You can stop now, thanks.

karantony47

I am so sick of having to deal with people and their negative opinions! I don't understand why people think that they can tell you what to do or how to do it! Uh! This is my first pregnancy and I love the help that I've been given thus far, don't get me wrong, but I also don't want to feel enabled. I know I am almost 34 weeks pregnant and I know the baby's room is not done yet, but it's going to get there. My MIL is freaking out because we don't have our baby room done yet, and she's insisting to come over and help get the house ready, but I don't want her help. I want my husband and I to do our baby's room together ALONE. I just want her to drop it and let it go! We don't need your help, thanks but no thanks. Ok, I'm done... Thanks for letting me vent!

cvl105

Sounds like she just wants to help you. If you don't want her help, just tell her that you and your DH want to accomplish it yourselves.

Pookie's_Girl

Sorry to hear you MIL is stressing you out. Maybe it would help to let her know where you were at in the nursery? And to let her know what you plan to do in there and when. So that way she at least knows you're going to get it done.

Turtle143

cvl105:

Sounds like she just wants to help you. If you don't want her help, just tell her that you and your DH want to accomplish it yourselves.

This. 

calgal1683

I don't think my her wanting to help is a negative opinion. I would love it if someone offered to help get the nursery finished. Have you let her know that you want to get the room ready just the 2 of you? If not, maybe you should, maybe she will stop offering her help.

amybrewster

She probably does just want to help but I understand how it can feel invasive. Its probably good to be honest with her and explain this before the baby comes because she will only want to help more when baby arrives.

My in-laws can be like this too and it does get overbearing sometimes. Especially when they stop by without calling first and it always happens to be at the worst times.

karantony47

cvl105:

Sounds like she just wants to help you. If you don't want her help, just tell her that you and your DH want to accomplish it yourselves.

We did this. She just got so offended when we said we didn't need the help right now, which is what made me upset. I didn't see any reason for her to take offense. Thanks for your feedback.