NMS to be totally useless, and only a way to get your thread count up, what good am I going to do with it, I don't even know what your style is. Not condoning 'vomit worthy' as an acceptable answer.
Just because you don't know someone with a name does not make it any less popular, I did not know any -aydens, once my DS started kinder I now know more then I will ever need to, including Drayden and Shaden.
Yes, Grace is a pretty middle name with pretty much every name, that does not mean you have to use it.

I mentioned it because I suspect most people agree with you on that one. I was just saying that I personally would prefer a "NMS" to a "vomit worthy" type comment any day.

TheWop · October 2011

I'm sick of seeing these names: Charlotte, Clair/Clare, Isabell(a), Abigail, Audrey, Sophia, Lilah, Nora(h), Isla, Olivia....Do people not lurk before asking opinions on these names? FFS they're posted almost every day! If you want to know what this board thinks of these names read previous girl name posts!

Names Declan, Lorelei, and Lola make me cringe. I have no good reason, just can't stand those names. I don't understand why people love these names.

I love the name Reese for a girl. You people that hate "boy names on girls" can suck it. Stick out tongue

cgwell02 · October 2011

Moneypenny424:
cgwell02:

Confession: I love boy's names for girls. In fact, if we have a daughter her name will be Bennett. The only Bennett I know IRL is a grown woman and I absolutely adore this name for a girl/woman. (Interestingly, I would not name a boy Bennett because I don't find it particularly masculine) Despite all the hate on this board for boy's names on girls, I haven't been swayed. Flame away!

Also, I, too, roll my eyes every time someone states that they would never go to a Dr. named "xyz," or could you imagine a judge named "xyz?" My response to you is (1) if Dr. "xyz" is the best doctor in town with glowing recommendations, hell yes I am going to go to that Dr. and (2) it really doesn't matter if the Judge is named "xyz" or "zyx" because, get this, he/she IS the Judge. I don't think they care what you think. Not to mention that this type of judgment invites some prejudice into the mix when you think of all the international professionals we have in our society whose names reflect their heritage which is unfamiliar to lots of Americans. I just think this argument fails on so many levels.

Again, there is a difference between made up names and ethnic names one might not be familiar with.

I agree though, if the best doctor in my area is Dr. Maisyn Jones, of course I'd go to him.

I totally, wholeheartedly agree with you. The problem comes in, though, when people mistake a completely legit ethnic name for a made up one. It has happened on this board at least a couple of times since I have been lurking (though not egregiously) when people post lists such as "kid's at daycare" or "class list" or "awful" etc.

slukd79 · October 2011

TheWop:
I'm sick of seeing these names: Charlotte, Clair/Clare, Isabell(a), Abigail, Audrey, Sophia, Lilah, Nora(h), Isla, Olivia....Do people not lurk before asking opinions on these names? FFS they're posted almost every day! If you want to know what this board thinks of these names read previous girl name posts!

Names Declan, Lorelei, and Lola make me cringe. I have no good reason, just can't stand those names. I don't understand why people love these names.

I love the name Reese for a girl. You people that hate "boy names on girls" can suck it.

I heart you.

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

I have another one. The posts that say "flame me if you will" or something similar. It just makes me want to flame you. If you have to say that then you know your name is not going to get a good reaction, so why post it in the first place?

ta78 · October 2011

I wouldn't let the popularity of a name ruin it for me.

I don't think anyone should tell their family the name before the baby is born.. or at least hide it in a list of no fewer than 5 names. Nobody is going to tell you they hate your babies name after it is their name, at least not to your face.

Half of my list of names would be NMS and vomit-worthy on this board.

I also hate the name Molly.

austenreader85 · October 2011

I still love Shenandoah for a girl. It's a real name, it's feminine, doesn't seem to break very many rules. But I can see all the negatives about using it, so of course we won't.

I think the image *most* people have of a name is important. If everyone says it's a stripper or trashy name, then listen to them. And that's why the "Can you picture them as President X" with that name? No, because everyone from pre-school on up will probably be treating them a certain way, which means the child will react to their environment a certain way etc, which will influence other actions in their life. I'm not condoning the people that would be prejudiced due to a name, but it's reality. At least in my experience I think there's a link between being a moderate student and being pushed to excel and being a moderate student and just given a pass over. I'm not saying genius or stupidity is linked to the name but I think a lot of kids are put on a certain track for life partially due to their name (of course I think a lot of it is socio-economic but I'd say those are tightly linked).

GermanGirl2007 · October 2011

I don't get it when people say, "we have already chosen the name, and your opinion doesn't matter.....but I want your opinion." Hmm The logic there fails me.

Also, I loathe the names Lincoln and Liam. There are plenty of other names I can't stand either, but these two I am seeing more and more, and really, I cannot understand the appeal.

MrsSutton0523 · October 2011

I CAN'T STAND some of the people that have been posting for a while who thinks they are so special and know it all.

I absolutely love the name Copeland for a boy but everyone else including DH hates it *sigh*

paintme · October 2011

I love boys names for girls and I love NN as real names and l love last names as first names. I think the only rule I follow is the unique spelling rule. I would rather hear a crazy name than see a normal named spelled funny.

Harper'smom · October 2011

It is obnoxious to refuse to share the name you've picked because you don't want anymore negative feedback but bash almost every other name posted on the board. Every time I see you post I want to tell you to shut your trap. You know who you are and you shouldn't dish it if you can't take it.