From a post on WM, does your SO take off work when you're sick?

mandymack

Andrewsgal:

This post makes me sad. Yes he would and has when I had food poisoning, I could not even move so he took care of the kids. Doesn't everyone get vacation or sick days? Hell DH has stayed home before just to be home and spend some time with us if he had to work extra hours the week before. Also I will never understand those who say that their DH staying home would be more work because he basically can't take care of the kids by himself, do you not ever leave your kids with your DH? A Dad should be able to take care of his children!

I was pretty shocked by the replies in this post as well. 

Not the ones who make the choice not to ask their DHs to stay home because they don't feel they should and/or they feel it's just part of their job as SAHM to suck it up and work while ill (I completely respect that position!) but the ones who's DH's job doesn't allow for sick days or just can't accommodate his taking sick leave. 

My DH's job has always been extremely family-friendly and flexible, even in the throws of wrapping a film when he's working 70+ hours a week and his sick days, even for spouses & children are unlimited. When I'm ill, I don't even have to ask my DH: he doesn't wake me and stays home to care for us all.  I am so thankful and appreciative because I don't have a MIL nearby or a daytime babysitter that could help me out.  And I'm certainly not SuperMom who can just push through (I really feel like wimp next to all of you!).   

DH has been home because I was ill probably 10 times in the past 5 years.

rab41380

DH has taken off when I have been sick to take care of DD.  I think it is only cause I am pregnant and having the stomach flu while 6 mos pregnant I really needed to rest.  Otherwise, I would have sucked it up.

mulrooney

He most certainly can, will, & has taken time off when I am so sick or injured that I cannot function. He knows that I would not ask if it were not truly necessary but he always offers & does it without complaint. He usually ends up working from home a bit & his boss is very flexible but that is what PTO is for. 

Seriously - he flexes his time to come home early to mow the lawn or go golfing. He can stay home when I have the stomach flu or a migraine. I'm a SAHM, not a martyr. 

HarrietNJMommy

TobeMrs.Shavers:

Andrewsgal:

This post makes me sad. Yes he would and has when I had food poisoning, I could not even move so he took care of the kids. Doesn't everyone get vacation or sick days? Hell DH has stayed home before just to be home and spend some time with us if he had to work extra hours the week before. Also I will never understand those who say that their DH staying home would be more work because he basically can't take care of the kids by himself, do you not ever leave your kids with your DH? A Dad should be able to take care of his children!

I was pretty shocked by the replies in this post as well. 

Not the ones who make the choice not to ask their DHs to stay home because they don't feel they should and/or they feel it's just part of their job as SAHM to suck it up and work while ill (I completely respect that position!) but the ones who's DH's job doesn't allow for sick days or just can't accommodate his taking sick leave. 

I feel the same way. I was shocked by the responses too. 

Temp174496125006552

When I was still working, I worked 4 days/week and was off on Mondays.  One Monday morning, I woke up with the flu, was throwing up everywhere, had chills and felt like I got hit by a truck.  Ben was about a year old and running all over the place and into everything.  There was no way I could have taken care of him feeling like that.  DH had 3 meetings that day, 2 of which he absolutely couldn't miss.  So, my mom came in the morning and stayed until Ben went down for his nap and then she had to go to work.  DH was able to leave early, so I wound up only having to watch Ben (with a little from Jordan, who had gotten home from school) for 90 minutes or so until DH got home.

This past winter, I got the flu again and felt like I was going to die.  DH called out that day and did some work from home while Ben napped.  By the time 4:00pm rolled around, I was feeling semi-human.  Since Ben had the flu earlier that week, I wasn't worried about giving it to him, so I had him sit on the couch with me to read books while DH got some more work done.

Rink08

No. I manage on my own although I have had my mom, younger sister, or grandma take DS1 to the park for a little bit when they were free. 

almostjennifer

I was one of those who said my DD doesn't take off for me being sick. 

Yes, he does get sick days and yes, I completely trust him to take care of the kids/house; BUT the man doesn't even take off when he is sick and if he does take off he will end up doing extra hours the next day or having to work over the weekend.

Basically, he is in one of those jobs where he gets days off, but pays for it when he uses them.  Sad but true.

GoldenPeaches

I'm a lurker here (STB SAHM) but no, my DH does not get sick days. Unless he is sick enough to be in the hospital, he cannot stay home and even then he needs permission.

ryry1977

For most things no.  But Cedic and I did get the stomac flu at the same time a few months ago and DH took 1.5 days off to help.  I didn't ask him to, he just did it.  It was great!  I slept the whole time:)  I so didn't have the energy to take care of a whiney sick DS at the time, but of course would of done so.