curious about multiple vs. single pregnancy and how you felt

klr210

Call me naive, but I am feeling like a wimp with this pregnancy and I just didn't expect it. I had some symptoms discomfort with DD, but with the twins it went from bad morning sickness into chronically being tired and now I feel like I get indigestion all the time, tired from very little, and sore and feel so delicate with my physical reaction to hot days. Is this just normal for being pregnant with twins? Because right now I just feel like a wimp and that I should suck it up a little bit more...right after this nap.

UsedToBeGoldie

while my whole twin pg was easier than my singleton (b/c with DS1 i had kidney stones, a stent put in, bedrest, high bp, etc)... as far as m/s and being tired- it was a LOT worse with the twins.

i hardly had any m/s with DS1... but with the twins I would wake in the middle of the night and need to eat teddy grahams so i didn't feel sick (never had that with DS1).... and i had to take naps a LOT - i remember falling asleep after waking up in the morning- while Dh would shower and i was waiting to get in the shower to get ready for work- i'd pass out watching the news.

remember- not only are you cooking 2 kids- you have one that you take care of already which makes most moms tired anyway - let alone one pg with twins

i wasn't that sick with either pg - but it was certainly worse with the twins.

atc282

I am having the opposite--didn't have a day of m/s when pg with DDs, had no real complaints really! This pg, I had m/s, I feel exhausted, and now I'm dealing with shooting leg pains on my left side that keep me up all hours.

I don't think what you're experiencing in a twin pg is abnormal though--I just think I had a rare "easy breezy" multiples pg. BUT--like you, it's also my 2nd pg, and just keeping up with my twin toddlers alone, I feel, has increased my m/s, my tiredness, etc. When I was pg with my girls, I could lay down and rest up since I had no other kids. Now, even if I felt green or tired beyond tears, I just had to push through, kwim?

Hope you are feeling better soon! Take every opportunity to rest, ask for help with DD, etc.--carrying multiples is hard work and carries more complications so don't feel bad if you need to put your feet up!! 

 

leviandlandensmom

I was exhausted the whole time when I was pg with the twins. My singleton pregnancies weren't that bad. I was definitely glad when I delivered the twins to have my body back to somewhat normal!

vlahop

I actually had more MS with my singleton pregnancy.  I was DEAD tired during my twin pregnancy though.  I have never felt so exhausted in my life - even when the twins were newborns :-)  The pains later in pregnancy were also a million times worse with twins.  You are not being a wimp, it is hard!

jennie13

besides horrendous morning sickness, my singleton pregnancy was pretty uneventful and I worked until the Friday before the weekend I went into labor.  

with the twins, I felt like I skipped the 2nd trimester altogether - I went from the throwing up and total exhaustion of the first tri to feeling like a whale who didn't want to move.    The twin pregnancy was so much harder, plus pregnancy in general is harder when you have another little one to take care of.  

hang in there.   

Torri106

This pregnancy is rough. My DS i was on bedrest for quite awhile and had some discomfort at the end but nothing like i feel now.

 First i had OHSS in the beginning and thought i was going to DIE it was so uncomfortable, then i had awful ms until 14 weeks, then sciatica so bad i had to go to PT. Now (at 30wks) my belly is SO HEAVY, my pelvis HURTS, i can barely walk by the end of the day. When i lay down my left side goes numb and i have super awful restless legs, my tailbone feels bruised so it hurts when i sit, it hurts when i stand. I pee 100x a day. But i figure its all par for the course. Im def tired but like PP said i have to push through it bc i have DS to care for. My H works 12+ hours a day too so its all me. Im counting the days until these babies are here happy, healthy and my tubes are tied! lol

Lithgirl

I feel exactly the same way you do! Singleton pregnancy was so easy - I never really felt big or tired. But with the twins (I'm almost 32 weeks now) your description is exactly how I feel.

klr210

Thanks --  I know all pregnancies are dif. but it's hard to know what is "normal" for a multiple pregnancy. I've only experienced a single one and all my friends are only having one, so it can make me feel like a wimp remembering all I used to and all my friend's are able to do now. My DH is actually very supportive and not judgemental of my napping (or moodswings thankfully) -- I think the pressure I feel is from me. Any thoughts or tips on how to help keeping semi-active throughout? I'm afraid of bedrest!

TIA! 

 

ougrad1

I don't want to discourage you but, my fatigue started right about where you are in your pregnancy.  In between 28 and 30 weeks my H was coming home from a full days work and cooking dinner and doing laundry.  30+ weeks was virtually impossible for me.

With Emerson I worked up until the day I delivered her.

Multiples pregnancies are whole different ballgame. It's so important for you take it easy and listen to your body.  Stop when you need to stop.  Things can be done later.  Your job is to cook those babies as long as you possibly can.

I would also suggest getting your son in a mother's day out a couple of days a week to give you some time to just be.

The good news:  The end result is beyond amazing! 

RiverSong0527

Well. I feel better about myself and my situation after reading this! You are NOT alone. I am just a few weeks ahead of you and in the last week or so, I've been feeling so dead tired, so achey, and having such a hard time keeping up with my 3 year old. While he makes it hard to rest, I definitely believe this pregnancy is much harder than my singletone one - I agree with PP that I feel like I skipped that "honeymoon" second trimester phase and went right into third trimester, with so much hip and pelvis pain. I also feel winded a lot, which I never felt with DS. I was really active before this pregnancy, and what I've been doing to keep semi-active is just a 15-20 minute walk with the dog at least once a day. But some days it's the last thing I want to do. Thanks for posting this! You are in no way "wimpy"... think about the incredible work our bodies are doing to keep these two babies growing.

 

Sharra711

Exactly what everyone else said! I worked in the yard and helped build a retaining wall while pregnant with DD. I went to Vegas for a weekend @ 8m in June. Twins are twice the wear and tear on your body.

My RLP is killing me, and I go numb when laying on one side, and get contractions rolling over, and pee all night long ::sigh:: it's tough after having a singleton, you feel like "I already did this once before!" but now there's two in there and one on the outside to care for : )

I had severe M/S with both pregnancies, but with DD I felt good till abour 34weeks, and wasn't "done" till 37wks. I only had about 3 weeks of feeling good with these two... and I have a long way to go.

I no longer listen to people/friends that say "well, when so and so was pregnant, they did X,Y,Z" like they can compare, because I'm the only person I know IRL that had multiples. I just listen to my body, if I can't lift that, or move that, or pick that up, or need a nap, or whatever it is... I let it ride. I don't want to push it and end up in PTL or needing bedrest, because with a 2yr old... that's tough.

123pcb

Ditto to all the above.

 The symptoms that I got when pregnant with dd were blown up during this twin pregnancy. It feels like I have spent most of this pregnancy (from about 18 weeks on) in the last month of my singleton pregnancy. The backaches, exhaustion and and inability to do much just stretch out much, much longer.

 

togagirl

I too had worse morning sickness with my singleton but once that was over it was like not even being pregnant compared to the twins.  I was so tired and swollen with the twins and had none of that with the singleton.   It's tough...good luck and get some rest!

oct92004bride

I agree having a singleton pregnancy was cake compared to this!  I'm more tired, grumpy, was sick, and feel huge already!