Terrified about TTC #2

EMOmamma

I'm not scared about having another baby I'm scared about having trouble ttc again.  Last time we were able to conceive on our own but it took over a year.  There were so many months of hurt I don't know if I'm ready to be disappointed again. and again. and again.  I don't know if it will be easier this time because I know it's possible or if it will be harder because I know it's possible.

AF is back (has been for a few months) but this will be the first cycle not preventing.  I'm charting again (did last time as well).

I've been lurking over here for a bit and while I like the current vibe I'm hoping I won't be here for too long this time!

mrsz2008

I'm kinda with you, it didn't take us over a year, but 10 months and those were a long 10 months. Don't worry about it yet, just try to stay positive and charting will help. Hopefully it doesn't take you long to get #2, good luck!

brideofscowboy

I'm the opposite but am having similar fears about how long it's going to take the second time around too. We were lucky with DS. We got pregnant on our 2nd cycle. We've just started cycle 6 this time around and the 'what ifs' are driving me crazy. I don't want a huge gap between the two kids...so far it's just getting greater and greater.

GL! Hopefully your stay here will be short and sweet.

Tippy05

I'm like pp in that we got lucky with DS on the first try but this time it's taking longer than I thought.  Our timing just hasn't been ideal the past couple of cycles, so I'm sure that's all it is, but my mind can't help but wander off into the "what ifs".  I guess I just took for granted how lucky we were the first time around.

Good luck to you and hopefully you'll be moving on soon!! 

AliciaR777

I have similar fears.  It took 2+ years & a RE to get pregnant with our daughter.  I'm hopeful that it won't take too long this time around, since I know what the problems were last time & how to fix them.  But, I still have that dread feeling that we could be TTC for what would feel like forever.  Add to that the knowledge that we can't afford an RE this time around, and I feel like we're starting off with a disadvantage.  The only saving grace I have is that I count myself extremely blessed that we have our baby, and if she's the only one I would still feel extremely blessed!

CC.to.be

I am nervous about TTC #2 as well, but I am also excited about it. It took me a total of 7 months with my son which included a m/c at 8.5 weeks. I also just had a chemical pg last cycle. I definitely am a lot more calm about ttc this time around and If it takes me another 7 months (or more) so be it, there is nothing I can do about it. It just makes me appreciate what a miracle my son is so much more. 

MySweetBaboo

GhostMonkey:

Either it will happen or it won't. Worrying about it isn't going to change that.

 

True this!!

Emily&Chad

good luck! hope it doesn't take you too long  

EMOmamma

GhostMonkey:

Either it will happen or it won't. Worrying about it isn't going to change that.

 

So true.  And I'm not losing sleep at night about it or anything.  It's just the approach this time is so different than the naive, optimistic excitement it was a few years ago.

Thanks everyone and good luck!