cries when she does not get her way

nancyanderik

DD will cry and sometimes throw a tantrum as soon as she does not get her way. Sometimes if I start with any answer other than "Ok" or "Yes" (even if I am going to allow her to do/get something) she cries. What do you do when/if your DC does this?

franciscaz

If it is in a safe place (like our home) I just let have at it.  If we are in public I warn him we will be taking a time out in the car and there will be consequences at home like losing a favorite toy for a day.  The harder we are on him the less he has been throwing tantrums like this.  

We also work really hard on setting expectations.  Like today we went to Target and we told him we are not buying any toys.  He can pick one thing out at the dollar spot.  He can visit the Mator toy that he really likes but he can not buy him until he earns stars on his chart.  This has also helped a lot.

Also when possible I always try to give him choices and options.  I talked about this on my blog last night about him wanting something when I needed him to eat lunch.  On things we can negotiate on we do.

mabma80

I ask them to go to their room because I don't want to hear their crying.  It discourages them and they stop. 

Or, I let them finish and we totally ignore them. Most of the time they will stop cause they aren't getting the attention they want.   

Pesky

I tell her she clearly needs some time to be alone, that sometimes we all feel like that and need to get it out of our system and ask her to go to her room until she feels a little better and then we can continue our conversation.  If she starts whining and crying about my "no" answer after I've given it, I say "oh my!  I didn't realize X makes you so upset so if not having it this once makes you that upset, I probably shouldn't give it to you in the future so you can be happier."  Usually results in an immediate 180.  Because she knows I mean it.

skittles_123

At home, I just send dd to her room to calm down. Anywhere else, we just ignore her. They do it for attention, so if you don't give it to them, they stop.