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Spanking a child for not going to bed- what's your take?
LIAngel
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It is none of my business how other people parent so I said nothing about the following conversation between me and an aquaintance. I see her once a month when 12 of us get together for Bunko- otherwise I never see her and have nothing in common with her. Here is the situation:
Her son (a little over 2) is now in a toddler bed. This is a recent thing. So when I saw her for Bunko last week, I asked her how A was liking his big boy bed and how things were going. She said fine no problems. I said that I was nervous about putting Nicholas in a bed, since I'm sure that he'd probably get out 60 kabillion times and I'd be putting him back in ala SuperNanny. I said "So A doesn't get out of his room? Wow how do you get him to stay in? I'm impressed" She said "Oh he gets a spanking". I was like "Oh" and that was the end of the conversation.
Now I know there are times when I just wish Nicholas would cut the bs (aka throwing his chit out of the crib) and go to sleep but I wouldn't dream of spanking him for that. I can't say what I would do in the moment (like when we DO put him in a toddler bed and he gets out a lot the first few nights and I'm walking him to his room over and over again), but right now I could say that I don't think spanking my child would be necessary to get him back in his room. And I'd like to think that I wil be of the same opinion when/if that does happen (Nicholas coming out of his room many times during bedtime).
What's your take?
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Re: Spanking a child for not going to bed- what's your take?
I wouldn't. For me spanking is for emergencies only where immediate impact is needed (i.e. about to run in the street or something like that).
I think relying on spanking for something like that is lazy. All you're doing is teaching your child to be afraid to come out when you're awake.
You're not teaching him what he needs to know which is when it's bedtime we stay in our bed or room until/unless Mommy or Daddy gets you up.
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I asked her later on what if A needs to use the potty (as one of his "excuses" to get out if his bed/room) and she replied "Well then he better have to go or else he knows what happens". I know kids will think of a million and one reasons not to stay in bed "I want a drink" "I need to go potty" "One more book please", "I'm scared of the dark" "There's a monster in my closet" ,etc... and it's frustrating even if they don't have a reason for coming out. All you're thinking is "Come on child go to sleep so I can sit and have some downtime", but I don't think any of the above reasons are grounds for spanking.