Can I Join You? (Intro/Background, with my fancy new AE)

LovesGrilledCheese

**waves hi**

Hi, I am a pretty active bumper but I have only lurked on this page up to now because I didn't want to air out all my BF stuff with my more obvious screen name and profile - I guess I am over-cautious. But anyway, I really want to start posting on this board so I made this AE and I really hope you ladies will have me!

Background: newlywed, expecting our first, a girl. SD10 is so excited to have a sister on the way! SD's BM is a challenge. Since DH and I have gotten married, I've been making more of an effort to stay out of communications with her and let DH handle it. He does a good job of it and it's definitely saved me an ulcer or two. I just hate when I do accidentally intercept a message and have to see how rotton she is to him. 

SS20 (different BM) is rarely in our lives, usually is in some kind of legal trouble, travels from state to state hoping to be a rock star one day, and only calls when he wants money. We don't give him money; the rules are very clear: if he finds meaningful employment, or joins the military, or pursues a vocational program of some kind - basically does anything productive with his life, we will help him out. But not before.

Anyway, thanks for letting me say hi! You ladies are an awesome bunch

bebe11

LovesGrilledCheese:

**waves hi**

Hi, I am a pretty active bumper but I have only lurked on this page up to now because I didn't want to air out all my BF stuff with my more obvious screen name and profile - I guess I am over-cautious. But anyway, I really want to start posting on this board so I made this AE and I really hope you ladies will have me!

Background: newlywed, expecting our first, a girl. SD10 is so excited to have a sister on the way! SD's BM is a challenge. Since DH and I have gotten married, I've been making more of an effort to stay out of communications with her and let DH handle it. He does a good job of it and it's definitely saved me an ulcer or two. I just hate when I do accidentally intercept a message and have to see how rotton she is to him. 

SS20 (different BM) is rarely in our lives, usually is in some kind of legal trouble, travels from state to state hoping to be a rock star one day, and only calls when he wants money. We don't give him money; the rules are very clear: if he finds meaningful employment, or joins the military, or pursues a vocational program of some kind - basically does anything productive with his life, we will help him out. But not before.

Anyway, thanks for letting me say hi! You ladies are an awesome bunch

Welcome!  OMG your SS sounds just like MY own son!  Same age and everything, except my son doesn't travel from state to state, but he does think he will be a rock star someday

fellesferie

welcome

+j+k+

Welcome.

Like you I have a young DD and older step children SD21, and SS29.  SS is in trouble with the law frequently too and only calls when he needs or wants something. And he does not have any aspirations.  Right now I'd settle for rock star dreams.  Needless today, we have the same rules as you.

Glad to hear your SD is excited for DD.  Wish you well!

karatechrissy

Welcome! Your SN alone gets you free admission to the board ;-)

GHBEA

Hi and welcome, our family has older children too.  20, 17 and 15 then our 6m old.

Ilumine

Welcome. I have a 23yo SD, who has her life mostly in order, a 15yo SS who is just about there...mostly normal teenager stuff...and an almost 3yo.

 

 

J&A2008

Welcome!  And, now I want grilled cheese.  I forsee this being a problem...

LovesGrilledCheese

bebe11:

LovesGrilledCheese:

**waves hi**

Hi, I am a pretty active bumper but I have only lurked on this page up to now because I didn't want to air out all my BF stuff with my more obvious screen name and profile - I guess I am over-cautious. But anyway, I really want to start posting on this board so I made this AE and I really hope you ladies will have me!

Background: newlywed, expecting our first, a girl. SD10 is so excited to have a sister on the way! SD's BM is a challenge. Since DH and I have gotten married, I've been making more of an effort to stay out of communications with her and let DH handle it. He does a good job of it and it's definitely saved me an ulcer or two. I just hate when I do accidentally intercept a message and have to see how rotton she is to him. 

SS20 (different BM) is rarely in our lives, usually is in some kind of legal trouble, travels from state to state hoping to be a rock star one day, and only calls when he wants money. We don't give him money; the rules are very clear: if he finds meaningful employment, or joins the military, or pursues a vocational program of some kind - basically does anything productive with his life, we will help him out. But not before.

Anyway, thanks for letting me say hi! You ladies are an awesome bunch

Welcome!  OMG your SS sounds just like MY own son!  Same age and everything, except my son doesn't travel from state to state, but he does think he will be a rock star someday

Haha I love it! It's nice that they have goals, but while they are waiting on their dreams to come true, would it be too much to ask them to get a job at the local movie theater??

Thank you for the welcome

LovesGrilledCheese

+j+k+:

Welcome.

Like you I have a young DD and older step children SD21, and SS29.  SS is in trouble with the law frequently too and only calls when he needs or wants something. And he does not have any aspirations.  Right now I'd settle for rock star dreams.  Needless today, we have the same rules as you.

Glad to hear your SD is excited for DD.  Wish you well!

Thanks! It is so nice to hear from other people with older skids, especially the "always in trouble" kind. It's easy to think that once they turn 18 the challenges go away, when really it's just trading in old challenges for new ones.

LovesGrilledCheese

Ilumine:

Welcome. I have a 23yo SD, who has her life mostly in order, a 15yo SS who is just about there...mostly normal teenager stuff...and an almost 3yo.

 

 

Thanks! And I love the picture of your little one!!