Am I crazy for wanting another one already?

cara-n-steve

I know my LO's are only 5 weeks old but I already want another one!  I really LOVE being a mom!  I'm trying to figure out if I just miss being pregnant.  Did anyone else feel this way so early on?  DH isn't against having more children, he just wants to wait a year or so. The RE wants us to wait at least 6 months.  I'm just trying to figure out if it's hormones, a strong desire for more children, or just missing being PG.  Please tell me I'm not the only one who felt this way 5 weeks pp.

LakeGenevaBride

Yes, you are crazy .  I'm glad you love being a mom at this stage in the game.  At 5 weeks I was wondering how I would survive.   At my 8 week post partum appt I basically said there was no way I would ever have more kids.  My doctor said I would change my mind.... He was right.  I'm probably going back to the RE by the end of this year  

OrangeSmoke

I was ready for another one the minute I got home.  I had baby fever SOOOO bad.

I still do, but the burning desire isn't as bad as it was before.  I think going thru all those treatments also scared me, feel like I need to start ASAP if I ever wanted another baby.

I would LOVE ME a surprise BFP, but if that doesn't work, I'm doing on FET in Aug.

babya2010

cara-n-steve:

I know my LO's are only 5 weeks old but I already want another one!  I really LOVE being a mom!  I'm trying to figure out if I just miss being pregnant.  Did anyone else feel this way so early on?  DH isn't against having more children, he just wants to wait a year or so. The RE wants us to wait at least 6 months.  I'm just trying to figure out if it's hormones, a strong desire for more children, or just missing being PG.  Please tell me I'm not the only one who felt this way 5 weeks pp.

Good gracious no. Not even at 9 months do I have the slightest little inkling of wanting another. Maybe in 5 years. I'll admit in the beginning I did miss being pregnant. My pregnancy was very smooth sailing aside from terrible m/s in the first couple months. I think now my fear is that we'll have another set of (spontaneous) twins. I don't think I could handle it at this point in my life, but maybe in 5 years. The funny thing is I've been saying 5 years since the day they were born and they're getting close to a year old now. I am still saying 5 years, it hasn't dropped down to 4. LOL

robinsokj

Yes, you're crazy. 

I am still undecided right now as to whether or not I want another, but I do know that with the constant fighting and temper tantrums the last thing i want is to throw a newborn in the mix.

2shihtzus

I don't think you're crazy but props to you for thinking that way at 5 weeks!  From about 27 weeks pregnant until my boys were about oh, I don't know, 9 months or so, I was like, there is no way I am ever doing this again!

But as things got easier, I did start thinking that I didn't know if I wanted to be done.  When people ask us if we are going to have another, we always answer that we are undecided but my husband actually just came to me last night and said "I think I've decided that I definitely do want to have another" and I agree with him.  My boys turned 1 this weekend and we both realized that we don't want this to be the only time we experience all of this, we are not ready to only do all of this once and that's it for us.  We are planning on waiting awhile (a minimum of 2 years from now although I might be leaning towards 3 years from now) but I do think I want another.  If it wasn't for the possibility of having twins again, I might consider having another sooner than that but I am a fraternal twin so I think I need to be prepared financially etc. in case we do have twins again....::shudders:::.

atc282

I don't think you're crazy.

Yes, there are bound to be times that you'll say "I'm crazy--what am I thinking of having another?!" as the LOs get bigger and you go through various stages (at least that's how it was for me)--but my baby itch never really went totally away (hence, my siggy).

 

 

veronicacorningstone

I really, really wanted another one about two months ago, when the boys were 4 months.   In fact, we did the deed and I didn't even realize it was optimum baby making time and I secretly hoped we would get a miracle bfp.  I didn't.  And now I am so very thankful!   In no way do I want another child anytime soon.  Ideally, I would like to do an FET when the boys are two.

sail123

I feel the same way but I'm scared because my pregnancy was full of complications. 

JakesBride07

If u are crazy then I am insane. Yes mine aren't even home yet but I want another so bad. I think in my case it has a lot to do with feeling like I missed out on my ideal pregnancy and birth experience. And we always wanted at least three. While we won't pursue the RE for atleast a year a surprise BFP would be welcomed.

Ask me this again once they are home, I might feel different.

MrsLnt

Dear lord, yes.  At 5 weeks, you're still in the honeymoon period.  Give it a few months, get past the 4 month wakeful/sleep regression and then revisit it. 

