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My DH has an almost 10 (in Jan) year old son. DH met BM at a party one night and got a phone call three months later to say he was going to be a daddy.
She was thrilled and he was devastated.
Currently we have SS every weekend. I get along great with SS and fine with BM. DH struggles with both. He gets along fine with SS but does not go out of his way for him. He could definitely do a lot more.
BM is a good mother and provides a good stable home. She never interferes with us or our relationship these days and since I have taken a step back and made DH do all the pick ups and drops off's I rarely hear from her, see her or hear about her (other than from SS).
After 5 years together I am totally at ease with BF life and have no struggles around it.
In fact I would go so far as to say, given the choice, I wouldn't change a thing. I simply can't imagine life without SS in it now.