Things can change for the better.

blondnearby

I know most of you probably don't know my "story" but in short, I filed for divorce in August of 2007 and am still not divorced yet.  There was physical and emotional abuse and he cheated on me with a 16 year old girl (they have 10 months DS together).  Up until a few weeks ago, stbx had not seen our DDs since Feb 2010. Since he has been back around I have noticed some significant changes with his attitude towards me.  He would normally fight me tooth and nail regarding visitation just because he could.  We went to mediation last week and he agreed with exactly what I wanted.  The mediator (we usually have the same guy) even noticed the difference and stated something about it.  He has also been at my house more often than not.  Also, when we got back from mediation his FI (the same girl mentioned above) started b!tching and yelling at him.  Today he dropped our DDs off and I noticed that he was really upset so I asked him if he was okay and if our DDs were good.  In short, he said that sh!t basically has hit the fan for him.  He also mentioned that taking care of the one kid is hard and he has no idea how I managed to take care of our DDs by myself basically for the last 4 years.  He also mentioned that if he would have known how hard taking care of a child he wouldn't of had any.  However, he is stepping up to the plate  and doing well right now.  We are getting along better then we have in YEARS.  From a couple conversations, I am fairly certain that he feels that perhaps I wasn't such a horrible person when we were married and that he actually had a great thing with me.  So my point?  Things may be bad but there is a possibility that things could turn around and surprise you.  I would have NEVER thought we would be at this place in our relationship. (BTW there is no chance in hell that I would ever get back with him)

Mrs.Keith2B

I'm glad to hear that things are getting better and the relationship is in a good place between the two of you. Let's hope he keeps it up for the sake of the girls!

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achase123

SOOOOOO glad you added the last line E!

I am really glad that he's finally, finally seeing the light.  You are a wonderful person and mother and it's high time he finally figured that out!

KR1505

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Lord knows my XH didn't express any remorse for knocking up a 17 year old highschool girl while we were married.  But my best friend has had many ex-boyfriends say, months or years after the breakup, "I really messed up a good thing", "I'm sorry I treated you so badly", etc.  I think someone must be beating them with a good conscious stick. 

Men act like there's only one evil nagging harpie on the planet, and we're it.  Then they're surprised when the next girl does the same stuff.  It's like duh, we expect you to want to see your kid(s), we expect you to not stay out all night drinking with your buddies, etc. 

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