seriously just had a crying meltdown--

SAHM4EVA

So this is kinda NBR, but DD's bday is next weekend, and with me being 36 weeks at that point we didn't want anything huge, well we asked DH's parents if we could use their house since it is bigger for her party like a month ago, they said it was fine, I called tonight to ask if we could do the party at noon instead of 5 next saturday because of my grandma's funeral the very next day (oh yea BTW my week has just been great my grandmother passed away 2 days ago)  well they then proceded to tell me they forgot about her birthday THEIR OWN GRANDDAUGHTER!! and they would be out of town and the quote "why are you even having a party for her it's not like it's her first or anything" I didnt even know what to say. I just handed the phone to DH and have been crying the past hour.  I think my hormones are taking over, but I am still sad we no longer have anthing planned for my daughters birthday.

Callidryas

Sorry for you loss.  Cannot believe they forgot they were hosting GD birthday party!  Gah! Hope you can pull something together, she would probably be just as happy at the play ground with a cake and a few friends running around.  Take advantage of the simplicity that her age allows!  They will only get more complicated from here on out.

SAHM4EVA

Callidryas:

Sorry for you loss.  Cannot believe they forgot they were hosting GD birthday party!  Gah! Hope you can pull something together, she would probably be just as happy at the play ground with a cake and a few friends running around.  Take advantage of the simplicity that her age allows!  They will only get more complicated from here on out.

yeah totally, we have a really big family unfortunatly, but DH is just telling everyone it is cancelled because of the funeral luckily my parents WHO ACTUALLY CARE are taking DH, DD and I out to dinner on her actual bday which is the 18th and then to toys R us to pick out a couple of toys.

theaustins05

Why don't you reschedule it for the next week or something? Or if she is in school/daycare ask her teachers if you can bring cupcakes in for the class. My mom did this for me when I was little.

SAHM4EVA

theaustins05:

Why don't you reschedule it for the next week or something? Or if she is in school/daycare ask her teachers if you can bring cupcakes in for the class. My mom did this for me when I was little.

she isn't and that weekend after is easter weekend and we will be too busy both days, I think I am just going to have a small family gathering on Monday her actual bday in the evening and just have cupcakes.

theaustins05

SAHM4EVA:

she isn't and that weekend after is easter weekend and we will be too busy both days, I think I am just going to have a small family gathering on Monday her actual bday in the evening and just have cupcakes.

Well there is no reason to cry and worry over this. I know your hormonal because of baby, but DD isn't going to hate you for the rest of her life because she didn't have a super duper fancy pants 2nd birthday.

The point is that you spend the day with family and she knows she is loved. Make a birthday cake, wrap her presents and grab a camera. That's all you need.

Take a bubble bath and let all your worries go! Also it it makes you feel better, don't invite Grandma to LO's 1st birthday, she probably won't remember what the date is anyways.

SAHM4EVA

theaustins05:

SAHM4EVA:

she isn't and that weekend after is easter weekend and we will be too busy both days, I think I am just going to have a small family gathering on Monday her actual bday in the evening and just have cupcakes.

Well there is no reason to cry and worry over this. I know your hormonal because of baby, but DD isn't going to hate you for the rest of her life because she didn't have a super duper fancy pants 2nd birthday.

The point is that you spend the day with family and she knows she is loved. Make a birthday cake, wrap her presents and grab a camera. That's all you need.

Take a bubble bath and let all your worries go! Also it it makes you feel better, don't invite Grandma to LO's 1st birthday, she probably won't remember what the date is anyways.

Thanks! that makes me feel better. I mostly was just crying because of what my FIL said to me on the phone, it just hurts becuase today was my nephews bday and they managed to remember his but not my daughters.

NJMom050911

I would cry too, how rude! Why wouldn't they allow you to have the party there without them ? They don't trust the house with their son and his family? Odd. I hope you still do a little something so you have pictures of her 2nd Bday. I think that's important, she won't remember that she didn't have a big party.

theaustins05

kathygrzywnowicz:

I would cry too, how rude! Why wouldn't they allow you to have the party there without them ? They don't trust the house with their son and his family? Odd. I hope you still do a little something so you have pictures of her 2nd Bday. I think that's important, she won't remember that she didn't have a big party.

I was thinking this too.

And it is BS that they remembered one of their grandchild's birthday but not the other.

Maybe they are getting too old and need to go into a home? 

 

EJensify

I'm so sorry for your loss. ((hugs)) MIL died on SS's birthday this year, it was miserable and hard to deal with his party at all, so I understand that side of it, too.

I say throw the party at a park without them. I'm sorry they're being like that.