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Two Under 2
Intro, reassure me please!
Well hello ladies,
I had my first little girl on Feb. 7th, and while DH and I weren't trying, we weren't really preventing either. Didn't really want to get pregnant again til this winter, but guess what, got a big fat "PREGNANT" on my digital. So my babies will be 14 months apart, and I'm FREAKING OUT. I'm glad she will grow up with a playmate, but I am scared of having 2 under 2 and the stress I will be under when #2 arrives, emotionally and financially.
Ladies, please reassure me.
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Re: Intro, reassure me please!
First of all congrats!!!! My babes are 15 months apart to the day. We definitely weren't trying and I was totally shocked. It took me a while to get used to the idea. But now that they are both here, I am so madly in love and all of the fear of "how and I going to do this" went away. Yes, there are rough times but having them so close together turned out to be the miracle I never knew I wanted. I feel so blessed and I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. Some days are harder than others but seeing them smile and interact together brightens my world. You will made adjustments and tweak things until you figure out how you'll all work together. Wishing you the best of luck!!
My DS1 is going to be 15 months when LO is born, so I really can't offer much advice. I know that I'll probably be pretty stress out (and we don't have family in the area) but even now there are days when I feel like I have a ton of obligations and not enough time to do it in, and then I look at my son and its all worth it; I'm sure it will be the same way when #2 arrives.
I think those little moments will give me and DH enough steam to make it untill things start to ease up.
The financial upside (at least for us) is that we have all the gear that we would need for a newborn still and its still pretty new and in good shape. Emotionally, I feel like I've got the hang of this baby stuff and by the time #2 gets here I'll know what to expect and be much better prepared.
If you're still need more gear/clothes, we've started shopping at consignment sales and that has helped alot, its inexpensive and the gear is in pretty good condition. There's a website called Kids Consignment Sales.com and they could tell you where a local consignment sale is. There are a ton in my area
Congrats! Welcome to the board!
My boys are 13.5 months apart, and I'm not going to lie, it is hard. Well, let me rephrase that, it was really hard for me. There have been others that say they love the age difference, but they must have a lot more patience than me.
However, they are going to grow up always having each other around. They are going to love one another to pieces. They are going to make your heart just melt over and over again. You will survive, and a lot of the time, you will even have fun.
Try to make time for each child individually. Go do fun things with your oldest and spend some quality one-on-one snuggle time with your youngest.
Things will work themselves out financially. Think outside the box for ideas if you have to. I was able to move my position to part-time, and I would stay home with the boys all day, then when DH got home from work, I would go downstairs and do my work. It was tough working an alternating schedule like that, but we were able to both be with them in the early years and save an enormous amount on daycare. Now that they are older, they are both in preschool 3 full days per week, and I have picked up a few more hours again, which is working out perfectly.
My boys are 2 and 3 now, and I can hardly believe it. The last few years seemed to go so slow at times, but now looking back, I am wondering where the time went!
You're going to have moments like these to look forward to ...
Good Luck with your pregnancy! I wish you all the best!
Logan David 03.27.08
Jacob Riley 05.18.09
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I don't have much advice to offer as DD2 isn't here yet, but I'm sure you'll be just fine. Many families have survived throughout the years with 2u2. It will be difficult at times, but it will be 100% worth it.