First Month Trying

11bethellen

Hi everyone!  I've been lurking for a few days and this is my first post.  This is my first official month TTC and I'm in my 2WW and am going crazy.  I went off my BCP in February, got regular, started using OPT in April and pinpointed things so I was confident last week that the stars would align and I'd get KU.  Now the wait til AF is driving me crazy!  I can't stop thinking about it.  One minute I think for sure it worked and then the next I'm convinced it didn't.  I've always had a gut feeling that things in this department weren't going to be easy, though the dr says there's no reason for me to think that, but I'm not sure how to deal w/ this 2WW over and over if things don't work.  I know I need to distract myself somehow but wanted to say 'hi' to everyone and vent to people who understand

megemoney

Welcome and good luck.

If it turns out that this is not your cycle, the OPKs are great for timing sex around when you are supposed to ovulate!  But if you want to know for sure that you are in fact ovulating, charting your basal body temperature is the only way to know for sure.  Other than being monitored by a doctor and an ultra sound of course. 

If you are interested in charting, Fertility Friend is wonderful and it is free.  There are online tutorials on the site!  You can get there by clicking through any one of our tickers.  Mine is green in my signature.  But if you are not ready for charting just yet, that is ok too.  Most of us around here chart so you will see a lot of talk about that.  

11bethellen

Oh yeah... sorry I mistyped... I was using the OPK to track my ovulation   I was diagnosed w/ PCOS as a teenager so thought for sure I wouldn't ovulate at all but found w/ the kits that I was and at the same time each month so that was a sigh of relief.  Thanks for the charting tip! 

LM915

I also recommend charting, it will really help you understand what is going on with your body.  good luck!

megemoney

11bethellen:

Oh yeah... sorry I mistyped... I was using the OPK to track my ovulation   I was diagnosed w/ PCOS as a teenager so thought for sure I wouldn't ovulate at all but found w/ the kits that I was and at the same time each month so that was a sigh of relief.  Thanks for the charting tip! 

Just beware that it is possible for someone to get a +OPK and then not ovulate.  Our bodies can get ready to ovulate and give all the signs and then try, but fail.  It doesn't always happen like that, but it is possible.  That is why I like to chart.  I use the OPKs to see when I am supposed to ovulate and then I can see that I actually did when I see the temp shift.  

If you do end up starting a new cycle and you have questions about charting, feel free to PM me and I will do anything I can to help you.  Or, I can find someone that can!!  

11bethellen

Thanks a ton!

2dogmom

I would agree with PPs, if this cycle is not a success.  Temping will really show you when you O.  I get a couple rounds of +OPKs many months.  My body tries to O (+ test), but actually doesn't, and then will O (more + tests) a week later.  The only way I really know is watching my temps.  GL!

brachatzipora

I also agree with PP.  Temping combined with OPK has really helped me feel confident we're hitting the right window.  Good Luck and I hope your stay is S&S!

SandNSurf

Follow the advice of the ladies above and you'll be on the right track. Unfortunately, it doesn't happen quickly for everyone, so just enjoy TTC and good luck!

jujubee25

11bethellen:

This is my first official month TTC and I'm in my 2WW and am going crazy.

I'm in that same spot with you, so know that you have a friend sharing the same stress! I also recommend charting - I only started this month so I'm a newbie at it, but I'm loving the insight it gives me about my body.

As for the horribly long 2ww, I find myself having vague symptoms, so I keep talking myself both into, and out of, thinking I'm pregnant. I'm so tired! But I cut out coffee a couple weeks ago and maybe that's why. I have some cramps, but it might be my imagination. I think I'm driving my poor husband crazy. I need to learn to chill out, because it's entirely possible I have many 2wws in my future!

mpenzi77

Just wanted to tell you you sound just like me!  The TWW is torture!  I can't stop thinking about it and overanalyzing everything my body does.  Every month I convince myself I'm pregnant and then AF shows up right on time.  I don't chart or use OPK, but I usually get ovulation pains so I try to go by that, but if we continue to not have success then charting is probably a good idea!  Anyways I just wanted to say its not just you, this is just maddening...  What can we do but wait?  Anyways, maybe this is your month though!  I've been having unusual cramping too ever since 7 DPO and hope its a good sign.  GL!

llsoule79

Hi,

I'm 10 dpo in my 2WW... and yes, the 2WW symptoms... from every little ping/pang drives me crazy. Although, I think I am starting to manage them a little better... (my husband may tell you different.. lol).

This is only my second month temping and I highly recommmend it... My suspected ovulation date was a few days off.. and unless you can consistently BD EOD (that worked with DD) then those few days can make a BIG difference!! Temping also provides insight on your LP and to me, makes the whole 2WW more tolerable. At least now, I know when I ovulated and how we timed our BD. Not to mention, it's great data to have to provide to your DR in the event you have issues TTC!

Welcome & GL to you!

11bethellen

Someone on here used the words "phantom symptoms" a few days ago and I totally connected w/ that phrase.  I swore on only my 3rd dpo that my breasts were tender and that has continued but my friend who had her first baby in December laughed at me saying it's WAY too early for that so I've been second guessing myself.  My husband is VERY stressed at work right now so asked that I simply "sprinkle in the lovin'" and not tell him when it counts and just tell him when we've been successful.  At first, that was driving me crazy but now I think it might be better that I can't whine all day and night to him about my "symptoms."  Better just I get my hopes up and annoy myself than bring him down, too. 

cryssv

Hi and GL!!!!!,

 Although I haven't reached my 2WW just yet (I'm entering the peak of my BD phase) I wanted to come out of lurk-ville and say hi as this is also my very first month TTC and I'm very new to all of this info.

I've joined FF and reading the daily lessons as well as reading "What to expect before you're expecting" and I am learning so much about my body right now.

 

11bethellen

Today was my first time looking at FF and I too have been reading "What to Expect When Expecting" and I agree, I'm learning a lot!  I can't get over how easy it seems to be for people to get KU who aren't even trying!  Or how many teenaged girls look at a boy and get prego!  It's good to see there are other first timers out there who are already obsessing like I am   I'll send you good vibes and hope to see you KU and on the March 2012 board soon!