friends' kids starting college

dalm0m

I never got upset when other women had babies.  Even though we are TTC, I don't much like babies.  Is that horrible or what?

Anyway, 'tis the season.  Many of my friends are gushing about sending their kids off to college & learning to drive & starting their senior years of HS (which including looking at colleges).  It's making me so sad.  Those are all the things I want to do . . . have a daughter to share that kind of stuff with. 

How do I get through this?  Right now crying in private & plastering a fake smile on my face while I envy them is getting me through but it sucks.

happywifemomofone

Sending hugs your way, sounds like this is really hard for you right now.  DH and I are TTC and my son is starting college.  It really reminds you how quickly time flies.  IF does suck!!!!  and I'm hoping that your turn will come soon.  I think that when you DO get pg and have  a baby-you will never understand you could love someone so much.  I could also do without babyhood-but really enjoyed years 3-12.  Hope that you've got some fun plans this Labor Day weekend to keep your mind from obsessing about TTC........one of the biggest challenges that I have found in this whole process is how little control we have over.  Only thing we can do on our own is time it right and hope for the best!

ReeceFamily

I'm 42, so I experience exactly the same thing.  And I understand about the fake smiles, although i don't think I'm very good at hiding my feelings .  We will all get through this in one way or another.  I hope you get your daughter very soon... Or maybe even a son .

annalisel

I totally understand. Most of my friends had children late (as encouragement to anyone reading who is just starting TTC many, many of them had a baby after 35), but so many times I catch myself thinking, oh, that would be a good thing to teach my daughter, but then I remember, I don't have a daughter and there's a good possibility I never will.

I don't have any advice for dealing, but think about how much more free time your friends will have to hang out once their children are independent and out of the house. 

maddie7

They probably wish they were in your shoes, you have some exciting things coming up in your future. I have a 42 yr old friend who has a 21 yr old in college and had a baby last week with her new husband. And this is after going through IVF finding out it's a boy, losing him, not being able to afford another IVF and then getting pregnant naturally.