Advice Please r/t Whining.

pharmernicole

It only happens with me.

But I'm a newly minted SAHM (long story) and I am  thinking I'm going to lose my mind already.

DD is 15 months old. She whines constantly at my feet if I am standing up doing anything in the kitchen (dishes, preparing dinner, writing a grocery list). She's not coordinated enough nor tall enough to stand on her stool next to me and refuses to sit in her highchair and watch. She wants "up" and wants to be held. Her nap schedule is not dependable for me to try and get these things done entirely while she is napping.

How do you handle the whining? I did teach her to say "up" when she would like to be picked up so I try to honor that request when she says it, but often it's just a straight whine. DH thinks my "ignore it so she doesn't think it works" tactic doesn't work because she continues to whine. He prefers to yell "STOP!" which works for approximately three seconds , but makes him feel better (ha!) 

Sorry for the long post.. just looking for outside advice on how other people handle same situation.. TIA! 

Tabby2727

You could ignore, which didn't work for us, she just got worse.  You can wear her. Get an Ergo and either strap her to your front or back. But since your pregnant you probably won't want to do that when your 9 months along. 

My babysitter has 3 older children (29-33) and 2 younger ones that she adopted (6 & 2).  She said if you want them to listen and their doing something bad or you want to break them of it, put them in the corner.  You only have to do it for a minute per age (1 year - 1 min; 2 years old 2 minutes; 3 years old 3 minutes; etc).  It only took a handful of times but it worked for us (they do it on that super nanny show all the time too). I'm sure I'm going to get flamed for the advise but you don't have to listen if you don't want to.

lmjt

I tell DS that mommy doesn't understand whining, please tell me with words. If he tells me what he wants, I give it to him. If he whines, I don't. It works often enough that I don't go insane.

Tabby2727

I just take Hannah by the hand and tell her stand there and when she's done she can come out.  She stops crying about 3-5 seconds later, takes a couple of deep breaths (I tell her to) and the walks over to me.  I don't make her stand there for a full minute, only until she's done.  Some people do.  You can do a chair too if she doesn't stay, but I haven't had to.  Her first timeout wasn't until 18 months I would say (hitting her cousin).  I don't put her in it often, but she knows what it means.

12bailey18

Brandi Bee:

Isla is starting this up.

I am usually successful redirecting her attention to (shame on me) Dora or her activity table or her foam letters.  If I'm not sometimes I just take a break, pick her up, and go play with her for a bit and then she's fine for another hour or so once she gets a little mom time.

It's frustrating!

This usually works for us too. If it doesn't, than I just take a break from cooking or whatever and give him some attention for a few minutes and then go back to what I was doing and he's usually fine for a little bit longer.