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NTTC related- INLAWS grrrrr

ForTheLoveOf PinkForTheLoveOf Pink member
in TTC after 35

I'm already on the ledge today with the poor IUI and no job...blah blah. I get this e-mail this morning from the BIL asking when everyone in the family is taking vacation so we can coordinate their visit......seriously buddy...the last thing I want to do on MY vacation is travel around my city with youze fools on my hip.....long weekend visits are fine but spending our entire vacation....we love going places on our own..together time!! Maybe just being a Bee. I have resisted firing off a snarky email!

 

TTC since 2009 very frustrated 42yr and DH 40

5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
Fibroid removal Nov2010
IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty

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Re: NTTC related- INLAWS grrrrr

  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City
    I know how you feel.  My BIL does the same thing.  He is the self proclaimed family coordinator.  He has only been married to DH's sister for a few years while I have been around for 16.  I made a rule that DH has to deal with his family and I will deal with mine.  It makes less stress.  I also find counting helps (you can find me in my in-laws bathroom 1-2-3-4).
    BFP on IVF #2 6/29/2012. Beta #1 7/3 = 522; Beta #2 = 1180; Beta #3 = 6491 image BabyFruit Ticker
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    Yeah, I'm right there with you. I told DH under no circumstances was I vacationing with his family.  If I fail IVF, we talked about going to Ireland. He said "well we will have to take my parents". No f'ing way. If this is a cheer me up trip, we are going solo!  argh.   MIL/FIL are coming tomorrow to my house for the night. I'm annoyed already.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    UGH I can relate to that!  My MIL drives me crazy.  Dh and I are planning to go to Orlando, FL for some fun this summer and MIL says "Why don't you wait til we move there!"  (she and FIL are moving there soon)  Umm no.  In fact I think Orlando will no longer be on the list of vacation possiblities once they DO move there!  No way would I want to spend a vacation at their house.. I am not even sure being in a hotel in the same town would be far enough away..lol.
    Me: 40 Dh: 41, TTC since August 2009, began Acupuncture and Herbs Sept 2011, began Temping and Charting Nov 2011. image
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  • HeatherIconHeatherIcon member

    I needed these...I love reading that I am not the only who sometimes wishes my MIL would just STFU.

    For instance, she calls today to see how I'm doing, but was asking all about her son. I was like --he is fine! I'm the one who had the work done, apparently when he has to toss one off into the cup--it damages his psyche...get over it. I am getting four injections a day---you do something you love... ;) 

    So, I can concur and my MIL lives 5 mins away all year long....

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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    Omg I agree with Heather..I'm laughing out loud. I really needed this distraction..thanks!  DH's brother,sister.and parents live within 20 min of us. MIL is sooo negative about baby idea. Says I'm too old..lovely

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • ForTheLoveOf PinkForTheLoveOf Pink member
    yup don't get me started on the MIL.....geez...these are the parents that got all of the gifts for our wedding and the shower based on their son....you know normally things wedding related are home items and gadgets they choose everything that was guy related
    TTC since 2009 very frustrated 42yr and DH 40

    5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
    Fibroid removal Nov2010
    IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
    IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
    IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
    IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
    Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
    IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
    IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
    surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty

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  • boymamacoboymamaco member

    Loving this thread. I'm right there with you ladies. MIL is 100% bsc. Have to love her b/c she bore my husband but it stops there. I do my best to not get into a conversation with her and always keep it short.

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    See ladies, this is reason # 397 why I am happy to still be single.

    (nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah)

    Just kidding. Hang in there!

    Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey
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