Do you find yourself feeling sad for/wanting to advise Moms who just blindly accept the RCS mumbo-jumbo their providers are feeding them? A few times in the past weeks, I've been around Moms who are scheduling their RCS without even a thought to a VBAC. I've never really been the type to butt into someone's medical life, because I'm not a doctor and it's really not my place. Well except for here on the Bump, where everyone is an expert : -)
What do you do in these situations? Suggest a VBAC? Let it go?
Re: VBAC Pusher
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
ITA.
Plus you have to remember... not all women have horrible c/s experience (my heart goes out to those who have)
I for one had an amazing c/s experience... I totally owe that to my amazing OB. But I would have no problem getting a RCS... my OB is the one who is pushing for the VBAC. I am actually worried my VBAC (if I have one) won't be as good as an experience.. I'm terrified of pushing, tearing, etc.
I'm with you on this one. With my LO, my water broke and I was in labor for 10 hours and ended up having to have a CS because his heart rate was dipping. I had an AMAZING CS experience, but would like to try VBAC with the next one, but if I can't I would be happy with a RCS. After my LO was born and I found out that he was nearly 9 lbs (8 lbs 15 oz to be exact), I was actually thankful I didn't have to push him out because he probably would have done more damage that way.
I try to stay out of it if a woman says "I'm not a candidate for VBAC" or "my doctor doesn't do VBAC" or "I'm not interested in VBAC."
However if I see a post on TB that contains misinformation about VBAC in general, not someone's specific situation, I will say something about that. Or if someone says "I really want a VBAC but my doctor doesn't do them," I might encourage them to look into other options.
I definitely don't want to push my visions of childbirth onto other women, just like I wouldn't want someone pushing RCS on me. What's right for me isn't always going to be right for them.
Yeah, I don't say anything. It's really not any of my business. If they bring up that they want a VBAC, but for some reason are having troubles finding support or a provider... then yeah, I might say something. Or, like Iris said, if someone has some misinformation, I might correct them.
But if someone is talking about birth choices and say they want a RCS, it's not my place to judge. Like pp said, some people had good c/s experiences. And on the other hand, some people might have had bad c/s experiences... which could mean they want to be able to plan for another c/s to avoid having to have one in an emergency situation or so they can control the situation better.
There are a lot of reasons that people choose certain options for their birth experience. I have a hard time stepping in and trying to change minds when it comes to something so personal.
Unless I am asked about my birthing expiriences, I keep my mouth shut. I see it as being that person who tells me(or any other vbac-er) that my uterus is going to rupture or a rcs is healthier for me and baby...ect...except the opposite, ya know?
I do get asked a lot though...my first birth is epic in our circle of aquaintances/friends/family because my mom loves to talk about it. I use those times to be a vbac pusher, lol.
I wouldn't say that I am a VBAC pusher, but I would say I am an information pusher. If the topic comes up I am quick to quote stats and correct misinformation.
I do believe that it is a very personal and individual decision, but that that decision should be based on information and research, not just because your mom/neighborh/OB/whoever said it is better for you to get a RCS.