did SHE really just touch my belly?! (vent)

tardiswho10

Let me preface this with a small backstory.  The woman in question is my cousin's wife, whom he is currently separated from.  She has also been his ex-wife twice before.  Two divorces and heading for the third, I do not consider her a part of the family.  I also personally do not like her, and this is known to her.  She is generally unkind, selifish, rude, and has robbed my cousin blind with each of the divorces and only comes back to him when she runs out of his money.  Not someone I enjoy in my presence.

I had a family function on Saturday and that was the first time I've really been around everyone since I let out the news.  I got congratulations and hugs, which I find to be perfectly acceptable.  Suddenly out of nowhere comes my cousins wife - I didn't see her until it was too late and she was already touching my belly.  This was my first belly touch, and it was SO incredibly unwelcome.

I got the most uncomfortable look on my face and proceeded to back away from her.  I immediately said "and THAT is the reason I'm buying the shirt that says 'if you didn't put it in here and you're not taking it out, do not touch it'."  I was trying to keep things civil.  She responded by saying that she hated when people would come up and touch her belly while pregnant and wished she had a shirt like that.  I had to walk away before I throat punched her.  If you didn't like people touching your belly, why would you touch mine, especially when you know that I do not like you?!  - I just don't get people.  Way to ruin the experience of my first belly touch.

Sparks in training!

Sorry she did that. I hate people touching my belly. Like really...my baby is only a little guy and really you cant feel anything! DONT touch!

Maybe later on...when its actually kicking...but this early...dude jsut rude!

Mrs_MBed

tardiswho10:

She responded by saying that she hated when people would come up and touch her belly while pregnant and wished she had a shirt like that.  I had to walk away before I throat punched her.  If you didn't like people touching your belly, why would you touch mine, especially when you know that I do not like you?!  - I just don't get people.  Way to ruin the experience of my first belly touch.

wtf.... is SHE didn't like it and knows you don't like her.... I would have wanted do more than throat punch her....

Also, those shirts don't always work... so be prepared to deflect and evade if necessary. 

edited to add:  my morning radio show just did a phone-in segment about touching pg bellies - one of the callers said that if  strangers did that to her without asking first she would just reach out and grab their boob...  I laughed so hard when I heard that!  This post reminded me of it

jengelz

I don't mean to laugh, but we all have an obnoxious relative or two.

My first belly touch was from a friend who was just excited to hear the news... but ehhh... they realize they're just touching bloat and fat, right?!

My sisters and I joke around about getting a shirt like that for me, but says something along the lines of "Touch me and get Tazed". I will have a lovely tazer gun perched around my neck on a lanyard, just waiting for that unwanted hand reaching towards my bump. I'm not a touchy-feely person normally... and I sure as heck don't want strangers touching my belly once I start showing!

coloradoalyssa

I just saw a tee that says "You Can Touch My Belly if I Can Punch Your Face".  I think that would be perfect for you to wear next time you see her

diabeticmom

coloradoalyssa:

I just saw a tee that says "You Can Touch My Belly if I Can Punch Your Face".  I think that would be perfect for you to wear next time you see her

 Love it!

patiencewilson

celticlullaby:

I think my plan is just to reach out and rub the offender's belly right back.  Then ask if they find it comfortable to have their stomachs groped - and if not, why in the h*ll would they grab mine?

 I just don't understand the touching at all.  I NEVER have just reached and touched any pregnant lady's belly - I only touch if she brings it up that the baby's kicking and asks if I want to feel.  It's such an invasion to just touch someone without being invited.  Yucky!

When I was pregnant with DS a complete stranger rubbed my belly in line at walmart so I in turn grabbed her breast and when she looked at me funny I just said "you just violated me so I felt it was fine for me to violate you right back!"  I don't think she could have given me any worse of a stare down, and my DH was nearly wetting himself

MrsMincks

Mrs_MBed:

tardiswho10:

She responded by saying that she hated when people would come up and touch her belly while pregnant and wished she had a shirt like that.  I had to walk away before I throat punched her.  If you didn't like people touching your belly, why would you touch mine, especially when you know that I do not like you?!  - I just don't get people.  Way to ruin the experience of my first belly touch.

wtf.... is SHE didn't like it and knows you don't like her.... I would have wanted do more than throat punch her....

Also, those shirts don't always work... so be prepared to deflect and evade if necessary. 

edited to add:  my morning radio show just did a phone-in segment about touching pg bellies - one of the callers said that if  strangers did that to her without asking first she would just reach out and grab their boob...  I laughed so hard when I heard that!  This post reminded me of it

HA! The boob grab is a great idea. I used to be really busty and sometimes people would just...grab my boobs, or kind of...weigh them in their hands. I guess to see if they were real. Usually women at clothing stores. SO INAPPROPRIATE. It got to the point where I would just honk back and glare at them.  

I'm actually a touchy-feely-huggy sort of person, so the belly-touching is fine with me. From people I know. Strangers might creep me out a little. 

BabyD15

Just got my first belly touch the other day from one of my clients. She said..."oh, look...there's a little baby bump" and patted my belly. Really? I felt felt, not pregnant. Not ready for that. Not offended, but still...uncomfortable.

MaeMB

Once a technologist at work touched my belly and hinted that I was pregnant....I was not pregnant at the time. 

kiarstin

Man you all are lucky, EVERYONE touches my belly and have since 3 weeks.  My family is so excited they feel they have to.  My grams always talks to my belly, I am like baby can't hear you and you just grabbed a love handle.  But screw it, touch away.  And if a stranger did it, I am all for rubbing their belly back!

kris2131

My first belly touch was when I was 5 weeks at my granddad's funeral and it was my sister who was the offender. A family member (related to our granddad's second wife) I had never met was there and she looked really good after having twins. I made a comment that that little thing had twins and my sister reached over and touched my stomach (nowhere near where my uterus at all was) and said I'll get my figure back. I cringed and flinched and pushed her hand away. That told me just how comfortable I was going to be with unwelcome belly touches.

jgal84

coloradoalyssa:

I just saw a tee that says "You Can Touch My Belly if I Can Punch Your Face".  I think that would be perfect for you to wear next time you see her

Hahaha! I need this shirt. I can't believe she touched your belly, when she clearly stated that she hated it when people did that to her . Thankfully, most of my friends and family know that I don't like belly touching.