How long did you wait to go back to the RE?

cara-n-steve

DH and I know we want to have more kids but we're trying to figure out how long we should wait to go to the RE again.  It took 2 years to get pregnant with our boys.  I didn't go back on the pill after I had them because we're kind of going with the "what ever happens, happens" approach right now.  I don't have high hopes for a surprise BFP, but it's worth a shot.

cara-n-steve

I'll be 33 this year and DH will be 35 so I'm thinking we don't want to wait to long?

may5706bride

We went back in March for a May cycle, so right around C's two year birthday.....he is a handful...we had planned on going a bit sooner but I got scared that I couldn't handle it.....DH and I are both 33 and planning on waiting 2 more years for the third try...

browneyedgrl4282

Twins were born 11/1/08 and I had my consult for number 3 on 1/6/09. I cycled that March and Brady was born 37 weeks later!

PecanSam

We are only pregnant with our first one but since I will be 39 when this baby is born we are going to start trying as soon as possible so we will go back to the RE as soon as he will allow us.

gringa78

We went back when DD was 6 months old.  We had to ship our embies and save up the $ for an OOP FET, or else we would have done another ET as soon as I was healed from my postpartum surgery (at about 4 months).  We also hoped for a surprise BFP, but we haven't had any luck with that.   We're in our mid-thirties too and want another baby so bad.  We have no idea how long it will take us, so we figured we'd get an early start.

firsttogo

We went back when Nolan was 5 months. We had success by his first b-day.

armywife76

We went back when DS was 6 months, just for a consult. We tried 5 timed cycles with bfn's and are about to begin IFV#2 in May.

AvaLikeLava

Are you asking how long people TTC on their own for #2 before going back into treatment, or just how long they waited b/w kids?

We went back to the RE as soon as we were ready for #2. We didn't try the "ole' fashioned" way. Since we were MFI for the most part, and had frosties to use, there was nothing that would've improved our situation over time.

One thing to note is that if you have a c/s, OBs and midwives will recommend that you wait longer b/w pregnancies to minimize risk of uterine rupture. I think general recommendation was 2 years between births, if i remember correctly? Check with your doc regardless.

browneyedgrl4282

AvaLikeLava:

One thing to note is that if you have a c/s, OBs and midwives will recommend that you wait longer b/w pregnancies to minimize risk of uterine rupture. I think general recommendation was 2 years between births, if i remember correctly? Check with your doc regardless.

 

This was not the case for me. I went back 1/09 and I had the twins 11/1/08 via c/s the RE only wanted me to wait until Feb so I had 2 periods before cycling and it was more than 8 weeks after c/s. Brady was born 11/23/09

howleyshell

My diagnosis was sucky ovaries AND I wasn't a spring chicken.

The RE told me:

#1:  My IVF shouldn't have worked and he was stunned we even had DS #1.

#2:  Wean early (6 months) and hurry back for IVF again if we wanted a 2nd child but don't get our hopes up.

I planned to wean at 6 months but just couldn't do it.

I was ready by 7/8 months so I weaned but DH really wanted to "try on our own" for 6 months.  I eye rolled him but agreed.

We were beyond stunned with an unmedicated BFP my first ovulation post-weaning.

GL to you!

And if you don't have male factor or missing ovaries or tubes don't be so sure it can't happen without meds.

My RE said we'd be the last people in the world to ever conceive without help. 

howleyshell

AvaLikeLava:

One thing to note is that if you have a c/s, OBs and midwives will recommend that you wait longer b/w pregnancies to minimize risk of uterine rupture. I think general recommendation was 2 years between births, if i remember correctly? Check with your doc regardless.

I agree that you should check with your doc about this.

My OB cleared me to TTC at 6 months and told me he certainly wouldn't be upset if I was pregnant before that (knowing our IF struggles).

I was also offered VBAC with 17 months between deliveries.

The latest study data is showing that the risk of uterine rupture isn't what it was once thought to be. 

dana316

We started trying, on our own, when Caroline was three months old.  We planned to head back for treatments when I weaned her at 12 months.

I couldn't wean her at 12 months, so I started dieting and trying to lose my baby weight...and we decided that I needed to nurse her as long as I wanted to.

Shockingly, we got pregnant on our own, and I ended up weaning her at 14.5 months.

My OB really didn't want me to try until she was 12 months old, but he's not the boss of me, lol.

 

naflmj

I went back when DS was a year and had weaned himself. 

ladychicago

We knew we wanted our kids close together, but I also didn't want to wean super early. (RE wanted a full AF cycle between your last BFing session and treatment). We went back to the RE for a consult when DD was 7 months old, and cycled for the first time when DD was 10 months old. I got AF just 3 months PP, so we were "trying" I suppose for a couple of months there, but we never expected it to happen on it's own. So far, our first IVF seems to have worked, much to our surprise. Fingers crossed.

queenbone

I never saw an RE the first time; I had endo and fibroids removed. I got my first pp AF when I introduced solid foods at 6 months.  He weaned himself at 9 months. We started ttc when he was 1 yr.  I went back to my OB at 8 months ttc and didn't meet with the RE until 17 months ttc.

For #3  I'll go back to the RE when DS2 is ~18 months.  I'll be 36 then and if successful right away I'll be 37 when I deliver.

togo

We have a consult on monday for #3. I'm hoping to cycle in July or August, but we'll see what she says. We have some frosties that we will plan on using. If they don't work, we will most likely been done. I don't have the time for all the monitoring appts with the twins in tow.

A few twin moms I'm friends with said if they could do it over again, they would space it out so that the baby is born after when their twins were closer to three.  

Mrs.LisaP

I went back when she was 13 months. We did all the testing again and I am doing my first treatment cycle now, and she is 16 months!

LVBlvd

We tried on our own with my first PP AF.  We went back to the RE after no success when DD was 9 months old.  We did a fresh cycle when she was 11 months, BFP with twins by her first birthday!

Sharra711

When DD was about a year old we went back for consultations. I had to quit nursing first and then I wanted my body to stop lactating before we did any Tx. It took us 2 cycles, then a break, then back to our original RE and we got pregnant when DD was 18m old.

They will be 27m apart and we were shooting for 2 years. We wanted them close and then DONE so we went back quickly.

GenRN45

Our master plan is to cycle again when Anna is one. We're stockpiling breastmilk so I can stop pumping a few months before that. My RE wants two periods before cycling again following lactation. We're both 35 and with my DOR and the MFI, Chances on our own are slim to none.

LakeGenevaBride

I plan on having a consult with RE this summer.  I don't think I would cycle again until the end of the year.  I turned 34 this week so I kind of want to cycle before I turn 35.  But I also want to be able to be a good mom to my twins, kwim?