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October 2011 Moms
FFFC
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Re: FFFC
I am the same way. I have OCD tendencies that tend to flare up at stressful times. I have been in and out of CBT most of my life. I was very germaphobic for a period after DD was born. To the point of not letting people come over and forcing my husband to not sleep with me. But it passed pretty quickly. I have found as a parent that some things that I thought would bother me don't at all and some send me into a tizzy of hand washing and vitamin c chugging. The important thing for me to remember was that I can't deprive my children or myself of life experiences because I am scared. It's okay to take precautions, it's not okay to not leave the house. So I force myself to go to the gym and take DD to the daycare, let her play at the mall playground, etc. And for me when DD is sick I handle it just fine. It's just the worrying about it happening that gets out of control. Also - sleep makes a HUGE difference. If I start to get irrational about germs I probably need a nap.
I have a couple -
I am having serious issues with the fact that people swear my dog will not mean nearly as much to me after I have the baby. I realize there will be other priorities in our life but I can't imagine still not making the effort to love and play with her daily. She is seriously my first baby (I know people hate that) but I love her so freaking much and it really hurts my heart to think she might be neglected after the baby gets here. I have cried about this more than once.
I'm irritated that there are numerous things that have been bought off our registry but never given to us. All of my showers are over (with the exception of my work shower but only like 3 people even know about that one so far) so why haven't we been given these items (and pretty much everyone invited came to both showers or sent a gift)?? And it's really not as much that we didn't get them, I just want to plan what we still need and it's hard when you are wondering whether you will actually get that item. A couple I'm not too worried about b/c we won't need them right away but both our diaper bag and changing pad are MIA.
I feel like my family in NJ is not really taking this hurrican seriously enough. My grandmother lives in an assisted living facility that is only about 15 miles from the coast. My aunt lives fairly close to her but about 10 miles more inland. I asked my mom if she called the facility where my grandmother is to see what their emergency plan is and said no, she didn't want to step on my aunt's toes. The problem is my aunt doesn't really seem to care too much about having a plan in case they need to leave the area. My grandmother is freaking out though b/c her room is on the corner of the building and she has two huge windows. The poor woman just sits there watching tv all day and all she hears about is this massive storm coming her way.
OK, I'll try and stir the pot and be the opposition. I will be getting groomed beforehand. I have been waxing for ~15 years and haven't stopped just because I'm pregnant. Do I care what the Drs think, not particularly, but I go every 3 weeks and get my legs, eyebrows, and bikini done and so I will keep my appointment for when I am 37 weeks. The hairstyle depends on the time of year, but in general I find having hair on the undercarriage irritating. And, having it done beforehand means I won't have to worry about it for a few weeks afterwards. I'll be pretty for everyone!
I just woke up at 12:30, usually I feel bad about sleeping in too much, but today I don't care.
Also, my husband is knocking down a kitchen wall and starting our kitchen reno this weekend, I am going shopping all weekend in the states. I don't even feel bad that he has to work hard all weekend and I get to spend money and relax all weekend (Reno free woo hoo)
It's not that you won't still love your dog, because you will, but I think its just different. I still love my two cats and want to spend time with them, but I have a little person that means more to me and takes up more of my attention. I remember taking so many pictures of my cats thinking ooooh, look how cute he's being and now I guess I moved on to cute pictures of my kid.
In our baby care class the other night we watched part of "The Happiest Baby on the Block" to learn soothing techniques for crying babies. As soon as the babies were on screen I started crying. DH didn't understand why I was crying & I tried to explain to him that I've been waiting to be a mom my whole life & I'm really excited - but he didn't get it.
The thing is that's not the only reason why I was crying... I'm scared sh!tless that I'll be a terrible mom or that I'll have no idea what I'm doing or that I'll get depressed and not be able to take care of the baby.
It's like that episode of "Saved by the Bell".... I'm so excited! I'm so excited! I'm so..
SCARED!
oh & I just succumbed to my weeklong craving for KFC mashed potatoes & they were everything I wanted them to be but now I feel sick because I ate too much.
I know I just posted about not just agreeing with everything, but this is only the greatest TV moment in the history of Saved by the Bell (a show with so many epic moments). If I ever had a band it would be called Jessie's Caffeine Pills.
For me, it's different because access is much harder now. It's easy to keep up my regimen as far as my hair, teeth, fingernails, pits, etc. (legs are getting harder, but I'm still doing it). My ladyparts, on the other hand, are increasingly inaccessible.
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Becoming a better role model for my daughter, one day at a time
I'm having trouble with this too. People haven't made comments like that to me (thank goodness), but I just look at my two beloved boys and hope that they will be happy when the baby gets here. My first dog seriously changed my life. I adopted him about eight months after my dad died and it wasn't until I was brushing my teeth that next morning that I realized I hadn't thought about my dad yet that day, whereas he was usually the first thing on my mind when I woke up. Rather, I was thinking about our new dog. I was able to focus on him and he really helped me heal and feel like a normal person again. Anyway, I want to continue to give them the best home possible and give back the love and loyalty they have given to me. I'm scared of our relationship changing, but I try to tell myself that while the beginning might be rough, they will be great friends with the baby, especially when the baby starts eating solids:) I know I sound like a crazy person to some people, but I too really love my dogs!
I only wish I could sleep that late. I'm up at 6:30-7:30 these days.
THIS. I totally understand if you've been waxing for years and it is just part of your routine. I just take issue with specifically worrying about it because of labor. Alot of this stems from hearing from my friend who is a MW that many women come in completely bald and talk about how they got waxed because of labor... I think there is a time and a place for a good wax and have gone hairless once or twice, but it just seems odd to me to do it FOR labor.
I have the same problem. I am not kidding. I used to wash my feet in the sink if they got dirty. I have a germ issue. I know that I will fight my feelings. Just try to remember that by the time they get their immunizations they are ok. Whatever else that they happen to catch will help their immune sytems. I try to remind myself of that and fight the paranoia. BTW when they were talking on the bump article about the different annoying types of moms I am a combo between the mom who packs everything under the sun and the paranoid mom. No other moms will want to be friends with me unless they also share the joy of anti-bacterial wipes. (Where do you live?) JK.
I never waxed down there before and don't plan on it for labour. If it's something you've always done, it's fine...but I never have and my DH has actually said he'd be weird out by it if I did, so I'll stay au natural for now.
My FFFC (besides the fact that you all know I'm not waxed down there) is that I am a pretty quiet and reserved person who is generally opposed to cursing, acting up, and not maintaining composure; however, when I watch a football game I care about (such as tonight's Colts v. Packers game) - I SCREAM at the television and openly use profanity. My MIL once overheard me while on the phone with DH and couldn't believe it was me. I'm just hoping I can keep the cursing under control once LO arrives since we'll be watching a lot of football together as a family.
I'm late. Pfft.
Confession time...running out of things to confess to.
I am pretty sure I will still positively adore my cats.
I bet life will change after baby is born. Last time I had the luxury of being a SAHM, this time I have to go to work and she is with her SAHD. Part of me feels guilty, the other part is insanely jealous.
She is going to sleep in a cradle in our bedroom.
I hate sunlight.