CrazeyJaneyR

Ye, you are. : )

blondek8

Yup. Certifiable!   You couldn't pay me to have another baby. No way, no how. We are 1000% done. Although I did actually like being pregnant -- well up until 32+ weeks when I could barely move and was miserable. I think it's great though, that you're enjoying your role and you would like another baby. All the more power to ya!

monkski

Definitely crazy! I still don't know if I want another. I didn't enjoy being pregnant and am so ready to move onto the next stage. As much as I cherish every day and every stage of their little lives, I don't know if I could do it all again. Maybe I cherish it even more so because it might be the only time! It's sad to think of in some ways, but I can't imagine doing the first three months again.

schoolsoutbride

Yup, certifiable!   I'm too tired to even think about it. 

nikinikinine

I felt/feel the same way and (you know) I hated being pregnant

joliemariée

absolutely felt the same way, even while PG! I love being a mom so much and hope I will have another some day.

MoMandA

I think wanting more, even at 5 weeks pp, and missing being pregnant is totally normal. TTC before your LOs are 6 months old is crazy.

Carmela752

I was like you. I was so sad to not be pregnant anymore, even though it was a rough 35 weeks! I couldn't stop thinking about the next one. I'm still a little like that, but it did fade a bit after my hormones leveled out. I also had pretty nasty PPD, and I think that was part of it too.

JosiePosy

I honestly had a feeling that I wanted to get pregnant again early on after the girls were born, but I think it was because I was bitter over how awful my pregnancy/delivery was. I think part of me felt like I was owed an uncomplicated pregnancy I could actually enjoy with no NICU time. I was also dealing with some PPD issues though.

Now that I've calmed down and regrouped, I definitely do not want another right now! But I'm open to the idea later on in a few years.  Right now I just want to relish in the time I have with my current babies.

chickaboo1974

Well I won't call you crazy, but mmm definately something I never felt/wanted.

DH and I are DONE.  I had a pretty easy pregnancy until my BP started being a problem at 31 weeks.  Then it went sky high so my boys were delivered early and spent over 2 weeks in the NICU.  I don't want to repeat that experience.  Plus DH and I always said we would be lucky to have one child- and well we were double lucky and got two.

However, I do have to admit I miss feeling my guys move inside me.

pawstech09

nikinikinine:

I felt/feel the same way and (you know) I hated being pregnant

This exactly!! I had an awful pregnancy, every symptom in the book and debilitating SPD, but I miss feeling them move around and always having them with me... I also miss how little they were as newborns even though I'm loving every day that they change and grow and do new things. I'll probably start pestering my husband after they turn a year old if I haven't changed my mind by then (kind of hoping I will change my mind in a way...) I guess I hope I'd get pregnant with a singleton so I could know what it's like to be pregnant with just one baby, and then have just one baby to take care of (even though I'd have two toddlers as well, I'm in a dream world with this thought lol

But, to get pregnant now would be certifiably crazy!!

pawstech09

nikinikinine:

I felt/feel the same way and (you know) I hated being pregnant

This exactly!! I had an awful pregnancy, every symptom in the book and debilitating SPD, but I miss feeling them move around and always having them with me... I also miss how little they were as newborns even though I'm loving every day that they change and grow and do new things. I'll probably start pestering my husband after they turn a year old if I haven't changed my mind by then (kind of hoping I will change my mind in a way...) I guess I hope I'd get pregnant with a singleton so I could know what it's like to be pregnant with just one baby, and then have just one baby to take care of (even though I'd have two toddlers as well, I'm in a dream world with this thought lol

But, to get pregnant now would be certifiably crazy!!

pawstech09

Sorry about the double post, it won't let me delete one of them...

juliannat

Yup, you're nuts! See how you feel after a few more months of no sleep

We are done for sure, like it or not - my health was too endangered at the end of my pg so even if I were to get pg again, it would be unfair to my LOs. But I never wanted more than 2 anyway and always thought I'd end up with just 1, so we're 100% happy with 2. Nevermind that I prefer not to be outnumbered!

browneyedgrl4282

no you are not! I knew right away I wanted another one so as soon I was "allowed" to cycle again for IVF I was! Twins were born 11/1/08 and I was back at the RE for consult 1/6/09 and began my process shortly after and started a cycling on 3/5/09 and Brady was born 37 weeks later!

kafunder

At 5 weeks, I felt the same way. DH and I couldn't wait to have more babies. Now though, I'm on the fence. Months 4-6 really changed my outlook on having nore babies because they were pure hell, and I've heard a lot of MoMs say the same thing about that time period. I don't think I want to go through that again anytime soon. Also. my OB said he didn't want to see me back in his office pregnant again for at least a year--he said that's how long it takes for your body to recover from a twin pregnancy.

Stina4242

This is SO me.  I know I miss being pregnant AND love being a mom!

amanda31H

Yes, you are nuts!  At five weeks I swore I wasn't going to have anymore children and began to plan a month long vacation that we could take when they graduated high school!!

Now I am slowly starting to get ready again- but it's scary to think about many many days!

efhoping2010

No you are not crazy, well maybe a little that early   But I felt and still feel the same way as you do even now with them at 11 months.  We are talking about maybe planning our FET in the next year or so, but honestly once they wean I want to go back to the RE but that might not be until they are 2, we shall see