FB Etiquette

kristalovesjared

A photography client of mine who posted on fb that she was going to be induced today was team green. Of course I've been fb stalking her and her husband to find out boy or girl. They have not announced anything, but someone just posted on her wall, "can't wait to meet her!". First I'm super excited it's a girl, but also kind of mad at that person who just announced their baby for them. Shouldn't they get to do that?

scarletii

maybe it was a freudian slip, or maybe the friend didn't realize they weren't telling everyone??

iHeartHimMore

It may not have been intentional, but that is awful!  Utterly thoughtless.

We had something similar happen because we kept Lila's name a secret.  When she was born we sent a text to several people and one of them went and posted on my FB wall saying "congrats, blah, blah, Lila Avery!"  I didn't dwell on it, but it was definitely rude.

MrsH_08

I agree that even if it wasn't intentional, they really did blow it for the couple.  I made several people promise FB silence until after I posted about James' birth.  It always bothers me when someone posts on the wall or tags a picture before the new mom/dad get to do it.

kristalovesjared

I'm sure the person didn't mean to ruin the announcement for them, but if I'm writing something like that to someone else, I always look at what they've shared first!

~Lynchie~

iHeartHimMore:

It may not have been intentional, but that is awful!  Utterly thoughtless.

We had something similar happen because we kept Lila's name a secret.  When she was born we sent a text to several people and one of them went and posted on my FB wall saying "congrats, blah, blah, Lila Avery!"  I didn't dwell on it, but it was definitely rude.

I remember when Lila was born, and someone came here and posted that her name was on your fb page and I said something about how rude that was and a bunch of people jumped all over me for it.  Im glad you thought it was rude too =P  

 Its definitely rude to thunderjack someone via facebook or any other social media outlet!!

MrsEditorJax

~Lynchie~:

iHeartHimMore:

It may not have been intentional, but that is awful!  Utterly thoughtless.

We had something similar happen because we kept Lila's name a secret.  When she was born we sent a text to several people and one of them went and posted on my FB wall saying "congrats, blah, blah, Lila Avery!"  I didn't dwell on it, but it was definitely rude.

I remember when Lila was born, and someone came here and posted that her name was on your fb page and I said something about how rude that was and a bunch of people jumped all over me for it.  Im glad you thought it was rude too =P  

 Its definitely rude to thunderjack someone via facebook or any other social media outlet!!

I remember that -- I was more of a lurker back then -- and I thought it was horribly rude, too. We told people Collin's name in advance, but I know that is super important to some people that it not be known until the birth and I would be upset if someone did it to me.

My No. 1 pet peeve is when people post a pic of the new baby on their FB, and then tag the parents -- before the parents have shared a photo. It's great if you go see the baby, take pics, are excited, etc., but come on, does it not occur to people that the parents may want to debut their new son or daughter first?!

mrssmith717

Thank God for smart phones and wi-fi at the hospital.  We posted on fb probably 1/2 an hour after Laurel was born.  It definitely cut around all of the thunder stealers.

cmcmillan

That happined to us with W. My sister came to meet him and posted a pic of her holding him, with his name on her fb and tagged us in it.   I caught it shortly after she did it, and untagged us both in it. But I was pissed.  Especially since were were team green, and so many people had thought girl.

suzie711

kristalovesjared:

I'm sure the person didn't mean to ruin the announcement for them, but if I'm writing something like that to someone else, I always look at what they've shared first!

FutureFung

I'm sure it wasn't on purpose, but it's still a bummer if they did 'ruin' it for the couple.  But, when my good friend had a team green baby in June, she texted and told me and told me she didn't care if I said something on FB - so you never know, that may have happened in this case, too....

StellaZ

Perhaps they were reacting to an email or mass text sent out, but yeah still... Someone just outed Watchpot on her FB - I hope she caught it!!

preston18

It's funny how fast things change.  When I had N, this was hardly an issue. FB hadn't fully taken over the world yet.  Although for those of you who started with it in college (I'm too old) maybe it's been a bigger thing for more than the past 2-3 years.

EllaB_04

I agree, that is either super careless or very rude! One of my best friends did that to me; posted congrats and baby's name before we got the chance to post it. It almost seemed deliberate too, since she's almost never on facebook. I was super pissed! Needless to say, she'll be the last one to know when we have #2!

WatchPot

someone wrote on a comment on my status yesterday "do you have something to tel me?".  It's not the end of the world and it could mean anything, but I still cringed. 

 He is clueless though, so probably didn't think. 

A long lost friend wrote on my wall "read your blog, congrats", probably assuming if I'd put it on my blog it was FB safe, but I didn't even realize  that she still read my blog

Not that all that many people read my wall but i guess it's safe to assume I'm face book out now. 

WatchPot

StellaZ:

Perhaps they were reacting to an email or mass text sent out, but yeah still... Someone just outed Watchpot on her FB - I hope she caught it!!

I did but damage was already done, so i let it slide.  I was pissed though!  most people already know, but 1 good friend (who is not on FB) that I can't get a hold of and am trying to avoid the gossip chain in my home town going wild and telling her myself. 

iHeartHimMore

MrsEditorJax:

~Lynchie~:

iHeartHimMore:

It may not have been intentional, but that is awful!  Utterly thoughtless.

We had something similar happen because we kept Lila's name a secret.  When she was born we sent a text to several people and one of them went and posted on my FB wall saying "congrats, blah, blah, Lila Avery!"  I didn't dwell on it, but it was definitely rude.

I remember when Lila was born, and someone came here and posted that her name was on your fb page and I said something about how rude that was and a bunch of people jumped all over me for it.  Im glad you thought it was rude too =P  

 Its definitely rude to thunderjack someone via facebook or any other social media outlet!!

I remember that -- I was more of a lurker back then -- and I thought it was horribly rude, too. We told people Collin's name in advance, but I know that is super important to some people that it not be known until the birth and I would be upset if someone did it to me.

The particular friedn that did it is someone I love, but is totaly clueless when it comes to this stuff.  So I didn't hold it against her or bother to even bring it up with her.  But I defintiely noticed.  We didn't even tell our parents Lila's name until she was born.  When the doctors asked us her name we wouldn't tell them because my parents didn't know yet, so her bracelets from the hosital say "baby girl".   I don't flatter myself to think that most people were cheking my FB page, so I think that our "announcment" on FB was still news to most, but regardless it's pretty lame to steal thunder.

Also, i'M not typing well.... wine has taken it's toll.   

IkesHawaiian06

I feel like that happens a lot. When I photographed my friends birth, I had permission to post her photo since everyone knew they were heading to the hospital.

cari12

It probably was unintentional but I'd probably be a little bummed if it happened to me.

I've seen it happen a lot though, friends of mine just had their pregnancy outted by the husband's uncle. He tagged them in a photo with a caption that read "expecting a baby in a few months!" but he had his settings so everyone could see it and it showed up on my friend's wall for all her friends to see  

I turned my wall off when I was in labor