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achase123

danlexi04:

Wow. Really? Why feel sorry for the woman? Well because she was put in a really shiity situation. You don't know why she is staying and/ or leaving. And to be honest you're only getting one side of the story and I'm sure it's a different story from what the wife's would be. Would I stay? No. But you can't fault the woman for trying to patch up her marriage. I think it's pretty sad you don't feel any sympathy for her.

So, let me get this straight.  I should feel sympathy for a woman who chooses to stay with her husband who has cheated on her (granted, this was just one side of the story from the OP but I'm going with the fact that she now knows that her husband committed adultrey)?  So, given that the story is true, she is choosing to patch up a marriage where her husband has cheated on her with at least one woman that she knows of.  And not only has he committed adultrey and broken their vows but created a child as a result of this union. 

 Buuuuuuttt I am a complete moron because when I was pregnant my husband began using meth and cheated on me, and the very day that I confirmed this behavior I left?

Explain, please.

susanc07

MH had a low-level felony from before we were togther for something stupid (non-violent and non-drug related).  He did his time, and when we met had a steady job, etc.  We were married almost 4 years before we got PG.

Glad to know that once someone has committed a felony, they are a POS for life.  I'll make sure to send notices out to all the felons I've worked with in the past who are now trying to turn their lives around.  Maybe we should just castrate them all after their time in jail - however brief?

You're an idiot.

achase123

lurkylulu:

AshleyMichelle06:

I think the felon part was addressed to me...EX is a felon, and yes, I knew it before DD was conceived.

I was addressing ALL of the women on here who decided to have a baby with a known felon, not one person specifically.

So what is the difference between someone who chooses to stay with a man who has committed adultrey and created a child from the union, versus someone who knowingly has a baby with a felon?

Basically you're saying that we should have known better (I assume I'm lumped in this category because you're obviously an avid reader of my blog and have followed my story).  I agree with you there.  My question is, why are you eagerly defending the wife of the man LJF had an affair with?  And expecting US to feel sorry for HER? 

I am having trouble following your line of thinking here.

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achase123

beccaga16:

Actually, I think that IS the point of her blog... to help other who have been there and to encourage others not to make those mistakes...

Exactly.  And if it helps someone's teenage daughter to not ignore red flags and be with a manipulative man then great.  I honestly wish I'd known more at a young age or had something to compare my situation to. 

Lurky-I'm glad the SP board is making your day go by more quickly as you wrote on BOTB.  Can't help but wonder though just why you get such satisfaction from stating the obvious.

-the entire point of much of what I write in my blog is that I ignored red flags

-I was stupid for thinking that I could change someone, or an "idiot" as you put it

-I should have ran the other way when XH told me about his past

What else am I missing since you seem to SO enjoy flogging the dead horse?

achase123

lurkylulu:

achase123:

beccaga16:

Actually, I think that IS the point of her blog... to help other who have been there and to encourage others not to make those mistakes...

Exactly.  And if it helps someone's teenage daughter to not ignore red flags and be with a manipulative man then great.  I honestly wish I'd known more at a young age or had something to compare my situation to. 

Lurky-I'm glad the SP board is making your day go by more quickly as you wrote on BOTB.  Can't help but wonder though just why you get such satisfaction from stating the obvious.

-the entire point of much of what I write in my blog is that I ignored red flags

-I was stupid for thinking that I could change someone, or an "idiot" as you put it

-I should have ran the other way when XH told me about his past

What else am I missing since you seem to SO enjoy flogging the dead horse?

You could start dating again and jump into another relationship!!!

Done!  Oops, I'm not in another relationship yet...darn.

danlexi04

achase123:

danlexi04:

Wow. Really? Why feel sorry for the woman? Well because she was put in a really shiity situation. You don't know why she is staying and/ or leaving. And to be honest you're only getting one side of the story and I'm sure it's a different story from what the wife's would be. Would I stay? No. But you can't fault the woman for trying to patch up her marriage. I think it's pretty sad you don't feel any sympathy for her.

So, let me get this straight.  I should feel sympathy for a woman who chooses to stay with her husband who has cheated on her (granted, this was just one side of the story from the OP but I'm going with the fact that she now knows that her husband committed adultrey)?  So, given that the story is true, she is choosing to patch up a marriage where her husband has cheated on her with at least one woman that she knows of.  And not only has he committed adultrey and broken their vows but created a child as a result of this union. 

 Buuuuuuttt I am a complete moron because when I was pregnant my husband began using meth and cheated on me, and the very day that I confirmed this behavior I left?

Explain, please.

Don't put words in my mouth. I never said YOU were a moron. I have sympathy for your situation. People change in a relationship, sometimes for the better and sometimes for worse. It's hard not to get caught up, I get that. I can't say 100% I would make the right choices either, in your situation. But I still don't feel bad for the OP. I think the man should support this baby financially, absolutely. But her posts come off as whining that her situation is difficult and not going as planned. Well, what did she expect? And yes, I feel terrible for the wife for being thrown into a position she didn't ask for, just like you didnt ask for your H to cheat a become a drug addict. You chose to turn a blind eye and eventually leave, maybe this woman is still turning a blind eye? You more then most, should understand that and feel some type of compassion.

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julia0402:

lurkylulu:

I don't know your backstory, so I'll withhold judgement but there are a lot of fvcking trainwrecks on here.

That's "Dr. fvcking trainwreck" to you.  TIA

 

This is the best post in this entire thread.  Tell her, teefs!   

achase123

danlexi04:

 Don't put words in my mouth. I never said YOU were a moron. I have sympathy for your situation. People change in a relationship, sometimes for the better and sometimes for worse. It's hard not to get caught up, I get that. I can't say 100% I would make the right choices either, in your situation. But I still don't feel bad for the OP. I think the man should support this baby financially, absolutely. But her posts come off as whining that her situation is difficult and not going as planned. Well, what did she expect? And yes, I feel terrible for the wife for being thrown into a position she didn't ask for, just like you didnt ask for your H to cheat a become a drug addict. You chose to turn a blind eye and eventually leave, maybe this woman is still turning a blind eye? You more then most, should understand that and feel some type of compassion.

That's true.  There is really no telling what lengths the husband has gone to in order to make her stay.  These men have perfected the art of lying and manipulation and they are good at what they do.  And I do understand turning a blind eye because I know I did for a long time, until I was ready to leave and really had no other options given everything that I found out.  Stay and have zero respect for myself or leave with a shred of dignity.

I have anger for myself just as much for as I do for him for not doing it sooner.