My sister lent me all of her maternity clothes and is now trying for her #2. I am going to see her in a few weeks so she asked that I give her back the clothes and books on pregnancy and labor. I started to pack up all of her clothes (plus my own) and saw all of the spring maternity clothes that I never got to wear. I started to cry. It was and still is a very hard thing to me to think about how I missed out on the 3rd tri and everything that goes along with it. I wish nothing but happy and healthy pregnancies for everyone I see... but I just can't help but be... be... be... saddened? Angry? Jealous?
Why didn't I get the pregnancy and labor/delivery that I always wanted? Why us?
Re: Maternity Clothes
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I gave all my maternity clothes to my SIL who found out she was pregnant in February. As of two weeks ago, she is officially more pregnant than I ever was and I have all kinds of emotions about that. I'm so glad that her pregnancy has been relatively easy so far and I pray that we don't meet her baby until October but I also know that it will be really hard to be part of the happy delivery room scene when that time comes. I put these feelings on the list of things associated with preemie PTSD.
I guess what I'm saying is I totally understand. And I don't have a good answer for how we get over it other than time.
Our precious girl, born at 27 weeks.
When LO was still in the NICU I was pretty bitter about missing out on 3rd tri and the maternity clothes really pissed me off. I wasn't even showing when he was born.
95% of the clothes got put away but I do confess to still wearing a couple of pieces - tank tops and one summer top I wouldn't have been able to wear in 3rd tri anyway (it was a hand-me-down).
I was especially bitter because I kept thinking "I'm never going to have a chance to wear these" as I was packing them up. That's subsided a bit since we're not 100% sure if I can or can't have another pregnancy yet. If I can't have another pregnancy, I'll have to mourn that too.
As soon as the boys came home I packed everything up. Luckily I only bought clothes as the pregnancy progressed so everything I bought I wore, even if it was only in the hospital. I still have a hard time thinking about the things I missed and wish I could go back and do it over again and take advantage of the things I did have and take pictures.
I am very lucky in that there is a possibility that I could have a full term pregnancy in my future but there are no certainties in life so part of me is afraid that door has closed.
This is EXACTLY how I feel Mrs. Alice! My twins actually came on the day that was supposed to be our shower. (I guess we'll reschedule it later once the babes are more stable? What are you doing about yours?) I actually cried my eyes out yesterday (stupid hormones!) when I realized I didn't have ONE picture of my husband and I while I was pregnant. In fact---I don't have any pictures of me pregnant other than our corny weekly belly shots that we took for my Belly Book. I feel like I am mourning a pregnancy that was taken away from me too soon. Especially since I only got to enjoy the last two weeks of it since the rest was super complicated and stressful. My husband doesn't get it. It's nice to hear that other ladies do.
Yep. I had JUST started to get a nice cute round belly (as opposed to the "is she or isn't she?" fat roll I was sporting before), and bought a sh!t-ton of mat clothes and then the next week I was giving birth.
So, a part of me is sad for that, but I know how much worse it could be (packing up mat clothes without a live baby SUCKS even worse). I'm just so glad I have a live outside baby. But, it still doesn't stop the pangs of jealously when I see a 38 weeker wadling around.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12