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greengirl0909

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking a bit and posted a couple of times, but I thought I'd say hi.  I'm Chris, pregnant with my second LO, due in December.  I'll be 35 in July and my doctor has expressed big concerns about my age, although many of my friends try to tell me he's not up to date in this area and that I shouldn't worry so much! Hoping to learn a lot and be able to lend some support to others!

HisEarth

Congrats! 

35 is young(er) compared to a few of us here .. I'm 41, pg with my second after a 19 year hiatus!

junebugrbig

Congrats!  And I too am 41 and preg with my 2nd.  Many women 35 and older have babies and without complications.  Not as big a deal as some people make it to be!

jgray6651

Hello!  Glad you joined us.  I'm 37 and have had little complications (except the GD, which I think has more to do with my history than my age).  The docs have been very encouraging to me with this pregnancy.  Welcome!

mcwhittaker

guppysown@yahoo.com:

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking a bit and posted a couple of times, but I thought I'd say hi.  I'm Chris, pregnant with my second LO, due in December.  I'll be 35 in July and my doctor has expressed big concerns about my age, although many of my friends try to tell me he's not up to date in this area and that I shouldn't worry so much! Hoping to learn a lot and be able to lend some support to others!

I give the side eye to any doctor that "expresses big concerns" about being 35 and pregnant.

I give an even bigger side eye to one that "won't support a pregnancy at 37".

 IMHO, find a better doctor.

Your doctor sounds like the same kind of ignorant doctor that would tell a woman 30 lbs overweight that she shouldn't get pregnant due to her size.

It's not like you're 50 or 60 years old... If your body wasn't meant to reproduce at 35, it wouldn't. But women don't go into menopause till they're 55? so what does that tell you? 

greysmommy

Welcome!!  I'm 39 & pregnant with my (surprise) 4th!  My doctor's group was quite the opposite of yours.  I went in sobbing because I wasn't planning to have another baby and they assured me that I was in no way too old.  The nurse went on and on about the number of patients that are pregnant after age 35.  I think it is actually becoming almost a popular choice (in some areas).  No need to worry!  You will get lots of support ( & very little judgement) on this board.

Hope you have a happy & healthy 9 months!!

Huahine

I get the impression that most of my OB group's patients are 35+  ---  Urban practice, lots of patients who have delayed childbearing for professional reasons.  The only concession to my age has been that when I was having trouble conceiving, she referred me to the fertility specialist after only a few months of trying.  Now I'm 36 and pregnant and my age is just not an issue. 

While ttc I read two books about pregnancy after 35.  One was very calming and reassuring.  The other was not.  I put down the negative book and never looked back. 

You'll be fine.  And if your doctor gives you any grief, find a new one.

LauraLynneC

ditto everyone else on the "find a new doctor" - I'd be peeved at that kind of attitude...

But welcome - we're a fun bunch here!! 

jb2rn

mcwhittaker:

guppysown@yahoo.com:

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking a bit and posted a couple of times, but I thought I'd say hi.  I'm Chris, pregnant with my second LO, due in December.  I'll be 35 in July and my doctor has expressed big concerns about my age, although many of my friends try to tell me he's not up to date in this area and that I shouldn't worry so much! Hoping to learn a lot and be able to lend some support to others!

I give the side eye to any doctor that "expresses big concerns" about being 35 and pregnant.

I give an even bigger side eye to one that "won't support a pregnancy at 37".

 IMHO, find a better doctor.

this. My OB didn't think I was unusual at all...I had to ask for the NT scan, even. He didn't seem concerned since I am healthy otherwise.

Congrats on your pregnancy, and find a new doctor.

kimb311

mcwhittaker:

guppysown@yahoo.com:

Hi ladies!

I've been lurking a bit and posted a couple of times, but I thought I'd say hi.  I'm Chris, pregnant with my second LO, due in December.  I'll be 35 in July and my doctor has expressed big concerns about my age, although many of my friends try to tell me he's not up to date in this area and that I shouldn't worry so much! Hoping to learn a lot and be able to lend some support to others!

I give the side eye to any doctor that "expresses big concerns" about being 35 and pregnant.

I give an even bigger side eye to one that "won't support a pregnancy at 37".

 IMHO, find a better doctor.

Your doctor sounds like the same kind of ignorant doctor that would tell a woman 30 lbs overweight that she shouldn't get pregnant due to her size.

It's not like you're 50 or 60 years old... If your body wasn't meant to reproduce at 35, it wouldn't. But women don't go into menopause till they're 55? so what does that tell you? 

McWhittaker, I love you! I just said the same thing in the other thread! LOL

Peppernut

Congratulations, and welcome!  I'm 43, my doctor hasn't indicated in any way that it's something t worry about, and my pregnancy so far has been easy-peasy.

clipingirl

Hello and welcome! I'm 38 and expecting #3. I went to a hormone doc last year who, upon reviewing my hormones, told me that I'm in the 'very early early stages of menopause' and that I should start bio-identical replacement immediately. At that time, DH and I weren't sure if we wanted another baby yet. He told me, "Well that would be a poor decision due to your maternal age." Blah blah blah. It stuck with me for a few months and then I was like, "FORGET THAT!" I have 3 friends who ALL had babies at age 35, 40 and 41 respectively. So we are totally in the right place with these sweet 'pending' babes! I hope you have a fabulous 9 months and can't wait to hear updates!